Why are you afraid to express yourself?

However, if you are not good at expressing yourself, then it means that you have the ability to express yourself in language and gain the heart. Well, the inferiority complex is strong, and if you want to see a better change in yourself, you can communicate with others more. Let me.

I think the reason why I'm afraid to express myself is because I don't have self-confidence and I don't think I'm very good, so I don't really like these feelings, but sometimes I can't control myself.

The reason why I don't dare to express myself is that I am very timid, very introverted, and afraid to speak, so I think this is the most important reason why I dare not express my wishes.

Because it may have something to do with your own family education, sometimes you are very grateful to him in your heart, but you can't say it, so whether we are facing love or facing our own family affection, I think many times we are not good at expressing ourselves.

Because sometimes, for example, when I was working, I was less confident, so I didn't believe in myself, and then I was not good at expressing myself, and then I was more introverted.

I don't dare to express myself, or because I have a little inferiority complex in my heart, so I don't dare to express that I feel that I am not good enough, or I feel that I have nothing to express at all, so this phenomenon occurs.

The reason why I don't dare to express myself is because I'm not good enough. The heart is still more introverted, and it may be more restrained to express itself. I am afraid that I will be talked about by others after I express myself.

Because, I don't feel like I have anything to show off too much, and sometimes I hate people who show themselves too much. So I didn't dare to express myself.

I don't dare to express myself because I'm shy, I think that everyone has their own weaknesses in this world, and this is one of my weaknesses, but I will try to change my weaknesses and make myself stronger.

I am not good at expressing myself because I am usually a very shy person, and I don't take the initiative to talk to others about what I think in my heart, so I am not very good at expressing my true thoughts.

Hello, glad to answer for you.

You are not very good at expressing your words, presumably you are an introverted person, maybe you have no bad intentions, you are very kind, but you can't express yourself, and you are not good at communicating with people with words or expressions in front of others, so it is easy to be misunderstood and inunderstood by others, causing your feelings to hurt. It is recommended that you start with polite language with strangers, relatives may be a little embarrassed at first, you can take it step by step, don't put pressure on yourself, maintain a good attitude, love life from the bottom of your heart, be grateful to others, emotions are psychological exposure, I believe that your ability can definitely change yourself! Reading more books on communication can help you make a difference.

I don't know how to express myself, which means that I am not very good at using words to show my strengths, I don't know how to play my strengths when communicating with people, I am not mentally prepared to talk to people, I don't know how to speak, and I can only listen to each other silently. It's also not very good at expressing yourself.

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First of all, if you are not good at expressing yourself, whether it is your thoughts or your ability or whatever, then you can silently develop your ability, because it is gold, it will always shine, and in this era, as long as you have the ability, you will not be afraid that others will not see it.

As long as your abilities are strong enough, then you will definitely be discovered one day

Ask a question and enter a new environment each time. For example, when I go to relatives, I will be very entangled the night before, and I just can't fit in when I see them chatting.

Because if you forcibly fit in, it will be very embarrassing.

It's embarrassing to ask yourself.

And when you go to relatives, you don't really need to talk too much.

Ask questions about the things they care about, they are all a**keep saying, I'm always in **, I don't know what to say, I'll be at a loss, so it's not good, a meal will take a long time, it's not good if you don't talk all the time, you can't find a topic at all.

Because if you don't catch something, and then tell him about it yourself, it's easy to goof, and then people will laugh at it.

Know yourself correctly.

Learn to look at problems from multiple angles, look at and evaluate yourself comprehensively and dialectically, not only to see your own shortcomings truthfully, but also to see your own strengths appropriately, and we must not fail to see our own shortcomings and superiorities because of some of our inferiorities. It is necessary to discover more of your strengths and build self-confidence. It is necessary to face failures and setbacks with a rational attitude, to be ambitious, and not to give up the pursuit because of setbacks.

Be good at tapping your own potential, using your own characteristics, boldly trying, and have the courage to fight. Only by objectively evaluating oneself and others, making correct social comparisons with them, can a person help to affirm oneself and overcome an inferiority complex.

Attribute correctly.

You can't think that because you fail once, you can't think that you are incompetent. As everyone knows, the reasons for this failure are likely to be multifaceted, not necessarily due to lack of ability.

Self-encouragement. Before you do something, you should first have the courage and believe that you can do it well. However, in practice, consideration should be given to the difficulties that may be encountered. In this way, even if you fail, you will not cause psychological ups and downs due to psychological preparation in advance, resulting in psychological disorders.

