Combined with Charlotte s Troubles , how can college students establish a correct view of love and

1. Treat love correctly.

Correctly handle the relationship between love, study, and career. Falling in love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. College students should focus on their studies because learning is the main purpose of college students.

Career is higher than love, advocating career-oriented, and it is not advisable to fall in love too early. But don't think that love is a stumbling block to your career, if handled well, love can also play a catalytic role in your career.

2. Cultivate the ability to love. Its ability to love includes the following:

1) The ability to greet love. If a person has love in his heart, he must dare to express it in the right way; If you are faced with other people's expressions of love, you must be able to make trade-offs and make a timely choice of acceptance or rejection. Able to withstand the psychological distress of courtship rejection or rejection of courtship.

2) The ability to refuse love. You should have the courage to refuse love that you are unwilling to accept or that you think is not worth accepting. There are two things to keep in mind when refusing:

1. If you don't want love to come, the tone of refusal must be decisive and resolute, and you can't tolerate the slightest indecision, otherwise it will cause greater harm to the other party.

Second, it is necessary to master the appropriate way. It is necessary to master the way and degree of speech. Although everyone has the right to refuse love, it is also necessary to achieve a minimum of respect for others.

3. Deal with love frustrations correctly.

1) Face the reality, the pain of falling out of love lies in the word "love", love is two-way, mutual, based on the love of both parties, losing either party, love will lose balance, love will be terminated. At this time, no matter how deeply the lovelorn partner loves the other party, it is unrealistic, and as a reasonable college student, you should face this reality.

2) Empathy, put yourself in the other person's shoes. Doing so will help you understand why the other person ended the relationship, and help you accept the painful reality of falling out of love and get out of it early.

Know yourself and have a plan for your future life.

1. If Charlotte's troubles are reversed, there is no mid-life crisis and a wife who is not very pleasing to the eye, only endless songs that can be written with endless money, and one day she will return to her who once regarded you as everything, and it may be better to wake up after lying down until her limbs are degenerate and upset. People just crave what they can't get. It is quite extravagant and utopian to say that we are all useless people in this world, but we are the most important people on the other side.

2. Charlotte's troubles may be, but the more important reason may be that he doesn't know that the greatest happiness in the world is not that you marry a beautiful wife, but that although your wife is as ordinary as a passerby, she is the person in the world who knows how to cherish you the most.

3. After reading Charlotte's troubles, I found that it was indeed like that, in the dead of night, I often wondered if everything would have been different if I had made another choice at the time of a key decision, but when I really had the opportunity to start again, I would still make the same choice! Because those illusory ideas are not as good as the happiness that is really grasping in your hands now, it is good to cherish everything you have now.

4. I watched Charlotte yesterday and was troubled, I think it would be great if you could see it earlier, you must watch it in the future, Charlotte's dream is like your life for more than a year, but sadly it is not your dream, he can wake up, but I can never wake you up again, the price we pay is too great. Crying a lot, how good it would be if life could be re-chosen.

5. After reading Charlotte's troubles, it seems that I looked at myself 3 or 5 years ago, and I didn't slip away much more than the protagonist. It wasn't until I met my sister-in-law that changed my life and turned it into a career. I always felt like I was dreaming, too. Let me recall first, have I ever fainted?