Longing for love but also afraid, what s going on?

Actually, this is a very common idea. The vast majority of people will crave love, especially women, who naturally like romantic love. In the past, when I saw that my friends around me had boyfriends or husbands, I was very eager to have such a person, who would be sweet with me.

In ancient and modern times, there are all kinds of love, and there are no love stories in movies, television, and **, so it can be said that the world without love is monotonous and boring.

Many times, we are afraid of love. In the beginning, we will worry about all kinds of things, worrying that you don't like the people who love you, and that the people you love don't love you. Even if both of you love each other, you will worry that the two of you will not be able to get along well, and you will worry that the other person will not love you enough.

After the two have been together for a while, they rely on each other and worry about each other, sometimes insecure, and afraid of losing each other.

We are afraid that the person we fall in love with is not suitable for us, or even a rotten peach blossom, but we can't control ourselves and fall in love with each other. Even if you control it, you will be trapped in it, like a moth to a fire, and it will be very painful. It takes a lot of courage and strength to climb out of the quagmire of love.

There are many unknowns in love, especially love without a future, which is even more frightening.

Sometimes, I am afraid that the love that I have worked so hard to manage will not have an ending, and in the end, the two will not be able to go to the end. There are many loves that don't have a good ending, such as Liang Zhu Shuangshuang, Romeo and Juliet. Many times, we are also worried that our love has been running for so many years, but in the end it only blossoms and does not bear fruit, and after years of affection, two people parting ways, which can be very painful.

We also fear being hurt, of going through this pain again.

24-year-old age of love, for highly educated people, he has just arrived at social work, the economic conditions are not very good, he will think that he can not meet the economic requirements of girls, now young people fall in love is based on the economy, because he has just arrived in the society to work The economic conditions are not very good, so he wants to work hard at work. Lay a good foundation for your own economy, and if your economic conditions are not good, you will feel a lot of pressure. And for a boy who walks in society in his teens and twenties, his pressure is not so great, and he has worked in society for several years and has a certain economic foundation.

Twenty-four years old is a very good age to fall in love, girls who have just entered the society are easy to accept his age, his basic skills in all aspects are already very solid, and there is no economic hindrance. Therefore, whether this question varies from person to person cannot be generalized, or I wish a lover a family member.

I think you think so, it may be because of two reasons, on the one hand, you haven't been in a relationship and then you, for love or in a wait-and-see attitude, not particularly confident to try it, of course, you can also understand, because people are always afraid of the first time, after all, it is something that has not been contacted, so the courage is definitely not so big, so, your fear and worry are also understandable, so yes, don't be too disgusted with yourself How are you so timid, You just think that as long as you take the first step, everything will slowly get better So, if there is love, you should be bold to meet it, take the first step bravely, I believe you will always slowly learn how to love

There is also a situation where you have been emotionally traumatized, so you are afraid that it is another emotional trap. You have a feeling of being bitten by a snake and being afraid of the well rope for ten years, of course, you can also be understood, after all, you are also a person who has been injured and will inevitably be frightened, but what, we are not saying that if you meet a scumbag, you will meet a scumbag for the rest of your life? So, you have to believe that life will always get better and better, and you don't have to worry about being brave enough to try, and you may have met a good person who can be entrusted for life

As for love, everyone has a different definition, in my opinion, long-term love should be an evenly matched, comparable game, rather than a collapse of one party. Find an evenly matched person to fall in love, you have your ideals, I have my pursuit, you have your space, I have my freedom. You know what I want to say and stop, I know your laughter and silence.

Even if you don't say anything to each other, you won't be awkward to sit together. <>

Maybe you have a great fear of love, maybe it's because you have encountered some difficulties in love before. You can slowly self-regulate and then go to customer service.

When we are single, we crave love, once we fall in love, we feel afraid, especially in the evaluation of self-esteem, we feel that we are not doing well, and when we face the opposite sex, we feel that we are suffering from gains and losses, especially when we see the people around us in normal love, we feel that we are not in the state. True love makes us vulnerable. Two people in love means mutual compromise and acceptance of each other, but also a change in some habits when single, every love journey, need two people to explore the shared field together, but this field is unknown, we are afraid of this unknown field, two people love each other means that we have to give others trust, but also accept others, which breaks the original cognitive system, makes us feel vulnerable.

New love awakens old wounds. When starting a new relationship, it is inevitable to think of those emotional hurts in the past, which will affect the perception of love, and because of the past hurts, let us be cautious in the face of love. Worry about the pain of love.

Being together means that two people have to enjoy each other's lives together, but also share some complex problems, and we will be hesitant to face love because of the fear of the pain caused by these problems.

The deeper the love, the more you will suffer from gains and losses. The more a person loves each other, the more afraid they are of losing, and some people will "find problems" for each other in order to overcome this fear, and some will give up the relationship. In this case, we must first accept ourselves and have faith in ourselves, and in the process we need to realize what is bothering our hearts.

From a psychological point of view, want and dare not want, these two emotions appear in opposition, capricious, some people obviously like kittens and dogs, but never dare to raise them. The possible reason may be that there has been a sense of loss that is unforgettable, and those lost memories fill our psyche, always reminding us of some negative consequences that may occur. As a result, we will be in trouble.

In fact, the solution is very simple, just wait for someone who truly loves you to appear, and then you find that you also love each other. When you are longing for love but afraid of love, please learn to accept yourself, realize what is bothering our hearts, and understand how this worry affects us, which is the first step to a good relationship.

