Why do children resist their parents? Why do some children resist their parents?

If you take care of him often, every time you feel good to him, in fact, he doesn't like it at all, and of course he will resist his parents. Whether the child's resistance to the care of the parents is that the parents bring less when the baby is young, the company when he is a child is very important, and the parents communicate on the premise of understanding the child.

There are many children who resist their parents because their parents' parenting methods are a little incorrect, or too extreme. Children are insecure, and we need to know how to take care of their emotions at this time. lest the child resist you because he does not feel your love.

I think children resist their parents because they have some problems with the way they communicate with each other. It may be that parents can't accept their children's education. So it will make children have such a mentality.

I think the way children and parents get along should be to communicate and understand each other. Parents should not make their own decisions about everything, they should listen to their children's opinions, and children should also think from the perspective of their parents.

Part of the reason may be that the parents' education methods are inappropriate, which leads to the child's resistance, and a large part of the reason is that the child is in adolescence, and he can't listen to his parents' words, has his own ideas, and wants to make his own decisions, so when his parents intervene in him at this time, he will resist his parents.

It may be that children's understanding of their parents is that their parents will blindly pay for themselves and will not leave them, so when they do something, it is especially easy to hurt their parents and feel that their parents will not leave him, or do something that makes them feel bad.

To a certain extent, I feel that there may be certain shortcomings in the way children and parents communicate, sometimes we must know how to empathize, and at the same time try to understand some of the children's feelings, and then communicate and exchange with them with an equal attitude.

Because I don't like what my parents say about me. This kind of comparison is a kind of mandatory destruction of the child's self-evaluation system, which destroys the child's psychological balance, is not conducive to the child's inner growth, is more likely to make the child frustrated, makes the child lose confidence, and causes psychological resistance to parents.

Everyone has more or less resistance to the negative emotions brought to them by the original family in adulthood, so that every time they think of some childhood things, they will still be indignant in their hearts, and they will have more boredom with their parents, a happy childhood ** life, an unhappy childhood needs a lifetime **, if there are a lot of problems in adulthood, the whole person will become more and more sensitive, because some trivial things think of the parents before, and there will be something called "hate" at the moment, but at the same time, The inner contradiction is incomparable, every time they face to face to speak loudly or accuse them of the chain, the heart falls into endless regret and self-blame, and then the whole person is not good, maybe someone said, only children who are not, there are no parents who are not, but I think this logic is too sage, after all, some things have not been personally experienced and can not understand the mood of the parties, irresponsible parents educate a person with low self-esteem, sensitivity and insecurity, in fact, it doesn't matter if you don't have the ability to give it to future generations materially, The relationship between the main parents and the family atmosphere is really too important for the child, after living independently for a period of time, one day after returning to the familiar family, it will feel particularly depressed, there is a feeling of not wanting to stay for a moment, this contradictory and painful heart will be magnified especially at night, and then insomnia, all kinds of bad things in childhood are not good, and they begin to want to put on a movie like a scene come out, and then I feel incomprehensible, the same is why parents tease and parents treat their children differently, In addition to the reason that some rural parents are not educated, I feel that most of them are caused by my selfish nature, every time I see the textbook that my parents are great and selfless, but I can't understand where my parents are great and selfless, at that time, I just hypnotized my parents are right, and when I find that those things that I have always thought are right are actually wrong, that feeling has not been able to reconcile with myself! It really takes a lot to be a parent, if you can't be a qualified parent, it's better not to give birth to him (her).

It's not that today's children are against their parents, or they haven't been disciplined since they were young, and sometimes some parents are still children themselves, so the way of management is different, so there will be some nagging, which makes the child feel very bored.

When a child wants to do things according to his or her own ideas, he is actually developing his independence. Wanting to be oneself is also a process for children to develop an inner sense of spiritual security, and children should rebel against the surrounding environment to test their own abilities to see if they have the ability to deal with external evaluations, so as to build inner trust in themselves. When understanding the positive meaning of "confrontation" at this stage, parents should allow their children to so-called "confrontation" or "rebellion", so that children can develop a higher level of autonomy and a higher level of security, and only when they become adults, can children have the ability to face and deal with the difficulties they encounter independently.

Therefore, what adolescent parents need to do: not to guide their children to continue to be "obedient", but to adjust the way parents love their children. This kind of adjustment is not the same as "no matter", but helps the child to develop the inner management ability, which is closely related to the parent-child relationship before the child enters puberty.

Be a warm and firm parent. Children must be mentally secure enough to be able to move from needing external management from their parents to relying on self-management. A sense of security initially depends on the love that parents have for their children.

Because when children feel that they are surrounded by love, they will have a strong sense that the world is safe, warm and full of kindness, and they dare to boldly leave their parents without worrying about the troubles they will encounter anytime and anywhere. With this feeling, babies who are originally clinging to their mothers have a sense of security dare to climb out to explore the outside world, children can successfully sleep in separate rooms, can leave the familiar home to go to kindergarten, and can bravely face challenges again and again from kindergarten to primary and secondary schools.

