How can parents turn their children s external motivation for learning into internal motivation?

First, we need to briefly explain the external and internal motivations.

Examples of external motivations, such as parents saying that they will buy you something if they do well or what punishment they will give if they don't do well, are all external motivations, and the child does not really want to do well in the test, just to get a reward or escape punishment; Internal motivation is that children have their own reasons in their hearts to want to do well in the exam, such as the desire for knowledge, the sense of accomplishment of doing well, and their own outlook on life.

Values: goal-oriented.

The easiest way is to find a suitable time to lead the child (note that it is leading, not all given by the parents) to analyze the impact of learning and exams on the present and future, so that he realizes that this is his own business, and then gives his own plans and plans.

Strengthen children's positive choices, what if children jump out of the choices given by their parents and choose to play with their mobile phones instead of doing homework? This is where a new concept comes in: emphasizing that the consequences of an act affect the likelihood that the behavior will occur next time.

In other words, parents need to reinforce their children's positive choices and give moderate positive feedback to enhance their children's motivation. When I was in elementary school, some teachers would use a small red flower as a reward, and the teacher would cover a small red flower on the textbook for a good student. There is a little safflower statistics list in the class, and everyone competes with each other in the hope that they will get the most little safflowers.

Little safflower is one kind of reinforcement, and there are 3 types of reinforcements:

Social reinforcements: refers to verbal praise, physical hugs, facial encouragement, etc.

Primary reinforcement: Refers to material or activity enhancements, such as cookies, candy, favorite toys or games.

Secondary enhancements: Refers to token-based enhancements, such as saffron, points, honorary titles, etc.

In homeschooling, reinforcements can also be taken to increase the child's internal motivation.

However, parents should pay attention to the fact that the use of primary reinforcements as little as possible is high cost, and secondly, it is easy for children to have the wrong idea that learning is to exchange for snacks and toys, otherwise it is likely to become a bargaining chip for children, which will not only fail to help children, but also make children develop bad habits. The concept of self-efficacy was coined by the famous social psychologist Albert Bandura, which defines the degree of confidence that people can use their skills to accomplish a certain work behavior.

When a child does something positive, praise the child from the heart, make eye contact with the child, and let the child feel the joy of the parents, such differences convey trust, interest and seriousness in the interactor.

Interested in your own spontaneous likes can achieve internal mobility.

Coercive will only be repulsive.

Think of yourself as a child and empathize.

It may be understood from a different angle.

Cognition is not the same.

Parents educate their children about learning problems to be transformed by external motivation and internal motivation, in fact, such a process is still relatively long.

Parents should play a good guiding role, first of all, parents are the first teachers, and they should play the role of role models.

Think about yourself first what is the reason for studying hard, and do a good job of your own concepts to show your children to be a good example

In order to develop study habits, parents must know the reasons why their children do not like to study.

Grasping the reasons for children's resistance to learning and helping children solve these problems is what parents need to do, and family education is the best choice. Family education first needs to have "interest" and "motivation".

The main reason why children generally don't like learning is that they have no interest, and if they don't have interest, they have no motivation to learn, and they lack enthusiasm for learning; In this way, even if the child is forced to learn, there will be no progress. Four processes from extrinsic motivation to intrinsic motivation:1

It is mandatory for children to learn.

2.If your child doesn't want to learn, you can let your child do it little by little.

3. Help children feel the purpose and joy of learning.

4.From the beginning of the mind, I like to learn and accept learning.

First, we need to briefly explain the external and internal motivations.

Examples of external motivations, such as parents saying that they will buy you something if they do well or what punishment they will give if they don't do well, are all external motivations, and the child does not really want to do well in the test, just to get a reward or escape punishment; Internal motivation is that children have their own reasons for wanting to do well in the exam, such as the desire for knowledge, the sense of accomplishment of doing well, and their own outlook on life, values, and goal-oriented.

The easiest way is to find a suitable time to lead the child (note that it is leading, not all given by the parents) to analyze the impact of learning and exams on the present and future, so that he realizes that this is his own business, and then gives his own plans and plans.

Hello, I think the external motivation of a child to learn is mainly reward, and when he learns well, you can reward him with something.

What motivates your child to learn? Compared with "other people's children", or to get higher grades, or to go to a recognized good school or major?

If these are the motivations for supporting children, unfortunately, there is a reason why children are not motivated, these motivations are external motivations, which will only make the phenomenon of "involution" more serious, because children are working hard for the "best" that everyone agrees on, not for their own preferences.

This is the reason why children can't be in a hurry to do anything, because these things are required by their parents and are someone else's business.

