Why don t you like to speak in public and don t know what to say?

I don't like to speak in public, and a lot of the time it's because I don't have anything to say! Why is there nothing to say? The reason is that there is no substantial, rich content.

As the saying goes, it's hard to cook without rice. If you want to speak in public, if you want to speak vividly and wonderfully, you must have the support of content.

The content is the "foundation" of the speech, and only when this "foundation" is laid can you have something to say.

The root cause of the problem of speaking without content or without words to talk mainly includes four situations. It can be summed up in four words: virtual, shallow, floating, and old.

1. Virtual. For a long time, he has been detached from reality, lacks practical work, and has not conducted in-depth research on his work and life.

To get rid of this, we must be down-to-earth and do real work. Knowledge is the best in practice, the enrichment of speech content, the improvement of speech ability, and more in practice.

Second, shallow. Usually the accumulation of knowledge is not enough, I don't like to use my brain, I lack in-depth independent thinking, and I have nothing to say when I encounter a professional topic.

As the saying goes, "there is poetry and writing in the belly", although knowledge and connotation cannot be seen or touched, but people can clearly feel it. With little knowledge reserves, low cultural literacy, and no thinking, when speaking, naturally exhausted literary thoughts, and unable to find any attractive and innovative views.

For those who have nothing to say, their knowledge reserves are like a stream, shallow to the bottom. Look at those who speak brilliantly and speak well, their knowledge reserves are as deep as the sea, and as long as they need them, they can obtain rich arguments and arguments from this vast ocean at any time, so that others will listen to them and bow their heads.

The accumulation of knowledge is not a day's work, if you want to get rid of the disadvantages of "shallowness", you must pay attention to this in your daily life, read more, strengthen your study, broaden your horizons, and constantly enrich yourself.

3. Floating. Without an in-depth understanding of the intermediary, they pay attention to formalism in everything, do not grasp the essence of things, do not grasp the main contradictions, and their speeches are naturally untruthful. If we are always superficial and never explore the truth and quality, how can there be depth in what we say?

Fourth, old. Without keeping pace with the times and understanding new things, now, the development of the Internet is becoming more and more rapid, and the update cycle of information and knowledge is becoming shorter and shorter. We should update our knowledge base in a timely manner, keep our thinking active, grasp new trends, put forward new views, and learn to use fresh words full of the atmosphere of the times to express new ideas and move people's hearts.

This is mainly due to your introverted personality and lack of exercise.

Introverts are often not comfortable expressing their thoughts in public and in front of others. Sometimes when I am praised in front of everyone, I want to get into the cracks in the ground. This is a sign of introversion.

Introversion is natural and can be difficult to change. But you can improve this aspect through acquired exercise, and reduce the impact of this introverted personality on your life and work.

In today's society, many times you have to speak in public. Training, meetings, debriefings, etc., these are all situations that we have to face, so we have to force ourselves to master this skill, weaken the influence of introversion and not being afraid to speak.

To weaken this influence, we need to allow ourselves to speak regularly in public, in crowded environments. You may start out with unclear thinking, illogical speech, and nothing appealing about what you say. However, over time, we will naturally become more and more comfortable and more comfortable.

If you don't know what to say, it's due to a lack of exercise, or it can be caused by a lack of preparation. If we need to speak in a formal setting, then we need to prepare in advance and write down what we want to say and express. This can be more organized and logical.

After the revision, we have to practice more on our own. You can rehearse it in front of the mirror, or you can rehearse it in front of familiar relatives and friends. If you contact it a few more times, you will become familiar with it.

When we actually give a speech in front of strangers, we will still be nervous, but if we are well prepared, we can relieve this nervousness.

If it's a private occasion, don't think about it too much for a long time. Because in private, we are generally with our familiar relatives and friends, even if we say something badly and incorrectly, they will not care too much. We can say whatever comes to our minds.

Over time, we get used to it. You won't know what to say.

I understand this mood better, because I was also in this state of you before.

The reason why I don't like to speak in public is because I am not confident enough in myself, but because I used to be a person with low self-esteem, no matter what I do, I always feel that I am not good enough, not as good as others, so as long as it is something that appears in public, I basically will not participate.

And I also feel that I don't have that much influence, if I speak in public, no one will pay attention to me, this sentence makes me very embarrassed, and it is certainly impossible for me to accept such a situation with low self-esteem.

So I guess that's the case with you. There is also a possibility that you don't like to speak in public, because once you speak, maybe other people's eyes will be on you, and you don't like the feeling of being stared at by a lot of people, which is also the mood I used to have.

If you don't know what to say, then you can simply keep silent, because no one will force you to say or do anything in public, not to mention that if you yourself resist such a thing and force you to speak, you may be more and more wrong, so it is better not to say it.

But I tell you that hiding is not the only solution, you can also make yourself confident, if you have to speak in public for work or study, then you can exercise yourself.

First of all, let yourself accept to speak in the class, because the number of people in the class is still relatively small, and then gradually, you can change to a relatively large place to talk to more people.

I don't like to speak in public, in fact, many people have this phenomenon, because we are not familiar with the environment, so we can communicate with very few people, many people lack communication, so they will choose to hate speaking in public, and it is also the environment that is not adaptable. Sometimes it is also a manifestation of lack of self-confidence in the heart, and we need to learn more to integrate with the environment, so that we can speak well on occasions, the most important thing is self-confidence.

Some people are like this, they know very well what is going on, but they can't pour out the words on their lips. It's very good to say it in private, but when it's in public, you can't say it when there are too many people. Maybe it's shyness, lack of confidence, or stage fright. Just exercise more.

Some people don't dare, speaking in public is not a matter of personal preference, whether it is necessary or not. You need to be particular about it, that's it, talking to one or two people and talking to a bunch of people, that's the difference. Don't have a psychological burden, you will overcome it by exercising a few more times.

Be confident, don't care what others think of you when you speak, otherwise it will make you worry about saying the wrong thing, so you will not dare to speak, and express what you want to say in a humorous way as much as possible, you will gain more confidence.