Why do you feel like a good person in the workplace but don t have too many friends?

Many people feel that good people in the workplace do not have too many friends, in fact, this is a relatively normal phenomenon, because they do not take some special ways to treat a certain person, so everyone feels that they are treated fairly, and do not have any different emotions, then these people will naturally not pay attention to this feeling, they are only willing to make friends with those who spoil themselves. Good people are sometimes easy to be ignored by others, they have very low requirements for others, and often put other people's things in front and their own things behind. <>

Because good people in the workplace always treat everyone equally, most people want to feel favored. When both men and women are in the process of falling in love, no matter which one of them does not want their partner to be good to the opposite sex around them, they both want to have their own unique love. The same is true in the workplace, especially between colleagues, they sometimes get along and become friends, but this kind of friend is only superficial, those good people in the workplace, are very good to everyone, when others need help, try to share their own time, but for a long time, these people will not feel any different feelings, colleagues and good people are often nodding friends.

Because good people are easy to be ignored by others. The presence of good people in the workplace is very low, because they always appear quietly and leave quietly. Always help others, and those colleagues will take this kind of good as a thing to be accustomed to, if the good old man suddenly does not help them one day, not only will not get their understanding, but will make these people very resentful of him.

People are selfish, so don't always think about others, you must think more about yourself. <>

Good people in the workplace, before doing anything, must stop according to their own ability, do not always feel that they should do their best to please others, in this case it is easy to lose their way.

The good old man in the workplace doesn't have many friends because everyone thinks that the good old man should be good to him. He is good to all people, so he is not special or exceptional, and he feels that good people do not regard themselves as bosom friends.

This situation leads to many interest-oriented colleagues in the workplace who will stay away from this kind of person, because they are more concerned about their own interests and do not consider the true feelings with the other party.

This is because these people are usually like grass on the wall, he will waver with the wind and take a position, and he behaves very well with everyone, and when there is a problem, he will shirk the responsibility in time to take himself out, so he has no true friends.

: A really good person is one who doesn't grow up in the workplace.

First of all, a truly good person is an existence that dedicates himself to others and sacrifices himself for others. It is very difficult for such a person to do the things of sinners, to control the situation, to manage his subordinates.

Secondly, a really good person has a very imprisoned thinking mode, it is difficult to accept new things, it is a matter of following the rules, and it is difficult to see a tree in his work.

Therefore, in the workplace, good people are not good and do not last long.

Why do really good people not grow long in the workplace? Really good people are too real and don't know how to be sleek and flexible, such people are destined to be liked by many people. In modern society, learning to get along with others is a very complex technology.

For example, Yang Xiu in the Three Kingdoms period was the same as Cao Cao, although Yang Xiu was not a really good person, he was definitely not a bad person, why did Cao Cao not like him and even killed him in the end? It was because he didn't know how to get along with the leader that he said Cao Cao's true thoughts about not wanting to be humane to outsiders. So in the workplace, let's be a person who is serious and willing to work, and knows how to be sleek and flexible.

Really good people can't grow long in the workplace, because good people are generally afraid of offending people, so they don't have enough decisiveness to do things, and if they don't have leadership, they will naturally not be able to mix well in the workplace.

Because really good people are easy to be bullied, and deception in the workplace is not suitable for good people to survive, so good people can't mix long in the workplace.

Why do really good people not grow long in the workplace? In today's complex society, the workplace is also a battlefield, and comrades who really work hard can neither speak nor speak, and have no money to give gifts, so many leaders and comrades look down on him! Gradually, this gay shop will not be able to mix!

Because the workplace is not as beautiful as you think, it also has a dark side, which is the struggle of human nature, and it is difficult for good people to survive without scheming.

It's not that really good people can't mix long in the workplace, your statement is too extreme, it's just that you can't mix long in bad companies, and such things don't happen in good companies, so it's not a human problem, it's a business problem.

Without principles, there is no bottom line. Yes, this is not the same as fighting wine on the wine table, "massive", each of us must keep our own bottom line, insist on doing things within the scope of our responsibilities, can not overstep, can not do some worthless and meaningless things, this is not good, this will make people feel that you have a little bit of your own opinions, interact with people like you, entrust you to a very important thing, how can you rest assured? Yes, principles are the foundation of being a human being, and they are also the bottom line that must be kept in professional life.

This argument is too extreme, but it doesn't grow long in bad units, and such things don't happen in good units, so it's not a problem of people, it's a problem of orientation for the construction of the unit's team.

What is a really good person? Is it an honest person? If an honest person really can't mix in the workplace, because he won't say that he won't come.

The leader can't be thought of, because he is too real, and this oily and smooth talent can eat Kaihe Dynasty, but I still like to be a fashionable person, a really good person.

The workplace is like a colosseum.

There is both cooperation and fighting.

Whether it's struggle, or cooperation.

It's all for their own survival.

The so-called good people are the good ones.

That is, people who do not harm others.

Like a little sheep in the jungle.

Sooner or later, it will be eaten.

Not necessarily, depending on the occasion.

As the saying goes, good people don't live long, and disasters last 1,000 years, and it really makes sense.

