What do you do when you find that your parents expectations are not aligned with your wishes?

Updated on parenting 2024-02-09
19 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    A lot of the time, some of your parents' opinions and opinions will be imposed on you, because it is for your own good, so they may let you do it. Some parents may think about their children's thoughts, but most rarely think about it. If you can't live up to what they want, just calm down and talk to your parents, maybe your parents will understand your views and opinions, right, and communicate with your parents calmly.

    If it still doesn't work after the communication, then there is no way, you will work hard to overcome your difficulties and do your best to fulfill the dream that your parents wanted. In the end, I can only listen to the destiny of heaven and watch the personnel. Because you've worked so hard to do it, no one will blame you.

    What do you think.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    When you find that your parents' expectations are not in line with your own wishes, try to communicate with your parents. After all, parents have a lot of opinions worth learning and referring to, and they can't just go their own way. If you insist that your intentions are right, take practical actions to address your parents' concerns.

    Good luck.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    After all, a parent's expectation is an expectation, and they will change depending on the situation. As long as the child is open to communication and does not adopt an attitude of rejection, things will definitely turn in the most appropriate direction. You must believe in your parents, after all, your child's growth environment is given by your parents.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Compromise, if you can, satisfy your parents first, and then be your own, if your parents really don't want to do it, use all appropriate methods that don't hurt your parents' hearts to persuade them.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    If you really feel that the path you have chosen is easy to follow and have a firm belief, then use your sincerity to convince your family, after all, your family is also good to us!

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If you are a minor, then learn to compromise and learn to compromise, and if you are an adult, you can already decide to do what you think is right.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Suggest communication and use actions to convince parents Parents also want us to get better and better, and let parents see how you work hard and grow for your choices.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I will choose what my parents want and do what I want in my spare time.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    As a parent, take care of your children in every way, from childhood to adulthood, parents leave the best for their children, go out early and return late every day to make money hard, train you, do your best to let your children go to the best school, wear the best clothes and shoes, and give everything you have to your children. I am reluctant to eat, I am reluctant to wear, and I give my children the best life.

    Parents regard their children as their greatest wealth and the best treasure. I hope that my son will become a dragon, and I hope that my daughter will become a phoenix. Parents bring all the knowledge they have to guide you to grow up.

    I hope that you will be healthy all your life, the body is the capital of the revolution, we have a healthy body, so that we can have better energy to realize our dreams. Only by chasing a more perfect life can we better honor our parents. Give your children a better life.

    I hope that you will be honest and brave in your life, dare to face challenges, and people will have good and bad luck. No matter what difficulties you encounter, I hope you have the courage to challenge yourself and not back down. No one is perfect, no one is perfect, and in the face of his own mistakes, he dares to take responsibility.

    I hope you will have no worries about food and clothing for the rest of your life and live a happy and happy life. Everyone has their own life they want, but in today's society, many young people are reluctant to go out and work hard to get a certain amount of money, and use their mobile phones as their company all day long. I've been at home since graduation, and I've been stretching out my hands when I've been eating.

    One day, when their parents are old and step out of the house again, it is no longer the world they know. Learn to provide for yourself and your family.

    I hope you will be happy and have your wishes come true for the rest of your life. The society is developing rapidly, and the economic pressure is very high. There are always ups and downs in work and life, and you have to learn to face setbacks.

    Learn to regulate your emotions, learn to be happy in troubles, and move forward bravely. Learn to be grateful to the people who have supported you and helped you along the way.

    I hope that your life will be happy and happy, and your family will be harmonious. Home is the harbor of life, enjoy the warmth of love. The family can enjoy the family and get through the difficulties together.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    My parents' expectations were to be caring, considerate and loving for me. They are all thinking about our future. We should listen carefully to their advice.

    Efforts should be made to acquire scientific and cultural knowledge well so as to lay a good foundation for future work. Sometimes a parent's words may not be appropriate, but let's not take it seriously. After all, they are for our sake.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    As parents, we can not only create a certain learning environment and learning conditions for our children, but also provide them with learning and related guidance. Truly effective learning is the child's self-directed learning. I think that for a person, you can get this kind of motivation to learn independently, and this power is greater than all the pressure that the outside world gives you.

    What kind of student your teacher wants you to be, and what kind of student your parents want you to be, are not as direct as the power of what a child wants to become.

    If a child has specific goals, plans, and concrete visions for the future of his learning, I believe that his personal abilities will naturally flow through this spontaneous and powerful desire. At this time, children will also consciously seize the time to learn systematically.

    Of course, parents' expectations for their children should not be too high, too high will cause a certain amount of pressure on the child, and in particularly serious cases, too high expectations will hurt the child. I think we should start from the actual situation of the child, establish reasonable expectations for the child, and let the child understand that it is not too much for the parents to expect from him, so that he can understand what the specific expectations of the parents are for him.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    The friend has a long-distance relationship, and it has reached the point of talking about marriage, but her parents disagree and hope that she can find a local one. My parents and I talked about my future marriage and work direction, and they hoped that I could find a local one, not too far away, and if I was looking for a foreign person, they wouldn't come to see me.

    I thought that studying was to go further, but in the end I married in the local area and nested in this place for the rest of my life, so I don't understand what I studied for? After all, my wings are still bound in this shed.

    Maslow's hierarchy of needs says that the highest human need is self-actualization. The goal that your parents want you to achieve is to come back and find a stable job, not to be too far away, to suffer too much, and to marry a local. In the longer term, it will be convenient to meet in the future, and if you need help, you can also help, and they will support you when you encounter something.

