My boyfriend wants to get married early, but I m a little afraid of getting married and having child

A woman's fear of getting married and having children is generally in two different ways.

A woman's fear and anxiety about marriage are mainly due to her uncertainty about her current marriage partner. To put it simply, the person who is about to marry him now is not able to bring him a sense of security, and he can't see a stable future in this man. This hesitation, this uncertainty, in the form of resistance, is the resistance of our hearts, and we will be a little afraid.

And women's fear of giving birth to a child mostly stems from the fear of pain, the fear of breaking the current stable and orderly life, and some reports of many pregnancies and caesarean sections on the market, etc., which induce women to have some doubts about their future husbands and their future in-laws.

For this situation, the most important thing a woman needs to do is to determine whether the object she is going to marry is worthy of her life, to know that any problems that exist before marriage will not disappear because of marriage, will not get along with each other after marriage, these problems will only get worse, if they are not solved before marriage, then the probability of being solved after marriage is almost zero.

When we are very sure in our hearts that we are going to marry this man and are willing to bear the ups and downs of the future with him, what we will do is to calm our emotions and have faith in ourselves and the people around us. Compared with those failed marriages, there are always many successful cases and happy cases, so we should think more about the good side and look at the good cases.

If we firmly believe that we will be happy, then our future married life will be happy; But if we doubt the relationship before the marriage has begun, then our suspicions will affect the marriage, and once the life after marriage is a little unsatisfactory, we will take these unsatisfactory as evidence of our previous doubts, and the uneasiness will become more and more serious, and then the bad impact on the marriage will become deeper and deeper.

To put it simply, it is to deal with the man next to you first, and then deal with your own little emotions.

It's similar to my situation, and so is my boyfriend.

We've been together for five years, and five years is not a short time. Now he has a stable job, has bought a new house, and plans to get married. But I've always been a little scared.

Women don't want to get married, it's all because of the word "afraid".

Afraid of getting married, afraid of a true heart to pay the wrong person;

fear of pain, fear of having children;

I am afraid that the triviality of marriage will drown out my enthusiasm for life;

Afraid of getting old, afraid of no longer being young.

For today's young women, the fear of getting married and having children is really not a problem for one person, but a group of people.

Since it comes to getting married, it is no longer a matter of one person, although one party has a positive attitude and the other is uncertain. If you want to get married, you can't escape the cooperation of 2 people and 2 families after all.

For girls, they are afraid of getting married and having children, which is a relatively common problem, and if you want to solve it, you actually need to accept and overcome it to a large extent in your heart.

Some girls are afraid to have a baby because it hurts too much. Indeed, my roommate had just given birth to a daughter a few days ago, and I asked her if she was in pain, and she said that she was in pain before entering the delivery room, but the process of giving birth to the baby was fine. Especially when I saw the baby born, all the pain was gone, only relief and joy.

Girls are scared because they haven't experienced it, it's a fear of the unknown, and they've been influenced by the Internet and listening to others.

It is not difficult for girls to overcome the fear of getting married and having children, mainly two points.

The first is, determine if the man you are marrying really loves you? This is really something that only you know, and only you can be sure of. Only when you are sure that this man is worth marrying, will you not face the human question of "protecting children or adults".

The second is to overcome the fear of having children. Do you want anyone in this world to call you Mommy? Do you want to have ** your blood in this world, and look like you? Do you want to have a child who is dressed up beautifully by you?

Giving birth is painful, but it was temporary, and with modern medicine so advanced, some worries don't happen.

In addition, for boys, they play a more important role. You need to fully understand your girlfriend's concerns, give her a sense of security, and give her confidence and courage.

For most girls, the attitude of their boyfriend is the biggest factor in determining whether they are willing to marry you and have children.

You can also get married and don't have children first, you can discuss with your boyfriend about having children a few years later, which can give your children a better future.

1. Clearly tell her what you are thinking and what you should understand with each other.

2. Your boyfriend wants a child is likely to be the request of his parents to him, if so, then you face it together, if not, you must communicate well, and don't cause conflicts between you because of the child's affairs.

3. Give him and give himself a time plan, plan when to have a child, not only to give the other party peace of mind, but also to complete a task for himself (although it is a bit incomprehensible to say that having a child is a task, but a woman will eventually return to the family, with a husband who loves herself, a lovely child, the family will be very warm).

4. Tell your husband that everything will be as it is, and don't force anything, because sometimes it will not only cause burden and pressure on both parties, but also cause conflicts.

Bless you, communication is the best solution, some things, you have to think about yourself, the result and so on to tell your husband, you must know how to negotiate with each other. Take a step back from each other, and the sea and the sky will be wide.

If you want to give birth to someone else, if you have a child early, a woman's life is equivalent to half of her death.

I don't know if you're of marriageable age, but if you're all adults, then I'd like to say:Girl, don't be stupid, the child can't hold back his playful heart, what else can make him enter the palace of marriage with you? Are you sure he is genuine with you and not playing?

I've heard a lot of stories like this, and I've seen a lot of cases like this, and many people say it's for freedom, so I think it's irresponsible, or don't do it, and have the courage to bear the consequences and responsibilities when you do it.

A girl, gave her best youth to you without hesitation, in the face of pregnancy and marriage such a big thing, she did not flinch, what reason do you have to retreat, since you choose to retreat now, then why did you do it in the first place, I don't know what words to use to describe such a boy, the fragile soul is not as good as a girl.

Maybe you have thousands of reasons to reject her heart that wants to marry you, but you can't deceive your heart, your love for her is not firm enough, of course, what I am analyzing is the man's heart, in order to let this stupid girl understand what she should do and how to criticize him fiercely, make him sober, and make him responsible.

Of course, I'm not saying that girls should give up easily, this matter is not a matter for the two of you, if you love him, go brave and tell the parents of both sides about this matter, I believe that they should also have a correct decision.

Now there are a lot of men and women who have started to be together before they are married, and I want to say to them, especially boys, when you are with her, you must understand that your responsibility lies in **, you have to afford it, and you must have the courage and determination to bear it.

Then don't want this child, and don't want this boyfriend with you by the way.

This is irresponsible for him, since he thinks about it, why don't he avoid it if he doesn't want to get married so early, doesn't he know that this will hurt you? To put it bluntly, it's an escape, I don't want to be in charge, it's okay if such a man doesn't marry! Why do you want to do this?

Then don't have children. I feel that he is not very responsible, since he doesn't want to get married, why is he with you? If you insist on giving birth, you and your child may not be happy. So don't talk about the child, even he doesn't want it. This kind of person has no sense of responsibility even if he gets married.

Alas! If you meet such a person, you can't help it, then ask yourself if this person is worthy of your love. It's not worth it to leave this scumbag, this is a human life.

Ask him why he doesn't want to get married, if he is afraid that he will not be able to raise children, the two of them can work together.

Do you love him? Do you think he loves you? It has to be done from the heart! No one can decide for you.

It shows that he doesn't love you and doesn't want to get married so early, why should he get you pregnant.

Beat the child and break up with him, such an irresponsible man can't give in, and he can't get used to it, otherwise he will get worse in the future.

In my opinion, Phantom Moon wants to get married, but if the man doesn't agree, after all, marriage is a matter of two people. It's still a matter of calculation.

I think that since this situation has arisen, I will find a way to solve it after consulting with the other party.