Be good at using praise and affirmation to build your self-confidence. In terms of positive performance, correct practices, and subtle progress in work, study, and thinking, we should adopt a certain way to give timely and appropriate evaluation and encouragement, and set new demands on ourselves, so that we can be encouraged and enhance our self-confidence. When criticizing their shortcomings or mistakes, they should also appropriately affirm their positive factors and ensure that there is encouragement in the criticism.

People with low self-esteem are generally more sensitive and fragile and cannot withstand the blows of setbacks. Therefore, it should be noted that we should be good at self-satisfaction and contentment. When it comes to learning, don't set your goals too high.

The right goals can make you successful, which is the best motivation for yourself and helps to improve your self-confidence. After that, you can adjust the goal appropriately and strive for the second and third successes. In the motivation of continuous success, constantly enhance self-confidence.

Use positive self-suggestion.

When you feel low on confidence in certain situations, consider using verbal cues: "If someone else can do it, I can do it." "If others can succeed, I can succeed too."

This gives you the confidence to change the status quo. Constantly reminiscing about what you have succeeded with your efforts, or imagining what you will succeed about, can boost your self-confidence.

In fact, it is a layer of window paper, take the first step bravely, you will succeed, if you are always entangled in dare and dare, it is destined not to succeed.

I've been participating in the group dynamics group lately, and this week is the last one for this issue, and for various reasons, I don't want to participate in the next group event.

The teacher said at the beginning that this was the last class, and hoped that the students would say everything they didn't say, don't leave regrets, and talk about their true thoughts and attitudes.

Other students are expressing their feelings, gains, etc., talking about how uncomfortable it is to be separated, and so on.

But I talked about last week's harvest and said that what I was most afraid of was fear.

At this time, the teacher asked: Do you not want to face separation?

Because other students are talking about the emotions of the moment.

And I ran away.

It felt like I wasn't going to be in the next group event.

I was scared and panicked.

The expression is unnatural.

It's as if the dark self has been seen through.

The fear of being found out resurfaced.

When I was a child, I was worried that others would say that I was poor.

All sorts of cover-ups. The reason I didn't want to participate this time was because I didn't have enough money.

Actually, it has always been.

I feel like I'm fake.

Inability to communicate with others.

Make friends to a certain extent.

Just choose to leave.

Make new friends again.

Worry about others seeing the bad side of you.

I don't want people to see who I really are.

A black self.

Cowardly, selfish,

Vain, shameless

Incompetence, shame

Angry, ugly, hypocritical

At that moment, the secret of my Feng Lutong was revealed.

I hated that self and hid her deeply.

The other side of me.

So I'm on a fake.

And the solution of all problems is based on seeking truth from facts.

Have the courage to face the truth.

My fact is that I am small and incompetent.

I'm ashamed to face it.

In my survival experience.

Bad is the same as being abandoned.

Bad is not loved.

Bad means you can't survive.

Bad equals death.

Black self.

I desperately tried to get rid of her.

Hide her in a hidden corner.

Don't let people touch it.

The secret. Hold me back.

I was selfish.

I'm just incompetent.

I am hypocrite.

I'm okay with all of that.

I'll allow it all. This is the whole me.

It is all too common in our society that children are only allowed to express positive emotions.

Many parents want their children to be happy, sunny, cheerful, brave, strong, etc

As a result, parents will say stop crying when their children are injured and crying; Forcing children to show enthusiasm when they resist strangers; Blame and criticize children when they refuse toys or foods they don't like.

Perhaps the parents' intentions are good, and the parents hope that the child can become a positive and optimistic person from an early age, but this is depriving the child of the right to express his true feelings, and is denying the child's honesty to himself.

Over time, children will develop cognitive biases, not knowing that their needs can be met, and will have thoughts of shame and guilt about their normal needs.

Struggling with one's own needs and negative criticism of oneself, this way of thinking is slowly imprinted in the child's brain, forming a harsh inner judge in the child's body, and even when he grows up, the child does not dare to express his true self, and it is difficult for the child to be happy.

If we ourselves are children who have grown up like this, then from this moment on, we must carefully discern which are the critical voices from childhood, listen to the true voice of our hearts, and try to affirm and satisfy ourselves.

If we have children, we should be more patient and tolerant of them, and guide them to express their whole self, positive or negative, as long as it is real, it should be taken seriously.

We can tell children that your wishes and needs can be expressed, and that pain can be cried; You can stop laughing when you're unhappy; When you're lonely, you can ask for companionship....

In short, people are a whole, there are not only positive sides but also negative sides, which side is normal, all to be paid attention to, we have to help ourselves and our children to be honest with themselves, disgusted with Zen to express themselves positively.