How do you avoid being a bad person at work?

After a period of time in a company, you must be clear about what level of your skills are in the company. Why would the company pay you salary, if someone else is going to come now? Rotten good people can do, at home, to relatives and lovers, the worse the better, but to colleagues and colleagues, to customers and opponents, it is absolutely impossible, one is the manifestation of incompetence, the other is the embodiment of psychological immaturity, and then see what alternatives can be done better, or provide the information I know to the other party to help him make decisions, so that at least the other party feels that I am trying my best to help.

<> help occasionally, he will thank you for your help, because it is not easy to get but grateful, so, don't let yourself be passive in the workplace, dare to say no, of course, it doesn't mean that you can't do it with him at every turn, if you think you can do the same to everyone or others think you should do the same to everyone, this is nonsense. I always think that a bowl of water is either very tired or offends most people, people's hearts are greedy, and I will treat others as others treat me. The meaning of this rule is most clearly expressed in one sentence, that is, "come and not be rude", that is, "vote for me with a peach, and repay it with a plum".

What's the pity? Why waste your time on whether to help him or not? Personally, I think that if you encounter this kind of companion, the overall interests of the company, you should take action when you should make a move, so as to avoid becoming a bad person?

First of all, you need to reject weakness and learn to say no; The second point is not to do everything in a big way, you have to do those valuable things, especially suitable for the workplace, you can't do everything at the beginning of the workplace, talk about some principles, save some good intentions, don't lose yourself in the "rotten good", that is really a bit more than worth the loss.

If you can't define your job responsibilities, can't refuse, and go out to help, you will end up with a mess of your own job, taking your own future as a cost, solving the problem of work intensity for others, and finally threatening the efficiency of the organization.

How the "Good Guy Mindset" came about.

The "good people" in the workplace all have a common characteristic, that is, they don't know how to refuse.

Of course, this is not to encourage people not to help others. In the workplace, as long as it is within one's own ability and does not violate the basic principles, it is also part of the corporate culture to help.

However, when you can't complete your own work, go beyond the scope of your duties, or even use your working time to deal with personal problems, you should be wary of this kind of "good person thinking" to avoid unnecessary trouble.

So, if you want to avoid falling into the "good guy mentality", you must first understand how this thinking came about.

I am afraid that I will not be recognized and liked, and after rejection, it will affect the feelings between each other and I will not be able to integrate into the atmosphere.

The well-known writer Jiang Fangzhou mentioned in a program that he is a person with a "pleasing personality".

The people-pleasing personality refers to the personality that blindly pleases others and ignores one's own feelings, which is an unhealthy psychological state.

Corresponding to the workplace, this psychological logic is that it is difficult to refuse others, and even if you know that the other party's requirements are unreasonable, you will habitually meet the needs of the other party.

1.Know how to refuse others to ask you to help him for free, 2Know how to fight for your own interests and refuse to work overtime without pay, 3Don't be on call 24 hours after hours, 4Don't hold back when others insult you.

Be yourself, don't blindly please others, flatter others, and do your part.

I feel that I don't want to help as much as possible, some old people or some people of the opposite sex, although the other party sometimes looks pitiful, and sometimes my mother's heart is overflowing, and I take the initiative to help the other party, but in the end I make my situation more and more embarrassing.

I once helped an old man, the old man has children, but he is unwilling to take care of the old man, he sees the old man lack of clothes and wear, sometimes he will often give the old man, some food and clothing.

When the old man sees that he is willing to help him, he often comes to him when there is something, and sometimes he is very busy, and the old man is very anxious, so he will keep complaining.

The people around me also hate this old man very much, thinking that this old man is too dirty, and the smell on his body is too bad, how can you provoke this kind of old man?

The children of the old man are also very tired of themselves, feeling that they have created a bad reputation for them, the old man has children and daughters, but he has to be taken care of by others, are you thinking about the old man's things?

In this regard, I feel annoyed, and in the end I can only stay away from these old people, for many things, I feel that it is fate, and no one can change it, so I can only go with the flow.

It is too difficult to be a good person, and sometimes I help others out of kindness, because I don't help others, or make others feel that they are not playing their due role, and they are very disgusted with themselves.

I feel that I am not a person at both ends, and people and friends around me will complain that I have nothing to do, and the person concerned will also say that I don't have a diamond diamond, so I don't want to do any porcelain work.

Sometimes a word of thanks requires you to pay a lot of sweat and hard work, and there may be a slight negligence, resulting in a huge mistake, so that you can get stuck in it and can't extricate yourself.

As I grew older, I became more and more reluctant to help others, and when I saw some poor and weak people, I had no compassion, and gradually maintained a state of self-preservation.

I don't know if this is my own sorrow or the sorrow of the times.

In the workplace, I believe that everyone encounters colleagues looking for their own help, and they don't want to spoil the relationship, so they are embarrassed to refuse, resulting in their own overtime to help each other, and the final suffering is themselves.

First actively agree, and then find a reason to refuse in the time that the other party can arrange, depending on how you act, but this can't be used often, so you have to learn to package yourself, or take advantage of the situation to elevate yourself, you are honest and have no background and don't bully who you bully.

In the past few days, I have experienced an incident that has made me understand that rotten good people really can't do it. Just because I did one thing, these days, my husband and I are living in fear.

A few days ago, there was a message in our community group, and the message asked who was free in the refrigerator and helped him put some things. At that time, our refrigerator was empty, and I didn't think about it, my refrigerator was empty, so let him put it.