    But what I hope is that I have read so many books, and I hope that he can take me higher and farther in the wind, not afraid of wind and rain, and worthy of it. I hope to be able to realize my self-worth on the basis of satisfying survival, not to waste my youth, and to live up to the hard work of my parents.

    Thinking about it from another perspective, Mom and Dad have begun to grow old, they have worked hard for most of their lives, and their hair has turned gray. I can understand their reluctance, eager to enjoy the joy of family, and their children are around their knees. Instead of facing the helplessness of the second child, guarding the old house alone, which is the mottled mark of our growth, we can only rely on memories to support, and rely on cold mobile phones to maintain short-term contact.

    In fact, the two are not in conflict. If your parents are still old, healthy, and accompanied by relatives and friends in life, then you can develop according to your own ideas and work hard with peace of mind. If your parents are old and in poor health, then you should not hesitate to go home to work, take care of your parents, and then seek development.

    The parents' wish is not big, but they want their children to care more, to accompany more, the invasion of illness is accompanied by children, there are problems in life that are dependent on children to solve, if you can't be perfectly satisfied, then between this balance, as much as possible to accompany and care.

    Returning to your hometown does not necessarily mean giving up poetry and distance, 360 lines, there is always a line that allows you to realize and give full play to your personal talents. There is always a road for you.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    As a parent, you should communicate and communicate with your child, and you should listen more to your child's inner thinking, respect and trust your child, believe in your child's choice, and let your child make her own decisions.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    When a child goes against the will of his parents, parents should not blindly stop him, but should think from the child's point of view and guide him correctly.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    As a parent, you should communicate carefully with your child to understand your child's real thoughts, and then discuss a more appropriate result.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Summary. Personally, I think that as the younger generation, we must have some aspirations and ideals in our hearts, with ideals we will continue to move towards the realization of the ideal wish on the road, in this process, we may have been trained in all aspects, for ourselves often the process is more important than the result, so whether we can achieve the wish or not, as long as we work hard, the harvest in the process is also a lot of wealth, which is a very valuable experience for our future life path, It will help us to develop and strive better, and as our parents' generation, they certainly have the right to give us high hopes, but they want to see you have a motivated heart, in fact, the result is not so important to them. Therefore, the younger generation must continue to strive to realize their aspirations and make themselves more useful to society.

    For some of our unreasonable desires, parents will.

    Dear, this is advice for you.

    Personally, I think that as the younger generation, we must have some aspirations and ideals in our hearts, with ideals we will continue to move towards the realization of the ideal wish on the road, in this process, we may have been trained in all aspects, for ourselves often the process is more important than the result, so whether we can achieve the wish or not, as long as we work hard, the harvest in the process is also a lot of wealth, which is a very valuable experience for our future life path, It will help us to develop and strive better, and as our parents' generation, they certainly have the right to give us high hopes, but they want to see you have a motivated heart, in fact, the result is not so important to them. Therefore, the younger generation must continue to strive to realize their aspirations and make themselves more useful to society.

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    Rely on yourself, not on your parents.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    What does it mean that all of a sudden, your parents have to ask for your opinion on what they are deciding?

    It means that your parents feel that they are old, you have grown up, and you have your own ideas, however, for me, who has not long been an adult, I don't feel that I have a lot of ability to rent and be able to support this family.

    But the truth is, you've grown up, and growing up in some ways means losing, countless losses. What you have lost is your carefree childhood, what you have lost is the youthful vigor of your parents, originally, you can always rely on them, but now you are their umbrella.

    There is a good saying, I have never spared the years, but who has spared the years and the troubled months? Now, all you can do is to keep making yourself stronger and so that your parents have a reliable shoulder.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Summary. When we think that we meet the requirements and expectations of our parents, in fact, we also hope that our parents can give us more affirmation and ****, and hope to get more love from our parents.

    Everyone has a different perception of themselves, and it is normal to have different thoughts, why do you have this kind of thought, do you still remember the specific reason?

    When we think that we meet the requirements and expectations of our parents, in fact, we also hope that our parents can give us more affirmation and ****, and hope to get more love and friction in the body of our parents.

    Why? What your parents expect most from you.

    For example, our parents will quarrel and say how well you did in today's exam, how do you have to do in the exam, then when we meet the requirements of Brother Zao, will our parents be happier.

    My parents' biggest hope for me is to be able to live a happy and happy life, and my hope for my own child is also to hope that he can be healthy and happy.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Summary. Hello dear: I have made unreasonable demands on my parents: I have asked to buy very expensive toys and expensive mobile phones under the condition that the family situation does not allow.

    Understand your parents' intentions for you, and think about what we would do if we were parents. Respect and tolerate parents, after all, parents are old, and it is normal for many thoughts to be different from ours.

    What are the unreasonable demands you have made to your parents, and what are you going to do in the future?

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    Hello dear: I have made unreasonable demands on my parents: I have asked to buy very expensive toys and expensive mobile phones under the condition that the family situation does not allow.

    Understand your parents' intentions for you, and think about what we would do if we were parents. Respect and tolerate parents, after all, parents are old, and it is normal for many thoughts to be different from ours. Thank you for your consultation, I hope this service can help you, you can click on my avatar to follow me, and if you have any questions in the future, please consult me again, and finally wish you a happy life! <>

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