What to do when your best friends all betray you?

Updated on psychology 2024-03-25
11 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Agree with the statement of going upstairs, betrayal must be a betrayal with a purpose! What is the reason, you have to figure this out, it is very important! The details will not be told!

    In any case, betrayal is a derogatory term, an unbearable trauma for you, and a debt of conscience for him (of course, if you have a special kind of friend, it is another matter, the so-called "like gathers, people divide 、、、 groups).

    You have four options.

    First, hostility! A friend is no longer a friend, but an enemy! The reason for his betrayal is unforgivable!

    The second is indifference! Say that a friend is not a friend, and that an enemy is not an enemy! The reason, both sides are at fault, and they forgive each other in their hearts, but they can't accept his betrayal!

    The third is relaxation! The level of a friend goes straight down, because you can't be sure if he'll do it again! Your fault accounts for a lot of the reason that led to his betrayal! His choices have a direct impact on your relationship.

    Fourth, friends of life and death! After such a betrayal encounter, see yourself clearly, see him clearly! His betrayal is to wake you up with his reputation (perhaps your mistakes are unforgivable, and you do not listen to advice)! Such a person is rare, you can trust him and rely on him!

    Thank you! Hope it helps.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    First of all, reflect on yourself, are you not good enough? If the problem is your own, resolutely correct it. If it's a friend's, say goodbye and it's OK. Rest assured, new friends will come your way.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Face up to the pain of betrayal. It's painful to be betrayed, and it's not painful to find out that a close friend is actually very different from what you think you are. It's normal for you to feel sad, and there's no need to hide the fact that you're hurt.

    Take time to reflect. Just as some relationships require a cooling-off period, friendships can also develop in the longer term due to a period of estrangement. Use this time to think about the pros and cons of each choice, such as whether to face a friend or end the friendship completely.

    After a few days you will calm down, and you may find that it is better to stay away from these friends during the distancing period.

    Take care of yourself. Before you think about how to rebuild trust with your friends, you have to take care of yourself. We often put our emotions on the back burner as a way to escape negative feelings or worry about others feeling guilty for what they have done to us.

    If you don't have time to care about your heart's needs, you won't be able to build healthy, long-term friendships.

    Be a bigger person. Don't take revenge on others or hold grudges. Try to forgive those who have treated you badly, and only then can you let go of the baggage of anger. You may feel that if you stop being angry and just turn the page, it's too cheap for that person. This is not the case.

    Surround yourself with friends and family who are humorous and supportive. After experiencing a betrayal, it can be a great comfort to have a group of positive and genuinely wishing you well. Not only will they help you accept and cope with betrayal, but they will also help you re-establish your value as a person and as a friend.

    Decide whether you want to face this person or not. There are times when you need to say something, and there are times when you just need to let the past pass. Based on what you know about this friend and your judgment of the situation, decide whether or not to respond.

    Decide if you want to repair the friendship or not. Measure how much you value the friendship and the severity of the betrayal. Whether or not a friendship is repaired often depends on the priority of the two sides. Take a closer look at the friendship to see if it deserves your forgiveness.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Learn to stay away.

    When we find out that our friends are unfaithful to us, we need to learn to stay away and not hesitate. Because a true friend will never do anything behind your back, but will support you unconditionally. If we are with someone who will hurt us, we are asking for trouble.

    Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black. We want to be with people who are righteous, and trust is the foundation of friendship.

    Live your own life.

    Life is your own, and life is your own. Sometimes we have to think more about ourselves, life doesn't stop moving forward because of your emotions. We can't spend our time grieving, all we can do is to make ourselves better and work harder.

    Live your life well and be yourself.

    Adjust your mindset.

    If your friend betrays you, it only proves that you have made the wrong friend, but the other person has lost a true friend. So we don't have to be too sad, because the other party's losses are relatively large. So what we should do is to adjust our mentality, say goodbye to the past, come out of the shadow of the past, get out of the shadows, life is still beautiful, we can meet new friends again, and make friends who are as kind as us.

    Don't lose faith in friendship.

    We all know that a person who has been betrayed by friendship will gradually not want to trust others, but our life is still very long, and there will be more and more people to face, not everyone will betray others, and there are many good people in life. We have to believe that friendship is still beautiful if it is cared for well. Even if you've suffered losses in this area, we'll be more experienced.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    You're not afraid of not finding friends. The friends who play together are actually constantly changing. Until you find a friend who really matches your personality, you can count as your friend.

    Friends are interdependent and trust each other. Don't pick on your friends' shortcomings. Just like me and my good friends, both of us have shortcomings.

    But it's all inclusive. Together we can be happy. Remember to be a real good friend.

    I remember that when I was in junior high school, I thought there were a few good sisters. Play with them every day. Only later did I realize that I was wrong.

    They wouldn't have treated you as good friends. Their lives are the same with you and without you. Won't take you seriously.

    Later, I found new friends. They really cared about my studies. My life.

    Just like that friend of yours. She's just a good listener to you, will she comfort you and tell you what to do? Or she's a good listener to anyone.

    You and Ben don't have to worry about her. You'll definitely find a good friend in the future. But it definitely won't be her.

    And don't think too perfectly about being friends. People have shortcomings. You have it too.

    Friends are able to tolerate each other's shortcomings.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If this friend you care about you very much, you can theorize and reason, if the friend will not interact again in the future, simply don't bother with him and go to live his own life.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    It depends on the situation, if you betray a friend, then it will definitely affect the friendship, or even give up the friend.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    After being betrayed by a friend, don't be rash and hope you can calmly analyze the whole process of your conflict.

    If I am betrayed by a friend, first of all, I must learn to calm down, try not to be too impulsive, because too much rashness is likely to make the problem worse, in addition to calming, I will carefully analyze the whole process to see why things are like this!

    If you find out afterwards that it was your fault, you must first understand what your friend is doing and apologize to the other person sincerely. Of course, if the other party is at fault first, then I will also choose a suitable time to find him calmly to talk, if he can admit his mistake or say something acceptable to me, then no problem, we are still friends! If not, then I'll take a fresh look at my friendship with him, and probably we'll just be it in the future'Ordinary'Friends!

    Do you get it? I hope it helps you, may you be happy, and still have a sincere friendship!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Betrayed by a friend.

    It's painful. If your friend often has to meet.

    For example, (classmates in a class, colleagues in the same class).

    Then you don't have to choose to ignore him.

    Because it's always under the eaves

    Look down and don't see what you look up.

    How bad. Let others also have a bad impression of you.

    That's why I have to say hello when I see him.

    It's time to speak.

    It's just that you can't trust his words anymore.

    Hate him in my heart.

    Don't show it.

    If you don't see each other often.

    That's whatever.

    You can never see this scale.

    Ignore him anymore.

    Hehe. But I'm a god of advice.

    It doesn't matter if you see each other often or not.

    Do it all according to the first point.

    As for why.

    You should be clear.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    What is the reason why he betrayed you, he is your best friend, so you must know. Maybe he also had a reason why he did it. You can see according to the situation whether his friend is still worth making friends with Li, whether to continue the friendship between you or say to this friendship

    goodbey

    It's up to you to treat the friendship. Don't make decisions blindly, don't be angry and hail, think clearly, and don't make decisions that you regret.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    It depends on whether you like him or not, from now on, it seems that you still like him, otherwise you won't be so troubled, Xianqiao Yuan doesn't say how to solve it, the key is to see if you can forgive him for the mistakes he made, whether you want to forgive, this kind of thing is not who can help you make a decision, I can only silently wish you good luck and get out of there as soon as possible. Come on, support and eliminate the shortage to hold you!

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