You have to try to be the right person, not wait to meet the right person. What is the meaning?

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I swiped a comment on Weibo before, and after reading it, I pondered for a while. The blogger said that the point is that a girl can be with a boy who is much older than herself? (about 20 years older) The following comments all say that as long as a girl finds the right person, it doesn't matter if he's older than you or younger than you.

And then a comment jumped into my eyes, maybe now you find that person, he is very mature, can care about you, take care of you, but you have to think about it, maybe the boyfriend you are giving up now, who is as young as you, will be more mature than him when she is her age, and knows how to take care of people. This is the price that the girl who takes the shortcut must pay.

Many people want to find their true daughter or Prince Charming, so they are waiting on the way to happiness, and at this time they forget and turn themselves into a good person.

I have a friend by my side, and since the day I met him, in my eyes, he has always been a very hard worker, and of course he is very good in his own right. He looks good, his academic performance is very good, especially his family conditions are quite superior, and he is recognized as rich and handsome in everyone's eyes.

But she was not satisfied with the family giving them these things, he said that these things always belonged to his parents, if he wanted what he wanted, he had to rely on his own hands to get it, and after college, he also found a girlfriend, and the girl was also a particularly good person.

I want to say that when we still have to dream of finding our own Prince Charming, people have already found their own princess.

There is a saying that if you bloom, butterflies will come. If you want to find the right person, you must first turn yourself into a good person.

Because only if you have the right person in your own room, the round socks will meet the right person, and the law of gravity will not become orange and wild when you want to meet someone, you must first become what kind of person.

1.To take charge of your own life. 2.True love is not something to be waited for, but something to be earned.

Because we become better, we will meet more amazing and better people, and we will be the last right person.

Finding the "right person" to build intimacy may mean that we need to let go of some old things, be able to show our vulnerability, and break old ......

Catherine, an internationally renowned marriage relationship therapist, told such a story in "Seven Weeks to Meet the Right Person":

My hairdresser, Kelly, recounted her courtship, and when she saw him, she recognized the man almost immediately, and she felt a great deal of respect and strong attraction to the man she wanted to live with. Soon they entrust themselves to each other and build a relationship.

But the engagement was still a very difficult time for her. As the wedding approached, the reality of living with this man forced her to examine some of the habits and patterns she had developed over the years. She discovers that her strong and independent self-image is actually detrimental to their loving relationship.

She had to allow herself to let go of the emotional armor to which she had become accustomed, and to become more vulnerable and defenseless than before.

She also had to let go of a fantasy she had in her childhood: to please her father by marrying someone like him. Her fiancé is not at all like her father, and although they are both polite and worthy of respect, it is actually a bit awkward for the two to stay together.

Slowly, Kelly let go of things that were inconsistent with the life he had promised to create. In this way, their marriage proposal process became a period of adjustment that included a lot of losses and Kelly's psychological maturity.

This story contains two important hints from the book.

First, when true love happens, it is often when we unload our "strong and independent" defenses, and are willing to show our fragile and soft sides, and when we are willing to show our weaknesses.

My personal advice is to take the initiative to tell a friend or someone you like about some of your perceived shortcomings (even if you can't accept yourself yet). You'll be amazed at how much they may not matter to the other person, or even what they think is unique about you.

Second, if we want to meet the right person, we must first become the right person for that person. This requires us to let go of old conventions and beliefs – whether we have always wanted to find a partner who is like or opposite to our parents; Whether we subconsciously decide that if my mother is unhappy, I will also have the same experience as Wang Hui to be loyal to her; My happiness has been taken away by my first love ......

These deep beliefs make up the destiny of our relationships, and only by dissolving them can we embrace a new life.

We'll talk about it next time.

Summary. Isn't there a saying that if you bloom, butterflies will come? Only when we first change ourselves and let the state of life change, then you will open up a new situation.

Only when you become the right person first, will you meet the right person, isn't there a saying that changes Zen knowledge that if you bloom butterflies, the nucleus will disappear. I tell you that only by changing yourself and changing your life will you open up a new situation.

Because if you want to live what kind of life and what kind of person you want to become, then don't hesitate to do it right now, only when you walk on the road you want to go, you will meet people who walk with you in the front sock link. Even if you can't meet someone with you, then there should be no regrets, because even if you are a person, you are also the path you want to take, and you are also the life you want to live.

Life needs to be ritualistic, but don't put it off and think what will happen when I get married, if you really want to, start now. As we said, there is no dress rehearsal in life, or the round ant does not wait until someone to start, but you start the life you want, and then you will meet people who appreciate you.

Change is not all about meeting the right person, the most important thing is to please yourself first, and you must have the ability to be happy when you are smiling, and live as you want. In this way, it doesn't matter if you meet your destiny or not. There will be no regrets, because when you are alone, your life will not be settled.

If you don't have you in your heart, you can't do it.

This society is very realistic. But we don't have to influence ourselves because of what others do. You can live well on your own. Had a fulfilling life.

Yes. Well, everything must be done well before we can ask others, just as we make ourselves excellent, then we can find people who are also excellent.