Then, a boy wearing a mask came to put his things. After putting things away, I didn't think much about it, but I felt very happy and did a good deed.

I did a good deed, I just wanted to sigh for a while, and then yesterday I posted a micro-headline, and I finished the micro-headline. My husband was swiping his phone when he was fine, and he found that the person who put the things was actually a person from Room 220 of Building 2. This room is the room of the confirmed case!

I didn't sleep all night yesterday because of this, and this morning, my husband sent a message asking him to come and get something, asking him why he didn't tell us that he was staying in the room of the confirmed case. He didn't reply to the message, and then the husband brought things to his house, and he didn't speak.

It's really boring for me to be a bad guy, and I feel sorry for him, and I think he didn't have a place to put his things at that time, and it doesn't matter if they are put in my house. When we found out that he was the roommate of the confirmed case, he didn't explain it.

After the things were removed, I sanitized the refrigerator and disinfected the whole room. I hope nothing happens, and if something happens, it's my fault, who made me a bad person?

Written at the end: After going through this incident, I realized that rotten good people can't do it. We just need to do our own thing and don't care about strangers casually. Everyone can live their own lives, and if their abilities are limited, don't worry about strangers' affairs.

You can not be a good person in the workplace, but you must not be a bad person. Because being a good person, although it seems to be unpleasant everywhere and even sometimes very angry, but after all, the bottom line of being a man is still there. And once you do the kind of intrigue or even villain in the workplace, then you will even be questionable about your bottom line, not to mention your career development and career success.

Plus, the cost of being a bad guy is much higher than the cost of being a good guy, are you sure you can afford it?

You can be a good person, but the cost of being a good person is very high, and you need high ability and high income to ensure it, otherwise a good person will not be able to do it for a long time.

It's not that I don't want to be a good person, it's that I always have some neuropathy and always do things that harm others and myself. And he got in my way. I'm sorry, but it doesn't matter who I am when it comes to fighting for what I deserve.

In this world, if you are good to others, others will be good to you. We're just protecting ourselves.

You can't be a good person in the workplace. Why be a good person, and why? Some people are just shameless, what are you doing blindly, what kind of good person are you blind, what are you doing blindly?

Many people in the workplace do not have the spirit of helping others, and some of them invite merit, rob you of your credit, and speak out about helping others. Wake up! What do you do to be a good old man.

Do your own thing, and do nothing to invite merit.

Be a good person! Respect the ruler! Don't take the initiative to harm people, but if the other party abuses, you will definitely smash it rotten eggs!

It's like a food chain. If you don't use some means to find a good job for one to three years, or even longer, you will be replaced by better people. People themselves are not bad people, it's just that in terms of role-playing, I'm not a good person.

In my opinion, the workplace is about being a good person, but not being a good person. Good people have good interpersonal relationships in the workplace, and they can avoid becoming good people by refusing some unreasonable requests appropriately. The reasons for the refusal can be as follows:

1.Job 2Personal Private Matters 3Values.

You dig out your heart and lungs to others, give advice, and actively help, but when others have problems, they will throw the "pot" on you, so that you can't speak, you can't speak, and you have become a "rotten good person" in the mouth of others.

There is nothing wrong with this statement at all. Because if you are a bad person, there will be countless times. After you sit for a long time, others will take your actions for granted, and more people will ask you to do more things, but these things are not what you want to do at all.

Because once you do this kind of person, there will be the kind of person who bullies the weak and is afraid of the hard to bully yourself and hand over your work to others.

Because such people are often looked down upon by everyone in the workplace. And such a person has not been promoted at the bottom all his life.

In our lives, we will always encounter such a situation, that is, when we first enter the workplace, we will want to please the colleagues around us, so no matter what they ask, we will meet them. Slowly, a lot of people will ask you for help, which is what we call a good old man. Being a good person in the workplace will bring you a lot of trouble, so you must not be a good person.

Otherwise, if you help others, others will say that you are not right, and they will delay your own affairs.

One: Selective help. Two:

Learn to learn from experience. Three: Stalling for time.

In short, although communication is important in the workplace, ability is more important, don't want to please others, rely on others, there is only eternal interest in the competitive field. Just do your own thing and improve your abilities.

The most effective way to avoid being a good person at work is to learn to say no. Make this choice according to his other party's situation, if you really can't get back, you can make one, help, but tell him next time, don't do this.

In our work, we must adhere to principles, distinguish the relationship between public and private, and attribute personal feelings to personal feelings and work to work, and not to be vague and unambiguous, causing adverse effects on ourselves.

Don't care less about other colleagues, the responsibility for things is on people, refuse when you should refuse, don't be embarrassed to refuse, no one will dare to arrange you easily in the long run.

In the work, we must be conscientious and responsible, can not be a person, always listen to others, be asked by others to ask for this and that, in short, to do things to have their own thinking, can not listen to others casually.

There is nothing wrong with helping others appropriately at work, but you can't blindly help others, otherwise you will be regarded as a good person.

The "good old man" at work is always easy to be bullied, to avoid such a situation, you have to learn to refuse, refuse some unreasonable demands.

At work, you should avoid being a good person, that is, you don't want to take everything to yourself, and some things that should be rejected still have to be refused.

This topic is often controversial, and I personally think that if you really want to avoid being a "good old man", then try to learn to say "no" to your classmates on weekdays, and don't help unconditionally with anything, so that it is easy for people to subconsciously paint your image.