In the workplace, this kind of good person, this kind of person actually wants to get a good interpersonal relationship, and also wants to get more people's like, but this kind of person does not know how to refuse, and likes to please others very much. I don't really like to get around such people because I feel too stressed. <>

First, there is no bottom line

No matter what kind of job we belong to, we seem to meet this kind of person, who doesn't know how to refuse others will please others, lacks personality, and doesn't dare to face contradictions, this kind of person they are collectively called good people, this kind of person they are actually to get more people's likes, but his behavior sometimes ends up with their thoughts going the other way. People like to find this kind of person to help them with everything, but in the end they don't do them any good. Do you want to say that they are not uncomfortable in their hearts?

They are also uncomfortable, but they don't know how to change the status quo, no matter who they are, they must have their own bottom line, only in this way that others will not look down on you and will not look down on you. <>

Second, thankless

In this situation, we can't work with a muddy attitude, we can solve problems and contradictions, but you don't maintain a neutral attitude, you don't think that everyone is reasonable, you don't feel that this matter has nothing to do with you, you must know the rules of work. Otherwise, you did the thing, but there was no you when the reward was issued, and at that time you knew what it meant to be thankless. Of course, it's not good to be too individual and assertive at work, so you have to learn to adjust yourself.

3. I hope that everyone has their own personality and their own opinions

I hope that everyone has their own personality and opinions whether they are in work or in life, don't keep saying that you can just say it all the time, this kind of person is actually very difficult to get along with, others still think that you have too many eyes, and will slowly move away from you, and you should refuse to solve the problem, so that you can make yourself have a place in the work.

The workplace is full of diverse people, and the workplace is like a small society full of interests. In a small society, employees also have their own circles. But in the workplace, there is such a type of person, that is, "good old people". <

In fact, in life, we often meet such people, they have a good relationship with most people, and basically do not have conflicts with others. And this type of "good man" relies on his own attitude to do things, deliberately avoiding the appearance of a discordant atmosphere. In the eyes of most people, the good old people in the workplace can feel a bit pretentious, and many people are reluctant to make friends with this type of person.

What kind of existence does this kind of good old man exist in the workplace? What are their characteristics? I think it can be analyzed from the following points: <>

1. In order to please, I don't know how to refuse. Most people know how to say "no" in the workplace, but good people always compromise. No matter what the conditions are put forward by a colleague, they will not refuse for any reason.

In fact, it's not that they don't want to refuse, but they don't want to be tormented countless times in their hearts after refusing. Therefore, I would rather suffer myself than help others. <>

2. In the eyes of others, he is good-tempered, but in fact, his heart is tormented countless times. In the face of his "good old man" colleagues, everyone seems to be particularly willing to trouble him to do things. Although this type of person does not refuse on the surface, in fact, his heart has already surged.

Even if he refuses thousands of times in his heart, his mouth agrees without listening. This type of person helps others every day, and seems to be like a spinning top that never stops. In the end, the boss doesn't see the good in him, and his colleagues treat him like free labor.

In the workplace, we are grateful to have this type of person. Because among the extremely weak interpersonal relationships, this type of person is the best to get along with, and the least likely to offend. But I hope that the good people in the workplace can think more about themselves and dare to say no to what they don't want to do.

It is a very good existence, which may help you solve a lot of things in life, and will also solve a lot of problems, and will give you some very good opinions and suggestions, especially capable.

It is an existence that makes people love and hate, because it is an existence that makes people love and hate, because these good people are very principled when they talk and do things, but sometimes they are also very rigid.

Good people are a must in the company, which can also avoid many contradictions, ease the company's atmosphere, and be conducive to the company's development.

It is an indispensable existence, because it is precisely because of this kind of good people that this atmosphere can be driven and a lot of contradictions can be reduced.

For the good people in the workplace, there are actually two kinds.

The first is that they don't know how to weigh the importance of their own personal work and the things entrusted by others. Often, after helping others, they do their own thing.

This kind of person is actually a bit of a people-pleasing personality.

If you directly push the client, you will feel guilty and embarrassed in your heart.

Therefore, it often happens that other people's things are completed, but the projects and things at hand cannot be completed on time.

If it directly affects one's own work, no matter how much you help others, it will not directly affect your own work. Instead, it gives leaders the impression that they are inefficient, have no prioritization, and are unreliable. Over time, it is common for such people to be taken unconscious.

The second type of person is the one who knows how to distinguish between work and help. Therefore, they can often help others after completing their own duties.

But still help without refusal.

This kind of help that does not reciprocate, or does not allow others to sacrifice the price, will produce a "white-eyed wolf" delegator over time.

In other words, if you help from the beginning to the later refusal, it often directly brings complaints from the client, rather than gratitude.

In summary, if you don't refuse to help the commission regardless of the situation, any help will hurt the helper, and because the helper is a good person and silent, they will often become the party who is not valued.

If you want to get out of this situation, you must first learn to say "no".

The second is to learn "equivalent exchange". If there is a cost to help, even if the cost is a drink, a meal or a small red envelope of a few yuan, it is a price. Such a price is also to inform the client that his help is not idle and in vain.

No matter what kind of "altruistic" behavior, the premise is not to harm one's own interests, and such behavior is wise.