What if I only love myself? Why do I only love myself

Don't worry, to be honest, I have the same feeling, that is, "I appreciate myself from the heart", "I don't care about anyone but myself", but this "appreciation" or "not care" is not absolute. You can't appreciate yourself and treat others differently, right? There must be a difference between good and bad for others, and even if it is bad for others, there is also a difference in the degree of badness.

You don't care about others, you're not completely autistic and don't communicate, are you? There are certainly differences in the level of interest in others.

You just have to find the "most" among a bunch of people (except yourself).

To be honest, I've never been in a relationship either, but I've chased others, and I didn't succeed. I feel like I love him and her very much, but I don't feel as much as I love myself. But I love him more than anyone else, and she just does.

It's not wrong to love yourself, and those who know how to love themselves will love others. It's just that you don't love yourself too much, because this world must be appreciated and cared for by everyone to continue.

Try to start with small improvements, start with compliments from the heart, and you will find that you will be happy to praise others.

Very human! Off the beaten path! Just go your own way! Love whoever you are!

Narcissism is good, why get married? 、

"Who loves me, who I love" is a relatively shallow emotional view, that is, only when the other person shows liking or affection for themselves, they will respond and produce the same feelings. There are some problems with this view of emotions to a certain extent.

First of all, there is the superficial and utilitarian nature of this view of emotion. If a person only focuses on how much love they can get and how much attention they get, then they can easily become utilitarian when dealing with feelings. People with this view of emotions are obviously more likely to be confused by superficial attraction and ignore the inner qualities and genuine emotional communication.

Secondly, this emotional outlook is also prone to unnecessary annoyance and anxiety. If a person is only concerned about whether they are liked by the other person, then they are likely to fall into a state of doubt and insecurity. When they don't get a reply from the other person or the other person doesn't show it obviously, they will feel lost and frustrated, and even begin to doubt their own charm and worth.

In addition, this view of emotion can also lead to people losing sight of other important relationship values. If a person always puts their emotional needs first, then they are likely to neglect other important interpersonal relationships such as family, friendships, co-worker relationships, etc. This can cause them to become selfish in their relationships and have difficulty building healthy and stable relationships.

However, at the same time, it is important to note that the emotional view of "who loves me, I love whom" is not completely wrong or useless. To a certain extent, this emotional outlook can promote communication and interaction between people. When a person expresses affection for another person, it makes the other person feel noticed and valued, which increases the intimacy between them.

At the same time, if this emotional outlook can be used reasonably, it can also be a good emotional management strategy to help people better deal with complex interpersonal relationships.

In conclusion, the emotional view of "who loves me and who I love" has certain limitations and problems, but there are also positive aspects. When dealing with the emotions between ourselves and others, we should look at and deal with them with a more open, tolerant and rational attitude, and we should focus on inner qualities and real emotional communication. Only in this way can we build healthier, more stable, and long-lasting relationships.

I think that a person who lacks love in childhood, when he grows up, especially after starting a family, does not know how to love others, and at the same time desperately tries to ask for love, the basic law is like this. I don't know if you've ever met someone like that.

A friend cried to me that her husband didn't love her, and that she rode her bicycle to work on weekdays, a distance of more than ten miles, leaving early and returning late. There is a car at home, which is usually driven by the husband.

Once, it was raining heavily, and after work, she was expecting her husband to pick her up, and she also thought that her husband was fine at home, and he would definitely pick up her ...... after such a heavy rainAfter waiting for a long time, she didn't wait, she hit **, and her husband didn't pick up, she rode home in the rain, and when she opened the door, her husband and son (who also went to college) were eating at home .........She said that she couldn't understand why her husband and children never loved her when she gave all her love to this family......Speaking of this, she cried into tears, and I handed her a tissue, and I could see that she had infinite grievances and resentment, as well as infinite incomprehension and doubts. Because she is friends and knows a little about their family, she and her husband have similar childhoods, and their mother died when they were teenagers, and they lack delicate maternal love at the same time.

After they are attracted to each other and get married, they are desperately trying to find the missing maternal love in childhood, and at the same time they don't know how to love each other, don't think that all the dedication to the family is love. And we need to understand the real needs of our hearts, understand the real needs of the other party, not unprincipled giving, and expect each other's giving. When you can't meet your own ideas and needs, it will turn into grievances and resentment.

In fact, in this case, two people love each other very much, nothing more than don't know how to love, in this case, we must communicate more, express our inner needs to each other, to be straightforward, to express their inner feelings, slowly, after a long time, understand their inner needs, but also understand what the other party needs, so that the two hearts that once lacked love will slowly warm each other and have more strength for each other.