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The roommate who makes you speechless, the feeling of being ugly and weird, then you can either treat him as air. Either see if it's your own problem or the other person's problem. If it's your own problem, and you yourself feel that it's not good to be like this, then you can change your behavior yourself, and don't let others dislike you.
Others can't solve their own problems, so they have to change them themselves.
If it's a roommate who can't stand it, and it's the kind of person who is more orthopedic, then you can stay away from it. Anyway, it's a roommate, maybe when you live and sleep, you can't do without, and you have to face it. But when you're working, or in class, you can always draw a Chu River and Han realm, don't go to other people's houses by yourself, right?
That's a bit of a self-inflicted annoyance, isn't it? If you don't like it, don't make do with it, you can't change other people's lives, you can only keep your own life from her. Your own circle is drawn in **, and you must not be able to step into it.
People are divided into clusters by likes, and it is good to understand.
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Most of the roommates who are speechless are people who do not agree with your habits and values. With such a big society, there will always be a few people who leave you speechless. This is a very normal situation.
However, there is always a limit to what people can endure, and you should explain your thoughts to him at the beginning and make clear to him your attitude towards his behavior.
As the saying goes: take a step back and open the sky. Relationships are fragile, and we need to be careful to maintain them with our own tolerance.
My advice is twofold: First, if you just find him speechless, but don't hate him, then you might as well make friends with him. You can take the initiative and talk to him about something that makes you feel speechless about him.
Everyone has their own different experiences, and perhaps his way of leaving you speechless is due to his interesting experiences in the past. I believe that in your conversation with him, you will find the shining points in him that make you admire, and this is how the so-called friends come from.
Two: If the things he says to leave you speechless at the beginning already make you hate him, and you don't have any idea of becoming friends with him, being a "stranger" under the same roof is also a good option. But you should seriously remind him that you don't like what he does to leave you speechless, and hope he will pay attention.
It is best to get the support of the other roommates, and let him get rid of this speechless practice and adapt to group life with the principle of minority obeying the majority.
I'd prefer you to choose the first suggestion. Because no matter what, it is your destiny to live in the same dormitory, and no matter how far apart your habits and values are, you should maintain a harmonious atmosphere, which is the basis for your entire dormitory "peaceful" life. After all, if you don't look up and look down every day, it's better to have one more enemy than one more friend, right?
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I remember when I first entered the university, for a long time, the atmosphere in the dormitory was very harmonious. Slowly, the difference in living habits began to have contradictions.
There are four people in our dormitory, and two of them are in difficult straits, relying on the tuition fees paid by the school's bursary for poor students. But another roommate with relatively good conditions. I look down on one of the poor students very much.
The poor student had a bit of smelly feet, so in order to avoid the smell caused by leaving his shoes indoors, he usually put his shoes on the balcony when he returned to the dormitory. But the roommate with good family conditions specially bought a lazy sofa, bought a blanket, and arranged the balcony into a more warm corner, of course, this is also a good thing, the dormitory has a good environment, and the mood is good.
The problem was that the girl was too selfish, she didn't allow her shoes to dry on the balcony, and the poor student put her shoes indoors, and she hated the smell too strong. So from time to time, he began to complain that the poor student was too dirty and smelly, and he didn't like to be clean and unhygienic.
Poverty was very helpless, and finally a large-scale quarrel broke out between them. The poor student said, I know you look down on me and dislike me, but what can I do, it's not my fault that my feet smell bad, and I don't allow people to smell their feet?
The rich roommate said directly, that's because you always buy low-quality shoes on the stall, can you wear shoes for twenty or thirty yuan without smelling feet? If you want to buy it, buy a little better, buy less of your stall goods, how can good shoes still smell like feet?
From then on, I was speechless about that rich roommate until I graduated from college.
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Everyone has different habits, which is a normal thing. However, when we live in a dormitory with other people, the different living habits of our roommates may affect us or even make us unacceptable. You need to deal with this situation properly in order to maintain harmony in your relationship with your roommates.
Specifically, when the behavior of a roommate affects you, you should be able to solve the problem by understanding and accommodating the behavior of your roommate, resolving differences through communication and exchange, and influencing the other party with your own practical actions.
1. For the strange behavior of roommates, you can deal with it by understanding and tolerance.
When your roommate behaves in a strange way that makes you feel unpleasant, you should respond by understanding and tolerating. ......Everyone has their own unique ideas and their own unique living habits, which is a normal thing, so you should treat the differences between roommates in terms of personal words and deeds, living habits, etc., and you should also understand and tolerate them. Only in this way can we maintain a state of harmony between each other, which is better for everyone.
2. Communication and communication are the best ways to resolve differences between roommates.
It is not possible for roommates to get along with each other perfectly, there will always be some problems, which is a very normal phenomenon, as long as they are resolved in time, you can ensure the harmony between roommates. ......The best way to solve these problems is to communicate and exchange. Specifically, roommates should communicate openly and honestly about their differences, so that conflicts can be resolved in a timely manner and the roommates can get along harmoniously.
3. I can influence my roommate through practical actions to make him stop those strange behaviors.
Sometimes, your roommate may have certain shortcomings that can affect you. For this problem, it may not be easy to solve it if you use conventional methods, and at this time, you need to use practical actions to influence the other party. ......For example, if your roommate doesn't pay attention to hygiene, then you can clean up every day to keep the dormitory clean and tidy.
After a long time, the roommate will naturally feel ashamed and correct his shortcomings. This approach can not only solve the problem, but also will not affect the relationship between yourself and your roommate, which is the best way to resolve the conflict between your roommates and solve the impact of your roommate's strange behavior.
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If you eat it, you can buy it for one person, he wants him to get it himself, don't use yours, the pot can be borrowed from him but not broken, let him use the small things, and the private ones must be defended to the death, find a righteous and bright reason to completely eliminate it, warn first, and then do it, this kind of love will not be much better in the future.