For children, no amount of love can be overstated. But as the child grows, the love of the parents has to be upgraded. For example, it is no longer a blind hall to sleep with the child intimately, no longer to help the child take a bath, etc., but to show a hug before leaving home for school in the morning, or a snack when he comes home from school, or give him an independent and quiet ......space when the child is doing homeworkThere are different ways of expressing love, but it is important that children are able to feel loved, valued, and protected.

In addition to making children feel the warmth of their parents, parents also need to establish rules for their children. In this way, the child understands what the parents expect of themselves, and what the consequences will be if they violate this expectation, which is the parents' external management of the child. If the parents' external management is not firm and inconsistent, the child will feel that everything is okay and will not know what can and cannot be done.

There may be few or no choices for children all the time. When the child is older and has the ability to resist, he will resist.

Because the current children are under too much pressure, the hope given by parents is like hoping that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix, putting the child's feelings out of the way, the child's pressure has nowhere to vent, and can only collapse Li relies on weak resistance to alleviate the discomfort in his heart, and the parents will think that the child's resistance is dissatisfied with themselves, in fact, they only need the father to disturb the mother and the child to sit down and have a good talk, talk about it, talk about it, and understand the child's mood more.

Preamble: There are many parents who want their children to be obedient because parents are very busy with their work and do not have time to discipline their children. I think parents must learn to respect their children, and we should not force children to accept their parents' concepts, so that children are very prone to resistance.

At the same time, parents must give their children full love, and we must let them feel the love of their parents, so that children can grow up healthy and happy. There are many parents who want to force their children to study, but if parents keep doing this, it is easy for children to become bored with school.

There are many parents who feel that their children are still young and do not understand many big truths, so they force their children to accept the concepts of parents. Some parents even arrange their children's lives, feeling that this behavior of parents is completely interfering in their children's lives, and for children, he is an independent individual who needs to live his own life. If parents keep doing this, it is very easy for children to resist.

Therefore, it is recommended that parents must learn to respect their children, there are many parents who have good intentions, but the practice is wrong, if they keep doing this, then the distance between them and their children will become farther and farther. When a child reaches puberty, it is very easy to resist.

Parents know the importance of learning, but their children are still young and they are more playful, so many parents force their children to study and even monitor their children's learning behavior. I feel that this is completely wrong for parents to do this, and if they do not change their children's interest in learning, then there is no way for children to feel happy in learning. Therefore, I think parents can start by improving their children's interest in learning, and we can continue to encourage children, so that children can feel their own value and meaning.

Parents should not disturb their children when they are studying, so that they can give their children a good learning atmosphere.

Parents' tough education methods will make children resistant, parents' insistence on their own education, parents do not discuss with their children's education methods, will make children particularly resistant in their hearts, parents have been asking children to listen to their own can not have any complaints, so that children are not happy.

I only see the shortcomings of the child, but I don't see the advantages of the child, often criticize and scold the child, often compare my own child with other people's children, and usually do not pay attention to the child's education.

Strict education, criticism education, indiscriminate child education, forced education, beating and scolding education, there are many ways to educate, you must choose the right one for the child.

Because today's children are more and more eager to infiltrate the forest method, the traditional education of parents can no longer teach children well, children have their own thoughts, know what they want to do, and parents have too much restraint on their children, which will make children disgusted with the business.

Many children feel that they speak differently from their parents, and in life, parents do not understand themselves at all, and they feel that there is a generation gap between their parents and themselves.

Because some parents' education methods are not very good, it will produce great psychological pressure on their children, and they will not respect their children's ideas, resulting in them not wanting to communicate with their parents, nor do they want to listen to them.

A child may not be able to stand the following behaviors from their parents:

1.Excessive control: Parents put too much emphasis on control and guidance, and do not give their children the space to make their own choices and decisions.

2.Lack of listening and respect: Parents do not listen enough to their children's opinions and ideas, ignoring their feelings and needs.

3.Overprotective: Parents are overly concerned and protective of their children, not giving them the opportunity to be independent and grow.

4.Interrupt your child's conversation: Parents often interrupt their child's conversation when they express an opinion or thought, giving them a sense of neglect.

5.Prejudice and discrimination: Parents have prejudiced or discriminatory attitudes towards certain groups, passing on negative values to their children.

These habits can cause children to feel stressed, not understood, and not respected. However, each child's love affair and individual differences are different, so these are just a few common examples and may not apply to all situations.

Summary. This is a natural phenomenon when the child reaches maturity, because he or she already has a physiological response, and the child has a sense of rejection of the opposite sex.

This is a natural phenomenon after the child enters the mature and quiet period, because he (she is a bad friend) already has a physiological reaction, and the child at this time has a sense of rejection of the opposite sex.

After a while, the child finds that there is no need to exclude the opposite sex, and it becomes an attraction to the grinding, and it will not be difficult to get close to the parents.