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Dependence is a normal phenomenon, people live, it is impossible to be alone, more or less ask for help from others, so dependence is very normal. But remember, nothing can be excessive, and so is dependence. There is no one in the world who is completely not dependent on others.

Those who seem to be independent are either really capable or stubborn. It is true that capable people can pursue independence, but if they are stubborn, forget it. Truth be told, dependency is not a bad thing, but over-reliance is certainly not a good thing.

So you have to be square, think about whether you are overly dependent, and if so, change it. Of course, the method of change is ineffable, and it is up to you to understand it. Because whether it is dependent or independent, in the end, you can only rely on yourself, and this will not change.

People are dependent, sometimes it is not a bad thing to rely on others, and it is a happy thing to have someone to rely on. However, relying on others does not mean denying yourself. After all, life is our own, and more often than not, we still have to rely on ourselves.

No one is perfect, and each of us has shortcomings of one kind or another. However, some people can discover their shortcomings in time, and then constantly correct them, even if some shortcomings cannot be changed, they can also make use of their strengths and avoid weaknesses and make themselves more perfect. Such people tend to have a positive and optimistic attitude, can be self-aware, have self-confidence, and can achieve great success in life.

Some people are unable to understand themselves well, and it is difficult to find their own problems, and it is easy to lose self-confidence and blindly deny themselves when they encounter setbacks, so it is difficult to achieve ultimate success.

How should one know oneself? This is the common confusion of people for thousands of years, especially for people who have not yet reached the state of psychological maturity, there are often various deviations in self-understanding, the most common of which are probably the following two: one is excessive inferiority, and the other is excessive arrogance.

People who are prone to excessive inferiority complex are often affected by bad childhood experiences, and only look at their own shortcomings and shortcomings, but cannot see their own strengths. Therefore, the perception of self also falls into a negative trap, showing an excessive inferiority complex. People who are overly arrogant often show excessive self-esteem due to their superior living environment or low self-esteem, and only look at their own good side and cannot see their own defects and deficiencies.

These two immature modes of self-knowledge will cause all kinds of problems in people's lives.

Assertion of oneself cannot be a matter of one or two days, nor can it be achieved in one thing. If you want to become confident and feel no worse than others, you must train from small things, and the most effective thing is to exercise eloquence. Once on the subway, a little girl standing next to me, soft and weak, took out a book from her bag and suddenly read it aloud without warning.

I was taken aback, and the people around me looked at the little girl in surprise, and even said: "Neurotic, inexplicable."

Maybe it's because of your personality, I think people should put their posture high, there is no need to whisper in front of others because of something, I think once you have the first time, it will definitely exist many times.

Because some people have low self-esteem in life, they will unconsciously want to please others, in fact, this is all due to their own lack of confidence, so if we want to be affirmed by others often, we can look down on others' opinions of us, strengthen our inner thoughts, and live our own characteristics.

You are your biggest master, you do things according to your own wishes, and the most important thing is to be happy, not to look at other people's faces.

In fact, each of us craves attention. However, we can't please others, and we can't rely on others. You can't ask for help. Be yourself.

I feel that it is also related to your own attitude towards life, you don't care too much about other people's eyes, do your best, live as you want, and you will no longer have to work hard to please others.

These are all one's instincts, and if you want to be pure in the six roots, you may have to take refuge in my Buddha. Focus on the results and gains, and appropriately ignore the process and other people's tongues.

Because of family reasons, I have a little low self-esteem, I am particularly dependent on my ex-boyfriend, and I tend to be a pleasing type when I get along with friends. It's true that my family loves me, but they don't understand me, so they especially want to be understood and noticed. As a result, I will be restless because of other people's opinions and practices, which will affect my life.

My family didn't understand me, my friends couldn't stay with me wholeheartedly, and after the breakup, I felt that my lover was not very reliable. There is no fixed object of emotional communication, and whoever is caught can't help but pour out. I'm also helpless.

You should try to put your eyes on yourself and pay attention to whether you are happy or not.

Sometimes dependence will really make people look down on, not everyone is willing to let you rely on, there is no reason and condition that can be exchanged, why should others make you dependent, even if you are as beautiful as a fairy, you can count it as a reason, if not, what do you think.

Always understand the direction of your friendship and the purpose of your friendship, and don't blindly please others.

Psychology can help you analyze your relationship better.

For example, the other person's emotions can be analyzed through psychological knowledge, and then react further, and the other person's words or events can also be analyzed according to psychology, and whether there are other meanings in these words.

Psychology allows you to know what the other person needs, what they think, and you can make the most appropriate judgment to further the relationship.

Psychology can undoubtedly improve a person's emotional intelligence, but of course it is just about applying psychology to life.

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It is recommended that you read "Zhixin", "Psychology", ...... Chinese MedicineIt's not difficult to see through a person, first of all, you can't look at everyone you come into contact with with colored eyes, but look at their appearance naturally and calmly, what kind of face shape, what kind of personality they have, the thickness of their forehead lines, whether they are obvious, and whether their complexion is uniform and ......are available for your reference to roughly distinguish the personality ...... this personThen there are the physical details that can help you determine what kind of work the person is doing......

Finally, there is the conversation, like a fortune teller, grasping the inner world of the person in words and details......

Having said so much is actually empty talk, the important thing is to learn more, watch more, and think more. For example, the reading and hearing in traditional Chinese medicine is very referenced, plus the character traits of the nine physique inductions. For the details of the body, pay more attention to the various groups of people around you.

If you are unhappy and can't solve it on your own, go for a psychological consultation. You want to make friends with knowledge of psychology, you are greedy for this cheap, be careful of being taken advantage of!

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