What should I do if my husband is immature and has no responsibility?

Updated on psychology 2024-04-23
6 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Marriage is a major event in life, since you have chosen to get married together, then two people should take on the responsibility of the family for each other, if your husband is not responsible, then you should tell him step by step, and not nagging.

    If you have children, you can take them to the park to play. You take his hand and tell him that this is the crystallization of the love between the two of you, and of course, the cost of the child is also very much, and you tell him that you have become a father. Anything you do now will be something he will emulate later.

    You are his role model, so you should take responsibility for this family. <>

    Of course, you can also choose a café or a quieter place, and when two people eat together, you tell him slowly. What should be done and what family responsibilities should be assumed.

    Don't cry or complain to your mother-in-law, or complain, or be. Bury this grievance in your heart. Because if it's a small contradiction, it will slowly accumulate into a big contradiction.

    It will become a fuse for divorce and a starting point for your relationship to break down.

    In fact, men and children are similar, they all need to be coaxed. So we should coax him slowly and guide him slowly. I am sure that in the near future, he will recognize his responsibility.

    Don't compare him to other people's husbands, because in this case, he will create a particularly powerful burden in his heart, and he will be outside. Find another outlet for your feelings, that is, Xiao San. Tell him the vows he made to you when the two of you were just together, touch him with beautiful love, warm him with beautiful family affection, and then slowly he will find his place in this family and take on his own responsibilities.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Xiaoyun, a friend of a friend, is probably in this situation, my husband has always been childish, content with the status quo, not motivated, getting a salary of more than 2,000 yuan a month, and not doing housework at home, so it can be said that there is no contribution to the family.

    And not only does it not pay, but there are always various requirements, such as an ergonomic one.

    's computer chair, more than 2,000 yuan a piece, a month's salary is not enough, and then Xiaoyun will save money to buy, it is really money-saving, don't eat well, don't go shopping, don't go to the movies.

    My friend is almost 30 years old, and he still wears a T-shirt for 20 yuan a piece in the night market.

    Coats and coats haven't been added for several years, Xiaoyun doesn't earn much, about 4000, as a girl, it's actually okay, life can be easier, but there is a husband who drags his feet, and life is quite poor.

    Then the people around bought cars one after another, and my husband quarreled that he also wanted to have a car, but the two of them had no savings, and the family couldn't help much, so they asked for a car if they didn't have anything, which was quite strange, right, and what was even more strange was that Xiaoyun began to borrow money from various friends to meet her husband's wishes.

    Now Xiaoyun drives her husband to work every day, and picks her husband home from work at night. Immature, unresponsible, and unaware of what he said about his husband is a person like his husband. But what to do?

    Do you have the confidence to change him? Let him become mature and responsible? It's hard to change, he hasn't been able to mature when he is married and started a career, and his personality is like this, how can he change it easily.

    There are only two choices: either divorce or continue to serve him as her husband's "mother". So are you determined to divorce and leave? Do you have the courage to end one life and start another?

    If not, then continue to grit your teeth and insist on taking good care of him, maybe one day, he will grow up?

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    In my opinion, my eldest aunt and brother-in-law are not a mature man, like a child. Of course I'm not saying he's bad and no offense. He is a very simple-minded person, very smart but not that kind of worldly means, he is immature and likes to play with toys, model cars, Lego, and electric games.

    You'll find that he's more of a big boy than a big man. All in all, it looks very immature.

    My eldest sister is also doing the housework at home, and she also has to take care of the children's laundry and cooking, he doesn't do anything, only responsible for eating and playing. It can be said that it is very irresponsible.

    I think my eldest sister is a very hard worker, but I see the look in her eyes, yes, she is very happy. Because she loves him! Love hopelessly, love for no reason.

    Her love for him is incomprehensible to all of us. Because she really has to do housework and take care of the children every day in addition to work, she is so hard.

    What should be done for such a person who is not responsible? The best thing is that you don't do anything, the best thing is that you let your husband mature on his own, you help him become a man instead of a boy, help him grow up. How?

    Specifically, you don't do anything!

    You don't do housework, you don't cook, you don't do laundry, you don't mop the floor. Just imagine why your husband is immature and not responsible? Because you got everything right!

    Because you do everything steadily, because you do it so well, what do you want him to do? What responsibility do you want him to do?

    Women don't make themselves so tired, be appropriately weak, and let men become real men! If you wish he was your husband and not your son, then please be a little woman and not his mom!

    From now on, help him mature!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    In fact, newly married boys are not very mature, but when a boy has a child, he will naturally mature. Jade is not cut and cannot be made, you must let your husband go through some things before he can be responsible and responsible.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It's been like this all these years. I asked my husband how much money you can earn in a year. He said he didn't know.

    I said if I could earn 60,000 yuan. He said he didn't know. I said, can you let me live a good life, I don't want to be thirty years old, I still want to call myself so tired, he only cares about his own well, he doesn't care about the affairs of the family.

    He was one man who fed the whole family and did not go hungry. I want to get a divorce.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Legal analysis: You can negotiate and mediate privately, and if the negotiation fails, you can sue the court for divorce, and you need to prepare a complaint, a copy of your ID card, a copy of your marriage certificate, evidence of requesting divorce, evidence about children and property, etc.

    Legal basis: Article 1079 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China: Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce through mediation or litigation, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly file a divorce lawsuit with the people's court. People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation fails, the divorce shall be granted.

    In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted; (1) bigamy or cohabitation with others; (2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members; (3) Have bad habits such as gambling and drug abuse, and refuse to change after repeated instruction; (4) They have been separated for two years due to emotional discord; (5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted. Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.

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