1. Set small goals reasonably according to the child's own situation. Many parents like to set goals for their children, but their goals are too ethereal, unrealistic, originally the child's grades are countdown, you directly ask him to take the first place in the class, this is impossible to achieve, so parents in the child to set goals, must let them be able to see, touch, a little effort, you can easily achieve, and after they have completed such a small goal, parents can appropriately increase the difficulty, so that they can slowly progress, must not be ambitious.

2. Appropriate rewards and punishments. There is an old Chinese saying, called "slap to a sweet date", this sentence is also applicable to children's education, parents set goals for children, can not be less reward and punishment system, when children achieve a goal, give them appropriate rewards, motivate their enthusiasm, if they fail to reach the goal, lack of hands to let them accept punishment, but this punishment can not be corporal punishment, can reduce their entertainment time, or let them do some housework.

3. Parents should always encourage their children. In the eyes of the ancients, only by strictly controlling children can they remember their friendship for a long time, but in today's society, they pay attention to quality education, and parents' encouragement can have a better effect than scolding. Therefore, when children lack interest in learning, parents may try to encourage them, and children will be more motivated to move forward under the encouragement of parents.

To sum up, stimulating children's intrinsic learning motivation is not something that can be completed overnight, which needs to penetrate into daily life, requiring parents and children to cooperate in many aspects, but more importantly, to stimulate children's interest in learning, so that children can truly recognize themselves, see their own ability and value, and truly experience the benefits of learning, so that children will be more active in learning.

In order to establish intrinsic motivation, it is more important to help the child establish an intrinsic desire mechanism, so that the child understands that learning itself can meet his inner needs. In the book, the theories of two psychologists, Desi and Lane, are mentioned that there are three important intrinsic needs for cultivating children's intrinsic motivation, namely autonomy needs, competency needs and satisfaction needs.

The first need for autonomy is to provide more space for the child to make his own choices when he is faced with challenges, which is actually to give the child a sense of control. In this way, Ranchang smiled and let him know that what he did was his own choice, and the efforts he put in were all driven by his heart, not to get external rewards and praises. If parents have done a good job of "letting children make their own decisions", then there will be no problem in meeting their children's independent needs.

The second competency requirement is to help children build confidence to take on challenges. This kind of confidence is not really the ability to do things well, but a feeling of thinking that you can handle things well. When parents help their children meet these needs, they do not complete some tasks for their children to make them less challenging, but help them build up an awareness of their own abilities.

For example, although your child's grades are not particularly good, you can still express your recognition of his efforts and be proud of him.

The third need is to make children feel cared for and loved. We may all have had the experience that when we were in school, we liked a certain course, not because of how attractive the content of the course was, but because the teacher of the course cared about us. Because I like this teacher, I am willing to put more effort into the course of Xun Ke.

In the same way, when your child can feel the unconditional love you pass on to him, he will tell himself that "my parents care about me, not how much I got on the test."

Introduction: If parents want to trigger their children's learning motivation, they must find a learning style that suits their children. Parents can buy some books that their children are interested in, accompany their children when they sleep with friends, and help their children develop a good reading habit.

Today, I would like to talk to you about how parents can trigger their children's motivation to learn.

If parents want to explain the truth to their children well, they must understand their children's inner thoughts and do not always treat them toughly. Parents should avoid conflicts with their children, always have conflicts with their children, children will also feel that parents do not consider their own ideas at all, no matter what parents do, if parents want children to learn well, they must play a good role in front of their children. Parents should set a suitable goal for their children to help them find their children's interest in learning, if there is no way to induce children's motivation to learn, children will be very lazy and unwilling to learn.

When the child is studying, parents should not watch TV next to the child, always watch TV next to the child, the child will not want to study, the child will feel that learning is a person's thing, do not leave this kind of thought to the child, leave this kind of thought to the child, the child will also be sad. Parents should use appropriate methods to educate their children, and children will become better and better.

Parents can encourage their children more, let their children find their children's goals, and their children will become better and better. Parents should treat their children in different ways, and if the child performs well, parents can give the child a small reward, telling the child that as long as he works hard, he will be rewarded. If the child is not affirmed by his parents when he is young, the child will be very sad, the child does not know what kind of things he can do, whether the parents love themselves or not, do not leave this kind of psychology to the child, leave this psychological pressure on the child, and the child will not be able to study well.

Tell your children that if they study hard at this time, they will have a good future in the future, and they will not let their parents often worry about gaining a foothold in society.

Tell your child that as long as he studies well, he will have a very good future, and he should have more benefits, so that he will like to learn in life.

To observe more, but also to communicate more, to help children find a learning style that is really suitable for children, we must encourage children more, guide children more.