Have you ever seriously thought about how to spend this life?

It turned out that I had been drifting with the crowd and living in a muddy state: every day in addition to eating, working, and sleeping, I was making friends, getting married, having children, living an ordinary life like an ordinary person, and rarely thinking about the meaning of life, until I saw such a sentence:Living your life the way you live is also a success in life.

I started to think: What does my preferred lifestyle look like?

First of all, I like nature, I like to live in a place with greenery and flowers, and I like a clear sky. I like the cry of birds, the wheat waves in early summer, the cicadas in midsummer and the frogs after the rain.

I have always believed that man is an inseparable part of nature, because it is only when I am born in nature that I feel completely relaxed and happy. The breathing is smooth, and even the steps are brisk.

I love the sunset in the evening, and I love the misty dawn pants. I love the stars in the sky, and I love the dew in the morning. I like rain, I like wind, I like white clouds and I like rainbows.

I don't like pigeon cage architecture, where people are like a trapped beast. I would often pant and walk around the room, peering behind the iron bars of balconies or windowsills, trying to find any escape opportunities.

I hate the noise and hypocritical souls of the city, I hate the heavy traffic and the crowds.

Secondly, I like to naturally call Jane to fall asleep and wake up naturally.

I don't like alarm clocks, I always wake people up when I sleep the sweetest. I found that no one would be gentle with the alarm clock next to the bed, but I had no choice but to put it in the most conspicuous position next to the bed, waiting to be woken up by it. If it was possible, how beautiful would it be to go to sleep when you feel sleepy, eat when you feel hungry, and not have to look at the schedule or estimate whether you will be late for work?

However, due to the measurement of the broken silver, many people had to rush to the world, and their original dreams were crushed by the rolling wheels of modern society.

Waking up early and staying up late has become a common problem for modern people. The shameful ninety-nine-six is also enshrined as an honor for young people. The money is earned, the body collapses, and when I look back, I use the money I earn to ** full of diseases.

Early human beings were backward, but I began to envy the people who lived in that period, especially the Tang and Song dynasties, when poetry and poetry flourished, and even the clothes at that time were so beautiful.

At that time, the carriage and horses were slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime.

In short, according to my own preferred lifestyle, I seem to be out of step with modern society, and the rural baby who has worked hard in the countryside with cold tables and hot benches has the bizarre idea of returning to rural life.

It's a bit long, but what's the solution? That's what I really think in my heart.

—Wei Jun's experience in learning non-violent communication.

It is often heard that children cannot go crazy as they wish;

It is often heard that others are angry when they cannot do what they want;

I often hear that I am ashamed that I can't do what I want.

Therefore, it is often seen that criticism, accusation, self-blame, coercion, punishment and deprivation.

In my opinion, there is no room for mistakes.

Children are not allowed to make mistakes, others are not allowed to make mistakes, and they are not allowed to make mistakes themselves.

It made me think, how should I spend my life?

At the Jim&Jori Nonviolent Communication Workshop, they said:

We have made many mistakes and gained a lot of experience in the process of practicing nonviolent communication, and I want to share them so that you will not make the same mistakes again, and you will make new mistakes.

I was deeply touched by these words, and the following poem touched me.

If only life could be done all over again.

Medin Steyr (85 years old).

I will be more relaxed, more gentle.

I will live a simpler life than this time.

I don't take a lot of things so seriously anymore.

You see, like many people, I have lived my life rationally and steadily, hour after hour, day after day.

Actually, I want to try not to ask for anything else, just be in the moment, moment after moment, instead of rushing to spend the days ahead every day.

I have also been like many people, no matter when I go to **, I don't forget to bring a thermometer, a hot old Zheng kettle, a raincoat and a parachute.

If I could start all over again, I would choose to travel light.

If I could start all over again, I would start barefoot in early spring and stay that way until late autumn.

A cute and warm picture book, a few bright and romantic strokes, and a simple and touching sentence or two. It's like that rabbit hole that Alice came across by chance, when you pick it up, time freezes, and then you will be slowly peeled open of the hard shell and feel the world with your softest heart.

In order to respect this moving book, I chose a cool night, opened a can of beer, and was ready to follow it through my whole life. As soon as I opened the book, Kiritong came in, and she offered to read it with me with great interest. Turn the pages and read them to her, explain them occasionally, or discuss Chang Qixia.

At the age of 1, my mother will come back after she leaves, you know this truth, this is trust.

At 12 years old, in many ways, your parents are already far inferior to you. "

Tongtong said that my mother is no longer as good as me in many aspects. For example, roller skating is not as good as me. I have to say, the child is indeed my plus version, what you are good at, will be learned by her speed, what you can't, she can learn effortlessly.

First kiss at 16, 17 years old, the unthinkable happens, you're in love.

At 25 years old, you want to be together for the rest of your life".

Kiriki began to ask me what love and first kiss were. She seemed a little expectant and shy. In the cartoon, the prince and princess will start a happy ending of living together happily ever after that last kiss.

But in life, in addition to feeling and experiencing love, you must also be ready to turn around and leave at any time, a high-quality relationship does not have to last forever.

At the age of 36, your wish has come true, but the reality is far from what you imagined.

At the age of 50, there are two forces in life that involve us. A young hand is trying to break free from your traction, and the other old hand is still in need of your support. ”

At the age of 36, I am my current age, and I have no unattainable wishes in life, but I just hope that the days will flow slowly, and I can hold the immature little hand in one hand and the old big hand in the other hand to enjoy this one-way journey.

"Blackberry jam" appears repeatedly in the book, as if the taste, thoughts, and inheritance of life are all condensed in this small bottle.

At the age of 42, you start making your own blackberry jam.

At the age of 28, you fell out of love, and your mother didn't know how to comfort you, and when she parted, she gave you a bottle of homemade blackberry jam.

At 94 years old, every year when you put the empty bottle of blackberry jam back in the basement, you ask yourself if you can use it again next year. “

When I closed the book, I wanted to cry freely, not moving, not sad. I just want to release the emotions of being human.

I was 21 years old that day, and I had a lot of extravagant hopes in the ** era of my life. I want to love, I want to eat, and I want to become a half-light and half-dark cloud in the sky in an instant. Later, I learned that life is a slow process of being hammered, and people get older day by day, and their extravagant hopes disappear day by day......I'm still stuck before the cloud, even though I already know the cloud after. ”