Perfectionism, OCD, feeling tired of living

When you're done and thinking about something, remember to say to yourself, I've thought about it, don't do it anymore and think about it. Imagine you've shredded it with a shredder. At the same time, you have to actively imagine in your heart, and after you finish thinking about it, you feel safer inside, more powerful, prouder, and more confident than ever before.

When you are able to do this regularly, the psychological problems that once plagued you will go away on their own.

Hello, such troubles are generally related to our sensitive and suspicious, perfect personality and growth environment, as well as personal experience.

Not being able to accept any imperfections is also a manifestation of ego-obsessiveness, clinging to the concept in one's own heart, hoping that everything will develop according to one's own wishes, and when it is not satisfied or offended, it is easy to have inner conflicts and confrontations.

In fact, there is no answer to this kind of inner confrontation, just like you said that there are no two exactly the same things in the world, which will only make you more addicted to repeated examination and thinking, and cannot really eliminate the uneasiness and fear.

It seems like I have the problem you are talking about, and I guess 80% of people have all the situations you mentioned. It's human nature. When I was a child, I thought that I had many shortcomings on my own, but when I grew up, I realized that in fact, people are like this.

So don't worry too much, you just forget about it and it's just fine.

Well, hello this friend. Judging by your description, there are typical obsessive-compulsive disorder and obsessive-compulsive personality.

The so-called obsessive-compulsive personality is prominently manifested as a sense of insecurity, imperfection, and uncertainty, so it has the following manifestations. Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder is characterized by excessive cautiousness, strictness and perfectionism, and inner insecurity, and is twice as common in men as in women. This kind of person holds himself to a high standard of perfection and always seems to be unsatisfied with his work and life, so he feels nervous, anxious and distressed.

They are often overly self-restrained, overly self-concerned and overly responsible, usually restrained and cautious, lest mistakes occur, and their minds cannot be relaxed.

In a situation like yours, you should accept psychological ** as soon as possible, and repair your obsessive-compulsive personality and improve your quality of life through techniques such as subconscious input, cognitive adjustment, vipassana meditation, transformation and improvement of sexual energy, self-confidence building, and meditation guidance.

Happy to you.

Counseling is needed.

Psychological suggestion: For example, if you suspect that the car door is not locked, after locking the car door for the first time, stand next to the car and repeatedly tell yourself: "I have locked the car door, now turn around and leave, it's okay!" Repeat this and this a few times, and keep doing it.

Remind yourself not to be too perfectionist in everything.

Perfection is not wrong, your actions are wrong with the perfection you want to get, not with you towards perfection, but against perfection. Perfection is psychologically a psychological identity, not a material perfection.

Perfectionist obsessive-compulsive disorder, some in order to pursue perfection, the heart is unavoidable, thus showing perfectionist syndrome. Because the pursuit of perfection is excessive, it will make people feel anxious, irritable and other symptoms. This not only reduces productivity, but can also lead to damage to the patient's interpersonal relationships and their own physical and mental health.

1. Those with compulsive behaviors should strengthen communication with the outside world and others.

2. Learn to look at problems from multiple perspectives, and don't be limited to your own world and concepts.

3. Consciously force yourself not to doubt yourself.

4. For those who have compulsive behaviors but do not constitute mental illness, psychologists provide several ways to reduce their symptoms:

I don't know how to change OCD, and I don't dare to talk nonsense, but I can talk about perfectionism, because I used to be a perfectionist, and you and I both know that it's not a good thing, so let's talk about how I overcome this mentality.

When I have a perfectionist tendency, it's because I play the game, I have to collect everything, and I have to pass the level perfectly, no injury, or because of some achievements, I can do it all over again, and it's cool to do it again, but before I achieve it, I'm very annoyed, I'm irritable, and I have a nameless fire in my heart that can't be said, and I feel super unhappy as the number of retries increases, and then I bring this anger because of the game to reality.

On the surface, it seems that I have a bad temper and a low tolerance, so my friends alienate me, and my family educates me that as long as a little thing does not come as expected, it will be very angry.

I also realized this problem, and I didn't think much about it at first, but as I failed the academic exams again and again, I began to lose confidence to study, and my grades deteriorated, and I made changes, but as long as it was invalid, I would not continue to persevere.

The end result is that you don't have the confidence and determination to do anything, and you don't do anything because you're afraid of failure.

Then I decided to reflect on myself deeply, the process is to tell myself that in the case of anything, failure is inevitable without trying, and after experiencing the first failure, I must learn to sum up the experience and prepare for the second failure next time, because failure is not only personal ability, but also the influence of objective factors, so as to convince myself.

Second, I learned to manage the process of my own expectations, to have fewer expectations, to feel that I can get 10 things, and to tell myself that there may only be 5

Third, don't care about how things develop, connect with a mentality: let it go, so be it, this is difficult to overcome, but it must be overcome, before the exam starts, I am thinking about how many points I can get, and even start thinking about how to spend the scholarship. So, don't think about it, it's somewhat related to the second point.

Finally, tell yourself that everyone grows through failure, and the difference between your own failure and the failure of others is that you have not learned from experience, and there is no such thing in the world that can succeed on the first attempt, even if it seems that people who can do it once, have actually experienced similar simulations many times before, and have failed many times in the simulation.

Also, there is a problem of an endless cycle, if you want to change the tendency of perfectionism, then be prepared to fail, correcting failure is equivalent to returning to the road of perfectionism, but perfectionism does not allow you to correct failure, you must succeed once