Most of the good old people have no friends, why is that?

I don't know if you have found such a problem, that is, there are many "good people" in the workplace, such people will not offend anyone, they seem to be very kind, and people seem to be very kind, but most of the "good people" have no friends, why is this? Let's talk about this topic together!

1. The "good old man" is reluctant to show his personality.

There will always be "good people" around us, and there are many "good people" in the workplace, "good people" give people the feeling that they are very friendly, and we are willing to ask for help from good people if we have any problems, and we feel that good people have no personality of their own, in fact, good people also have their own personalities, but he is not willing to show his personality, afraid that others will stay away from him, and afraid that his personality will hurt others. In the workplace, if a person is too individual, then there is no assertiveness in doing things, whether it is the relationship between the leader or the unit colleagues and the good man is very ordinary, unwilling to have a deep friendship with such a person, and unwilling to hand over the heavy responsibility to the good man.

Second, no one is embarrassed to refuse.

From the outside, the "good man" is very popular, when a person has a problem, he will ask the good man for advice, and the good man is also willing to help others. In fact, the good man is embarrassed to refuse others, even if he can't do something, he will try his best to help. This will lead to a situation where he is embarrassed to stay away from others when he needs to stay away from others, which leads to the good man having no real friends.

3. "Good old people" are often too mediocre.

The reason why good people always help others and don't have their own characteristics is actually because they are too mediocre, and mediocre people want to be good to others, to show their talents, and it is very important to show themselves. Because the good old man is too mediocre, there is no shining point, and therefore there are no real friends.

A good old man, who is kind to everyone, must not offend people, and even when you encounter difficulties or conflicts with others, he can also be kind to people who have conflicts with you and your difficulties, how dare such a person let people make friends with him, maybe when you tell him everything about him as a friend, he can turn his head and tell your rival.

It is true, because such people are the same to everyone and are not particularly loyal to anyone, so others are the same to them, and they do not regard them as friends at all.

Because the character of the "good old man" is too good and he is very good to everyone, so that the people around him are used to it and will not care.

The good old "don't want to show their personality." There will always be "good people" around us, and there are many "good people" in the workplace, "good people" give people the feeling that they are very friendly, and we are willing to ask for help from good people if we have any problems, but we don't have our own personality and don't want to show our true selves.

As long as others say they need help, they are willing to do anything for others, and if other people's affairs conflict with their own affairs, then they will even give priority to other people's affairs. From a psychological point of view, what they need is a kind of spiritual feedback, that is, the praise and recognition of others.

Others say, ouch, Brother Wang, thank you, hey, you are really a good person, oops, thanks to you, just such a sentence can make the good man feel satisfied. And if there is no spiritual feedback, then he will feel that he has been let down, and the good man will be lost and wronged, and he may change from a good man to an indifferent person.

So why is such a character formed? During their childhood, they often rarely get the affirmation and approval of their parents, so they especially need a place where they can prove that they are worthy, and the needs of others happen to be their opportunity to prove it. Every good old man who is tired of this often has a cry in his heart, do you see?

I'm a good person, I'm a valuable and useful good person, are you willing to praise me?

Those things that we asked for but did not get in our childhood, we often spend the rest of our lives pursuing. If you yourself are such a good old man, my dear, I want to say to you that you have worked hard. I personally think that it is not that women are getting stronger and stronger, but that men are declining more and more, so if men continue to be absent, maybe ten or 20 years later, they will have to change from small fresh meat to breeding pigs, which is a very shameful thing.

At the same time, you can try to spend part of your time and energy helping others on self-growth and time. When your own ability is getting stronger and stronger, when you can recognize and appreciate yourself from the heart, you will no longer rely so much on what kind of feedback and evaluation others give you. Your self-confidence will be more solid.

Good people just don't know how to say no, they don't get angry no matter what others say or do, and they will often help others.

Mental reminder: All along, good people are warm and generous, and will not reject others and make you easy to be welcomed by everyone in communication, especially in the initial stage. However, human beings have the psychology of bullying the weak and fearing the hard, in this kind of psychology, if you always habitually accept any request from others, often play the role of a "good old man", let people inch in you, then gradually you yourself will be physically and mentally exhausted, sooner or later there will be problems.

These people will not refuse others, they are generally more moderate in everything they encounter, their personalities are more easy-going, and they don't want to offend others.