This is the fear of marriage, you want to fall in love and look forward to love, but you are afraid of marriage, you will also be afraid of love, which means that you have a fear of marriage.

This is a kind of fearful psychology, it may be that I have been hurt emotionally before, so I don't dare to touch it at all now. Such psychology should be improved.

It is a very normal psychology, and it may have been hurt in love before, so now it is both eager and afraid.

Everyone will be very eager for a beautiful love, then at the same time, there will be some people who suffer from love phobia, which refers to some fears in love, obviously want to love but dare not love, obviously have the ability to love, but control themselves not to press. The specific symptom is that he is afraid that he will fall into it after falling in love with someone else and cannot extricate himself, he is hurt in love, he is afraid of rejecting the person he likes, he is afraid of losing the other person when he loves him the most, and he is afraid that love is not as beautiful as he imagined.

For people who are bold in love, self-confidence is the greatest courage, and they must also have the courage and tolerance to accept each other. Confident people can freely face all kinds of uncertainties brought about by love, as well as constantly try in difficulties, and strive to pursue the results they want in love, maybe we are all such a person, on the surface looks cheerful, lively, comfortable, but in fact there will be some fear in the heart, there will be an inexplicable fear of unknown things, sometimes prefer to live in their own imagination, rather than face reality.

Sometimes it is inevitable that you will be hurt in love, and some people will experience the failure of love, which leads to no confidence in love, and dare not enter love from a new place, and dare not accept love, especially people who attach great importance to feelings, give their sincerity and give their all in a relationship, but in the end they get nothing, leaving only empty memories and ending in love. Therefore, in order to protect yourself from harm, you will let yourself live in protection, and not to start a new relationship is the best protection for yourself, and you have chosen the path of loneliness.

When entering a new relationship, it is inevitable to think of the past, will think of the past love brought their own harm, so that they are afraid of love, dare not move forward, when they think of each other to bear some complex problems, they will worry that these problems will bring harm to each other, and then hesitate, the deeper the love, the easier it is to suffer from gains and losses, the easier it is to be afraid that the other party will leave themselves will continue to have contradictions in love, unable to accept the occurrence of this relationship.

Because love is a very beautiful thing and can give people a very sweet feeling, but if you meet a scumbag, then love will be full of pain.

It may be that you are afraid of failure, or you may be afraid of encountering some emotional damage, and you may be afraid that you will be particularly afraid of getting married in the future. will be particularly afraid.

This is because they especially want someone to understand them and have someone to accompany them, but they are afraid that this person will hurt them and eventually leave them, so they will yearn for love and fear love.

These zodiac signs are Aries, Taurus, Aquarius, Libra, and Sagittarius. It's because they're so unconfident that they don't deserve to be loved.

These zodiac signs are Aries, Taurus, Scorpio, Aquarius, and Cancer. They are afraid that they will be hurt because they feel that they will be very upset and devastated.

There are signs such as Leo, Gemini, Pisces, Scorpio and Taurus, who are not brave in their feelings, are mentally retarded, and dare not say the love in their hearts.

I longed for love, but I was afraid to touch it, I wanted someone to love, and I was afraid of being hurt. Some people crave love, but don't dare to touch it, are you in this state now? Sometimes I want to be in love, sometimes I don't want to be in love, I want to warm someone, but not only can't I get the warmth, but I am also afraid of being hurt.

Friends have had heartache in love. In that love, he worked really hard to maintain the relationship between the two people.

He wronged himself and paid for her, thinking that the two of them could go on. But the relationship between two people will not stand the test of time in the end. Since then, he has never been in a relationship again.

It's not that I don't want to speak, I just don't want to go through the pain of heartache again. Although he usually smiles and is not stereotyped, I know that he still longs to be loved, understood, and someone can give him warmth, but he is not confident in himself, and he is afraid that he will not be loved and will be hurt. So he wrapped himself in a hedgehog, reluctant to approach others, afraid of being approached.

Sometimes if you love someone too much, you will really lose the ability to love others again. It's not that I don't want to love, but I don't dare to love. A netizen recently sent a private message saying that someone was pursuing her.

Nice, gentle, considerate, and most importantly really caring about her, but she was hurt by her previous feelings, so she couldn't touch love anymore. So wanted to ask my opinion. I listened to her and asked her.

So do you like him? She said she liked it. So I told her.

In fact, you already have the answer in mind. You want to accept him.

It's just that your previous love made you a little taboo, afraid of being with this person, and wanting to be hurt like your previous relationship, so you hesitated. In fact, you don't have to worry at all. Just because the last relationship is hurt doesn't mean the relationship is hurt.

Be confident in yourself and believe that you can manage the relationship well.

But I believe that in the hearts of these people, I want to meet people who can understand them, care about them, and love them. I believe that it is only because love has been hurt that love can no longer be easily touched. But man, always look forward, look forward.

We cannot live a lifetime with the pain of the past. You wrap your heart in a shell and don't take the initiative to love and don't accept love. You'll regret it eventually.

Plus, you'll regret missing out on someone you should be cherishing. Therefore, if we have a desire for love, everything we have to go through, hurt, pain, I hope mine can help you, I also hope you can help me**, like, support me more, pay more attention to me. If you have any questions and requests, you can leave a message in the comment area, and I will reply one by one.