I don t really want a divorce, but what should I do?

6. Coffee interpretation.

From pregnancy to kindergarten, the time is a huge challenge for all families, especially stay-at-home mothers.

At this time, if there is a good nanny, or if there are elders who can help, it can greatly reduce the pressure on the young couple.

Between husband and wife, the wife should be able to choose some appropriate ways to relieve stress, such as TV series, songs, movies, etc.

Husbands should adjust their habits in time, give up most of their leisure and entertainment time, be fully aware of their responsibilities as fathers, and spend more time with their wives and children after work.

The most important point: don't let your wife give up her job.

As much as possible, let the wife work until the week before the birth, take normal leave, and recover as soon as possible after the maternity leave, and then start working. This period is about 4 months.

Some people may say: our family is not short of this money.

Dear, it's not about money.

Work is an opportunity to learn and progress; Because there is a team, you will have a sense of belonging and not be alone;

Work will lead you to grow and help you realize your personal value;

Work will allow couples to communicate better, because each other can feel the difficulties of work and the difficulty of life, and there will be no chatting like playing the piano to a cow.

Women who have finished their maternity leave, hurry up and go to work. Men should also encourage them to go, otherwise there will be times when you will be in pain.

When men hear their wives say they want a divorce a few times before, don't take it seriously, she's just venting; But pay attention to it, adjust it, if you don't give her a better outlet for it, say it a few times, and it may become true.

Maybe you will say that I am a passive escapist and escapist person, then I will not care. I only think that the world has changed vicissitudes, and people live for a lifetime, but the grass grows on the grave. Life is in the world, but the white horse has passed by, there is no need to care, follow yourself, follow your heart, and live this short and long life.

Everyone is born with the imprint of red dust, whether you are a wise sage with great wisdom and foolishness, or an unknown ordinary person, you cannot escape the shackles that the world gives you. People are born to die from the moment they are born, but some people get up early every day to prove that they have been in this world, and work hard non-stop, while some people choose to live a life of chaos and do nothing. But no matter whether it is long-lived or obscure, it will eventually turn into a pile of white bones and disappear without a trace in the passage of time.

Shine on the galaxy, the stars are dotted, one more is not too much, and one less is not too little. Of course, no matter how dazzling the stars are, they can't escape the ...... of crossing the sad sky one day with fleeting beauty

Happiness is the most important, don't care about face, afraid that others will say that they will reluctantly be with him, two people are together to be mutual, care for each other and take care of each other, no one owes anyone, if you don't recognize him, and say not to change him, then leave, now divorce is not a shameful thing, now the national average divorce rate is one-third. Of course, if it doesn't get to the point of divorce, you still have to fight for it.

There is a saying: Marriage is like shoes, only you know whether the shoes are suitable or not, so I will not advise you.

What I want to say to you is, has your marriage really come to an end with no return, and have you figured out what you want most? If the answer is yes, you have the right to choose your own life!

Unhappy marriages are shameful, and sometimes divorce is really an effective way to improve the quality of marriage. Children will not grow up healthily in such an environment. My neighbor's house often heard the sound of two people scolding, crying, and colliding objects in the middle of the night.

What I couldn't stand the most was the child's crying: "Mom and Dad, don't hit ......."Stop it! "I can't imagine how long that fragile and young heart can endure ......

If the marriage really can't be sustained, give the child a proper placement and tell the child that Mom and Dad are not in love with him anymore, but that they are not good together, it is very painful, and even if they are separated, no matter who the child lives with, the other party will always be his father or mother.

Think carefully about whether your marriage has reached the point of no return! Bless you!

When you are in love and when you get married, it is not the same when you are in love, you have a heart that every man has, your husband is like this now, it means that there is no more worthy of what he thinks he should do, maybe your parents have prepared everything for you, you have nothing worth fighting for, and there is nothing to worry about the future, a man needs to mature slowly, he must have no big bad problems now, you say that he doesn't care about anything, then you let him take care of some things, don't do anything by yourself and think that you can do it yourself, Of course he is happy to do this, give him some difficulties appropriately, let him do it, you don't care.

I think you should have a good talk with your husband, you should be so dependent on each other now that you forget each other's needs. Generally persuade and not dissuade, don't blame others for the fault, you also have it, your husband's current laziness may also be caused by you, look back on the road you have walked, if the love is still there, work hard for each other. If it's just to make ends meet, then you can consider something else.

But after reading the very contradictory title you wrote, I feel that you still love him. You don't have children yet? Let's talk about it and plan for the future.

You should calm down a little, marriage is not child's play, you can leave if you want to, and you can register if you want to get married. It doesn't sound like he's a big problem, talk to him more, talk to him about your grievances, try not to quarrel, it's very hurtful, and then help him change his thinking, find a job he likes, keep him busy, if it doesn't work, don't rush to have a child first, if it's really to the point where you're happy when you're separated from each other, won't the child become a victim. In addition, don't expect older people to be considerate, but also to see if the person is loving and understands feelings.

If he tries his best to help you when you are in trouble, don't ask too much if he loves you, for example: you can consider changing his computer configuration, so that it will not affect your use. Maybe it will save you a lot of trouble.

Don't wash his socks if they're dirty, so that he can find out that he won't be in trouble, and he may be considerate of your hard work. I feel sorry for you.

Do you feel happy like this? Didn't you get together in the beginning?

For happiness ! Since you are with him despite your family's opposition, is it for your happiness, now you feel that you are unhappy, you really don't know how to talk about it in the past 4 years, sad! But it's too late to regret it now, I don't care about face, and the long pain is better than the short pain.

I think you've been pushed away by what you call "love" before.

You can have a good communication and explain each other's problems, so that life will be happier and your relationship will be better.

While you don't have children, divorce, although it is a small problem, but it is difficult to change, this is this person's lifestyle can not stand it for 4 years, and there will be many, many more 4 years in the future. We are his daughter-in-law, not his mother. People with this problem are of all ages.

How much QQ do you have? I'll help you lawyer Wang.

If you don't want to divorce, you can communicate with the other party to deal with it. The exercise of the right to freedom of marriage is fully protected in law, and when the marriage is final, if both parties agree to divorce, they can divorce by agreement, and go directly to the marriage registration office of the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures; However, for the party who does not want to divorce, he or she can directly file a divorce lawsuit. When making efforts to maintain the marriage, do not neglect the protection of the rights and interests of the matrimonial property.

Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1079:Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly initiate divorce proceedings in the people's court.

People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted.

Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not allowed, the parties have been separated for one year or more, and one party files another lawsuit for divorce, the divorce shall be granted.