Counseling How to get rid of pain?

I can see that you are very confused and in a bad mood right now. You need to be calm! Whatever you do, don't give up!

You have to learn to regulate yourself You are now trying to regulate your mood and make yourself happy, people will only be better able to solve problems when they are happy, you can adjust your mood, you can do what you like to do, listen to your favorite **, watch movies, idol dramas, if you don't want to listen to songs or watch movies, you can also go out for a walk and make an appointment with friends to hang out together. When I'm bored, I like to look at the sky outside, which is actually very pleasant. People just think a lot.

In fact, there are not many things, and a lot of things will be thought of, so you have to do more things and keep yourself busy, so that you don't think about it. It is impossible for people to be happy all the time in their lives without troubles, and there are always ups and downs in life, so it is interesting. Sometimes it's not a good thing to be annoyed, bored, lonely, depressed, irritable, and empty, and can be used as a catalyst.

If you're in a good mood, everything won't be a problem, I hope you can get out of the situation!

Take your dad out for a walk and spend more time with him.

Make yourself happy and talk to your friends.

1.When I was a child, I lacked love, and it was easy not to accept myself, or to give up on myself and break the jar, or to work hard to be perfect and excellent, thinking that in this way I could get attention and love. If you always have a lot of doubts and rejections about yourself, it is recommended to read Debbie's "Accept the Imperfect Self" and do the exercises in the book carefully.

Practice is far more important than understanding reason, and the difficult thing is practice, but we must adjust our emotional and behavioral reactions due to lack of love through practice. On this point, you can watch "The Brain and Emotional Life".

2 Accept our resentment, resentment is because we want the love of our parents, they are the closest people in our lives, and there is nothing wrong with wanting their love. Be wary of your own guilt, some very good and kind children will have a strong sense of guilt because of their resentment and misbebehavior towards their parents, and this guilt will hurt yourself. Find someone who is reliable and express your guilt; Or write it down alone, don't hold it in your heart.

3 The original intention of love is not the same as the act of love, try to think about it, is the love we have lacked really not contain a little love? Or is it loving but hurtful in behavior? If you can find love, accept it, and face up to the hurts, then your heart can be truly softened.

4.The lack of love when I was a child has the most profound impact on intimate relationships. If you find that your adult relationship experience is always problematic, it's important to stop and adjust yourself.

Otherwise, all kinds of things in the relationship will bring new harm. If you want to invest in a new relationship, check out "New Rules: How to Make Your Sweetheart Fall in Love with You", this book may not really help you find a sweetheart, but following most of the advice in this book will at least help you avoid a bad relationship.

It depends on what you're talking about, and the problem in the mind of this different person is different.

Psychoanalysis: First of all, I want to talk about facing pain Most people habitually choose to ignore, escape, suppress, and endure when facing their deep hearts or pain, just like scars, they don't want to face it, and it is even more painful to tear it open. Whether you say it or not, it's really there, and there is a kind of "covering your ears and stealing the bell" skill.

However, you open up to the counsellor that your pain has risen to the level of consciousness, that you are closer to it, and that you need to face it and deal with it. A lot of mental illness snowballs from a small problem. For example, a source returner suffers from a chronic disease, endures pain and fear, repeatedly procrastinates, and waits until the terminal stage of cancer before going to the doctor, and then has no power to recover.

Half of the clients who come to seek counseling are growing up voluntarily and half are resisting growth. Those who are reluctant to look directly at pain and anxiety do so to defend themselves against bigger problems. Furthermore, about the "good and bad" of psychological counseling It is undeniable that there are no flawless people or gods in the world, so is psychological counseling all good?

Just like going to the hospital when you are sick, you will also meet quacks, if he is not skilled in medical skills, irresponsible, and has poor professional ethics, and prescribes medicine to you blindly, then hail filial piety will definitely be harmful. On the contrary, a good doctor can only benefit your condition. Psychological counseling is the same, there is a certain match and run-in between the client and the psychological counselor, if you find that the counselor's skills are unprofessional, emotionally rude, and the way is inappropriate, you can request a referral and termination.

A good counsellor will listen patiently, have a high level of empathy, be able to face with you, guide you to face and deal with painful experiences, and give you a space that is enough to trust and be safe. I'm Sunflower, good luck!

1.Motion. Exercise helps reduce stress and is a great help for both the physical and mental world.

Although feeling down will affect your motivation and stamina to exercise, it is worth a try. You will find it easier to walk slowly than other exercises, i.e. to walk with one foot over the other, as long as you can do it. For an hour or two a day, start with a short distance, even if it's just a dozen minutes to search for a high core clock, which is a good start.

Exercise prevents the onset of painful disorders and helps to increase physical strength. It also boosts mood faster and buffers pain for a short time.

2.Seek a listener.

When you're in pain, don't hide from your friends. Even if you don't feel as cheerful as you normally are, or embarrassed to bother others with your problems, make an effort to keep in touch with your friends. Negativity is a very common emotion, and many people will understand your feelings.

Not only your bosom friends, but also all kinds of other relationships may support you and enlighten you. If you release the depression and unhappiness in your heart, your heart will be much more comfortable.

The most important thing to get rid of depression is to learn to self-adjust, and if possible, you can seek help from a psychological counselor, and if it is more serious, it is best to take medication**. Self-psychological adjustment must first figure out why depression occurs, such as what happened before, frustration, unhappy things, so that you can't get rid of it, these inducing factors make you depressed, unhappy, or you used to be under pressure, and have been depressed, all situations need to be analyzed in detail, but in the end, you still need to improve self-confidence, learn to change your current life with a positive and optimistic attitude. At the same time, we must learn to shift our attention, such as exercising appropriately and participating in current study, work, and interpersonal activities, only in this way can we effectively divert attention.

And do what you should do to effectively alleviate depression and become fulfilling. The most important thing for Morita is to learn to pay attention to the present, do what you should do, forget the unhappiness of the past, and shift the focus to this moment, especially at present, your own happiness is the most critical, only in this way can you get a sense of happiness. As for the drug**, for severe depression problems, especially if you can't get rid of and control it, it is best to take medicine in time, commonly used drugs are sertraline hydrochloride, venlafaxine, agonucleus containing senmelatine, etc., these drugs are very effective, but while taking medicine, you must learn to see a doctor in time, confide in the doctor in time, and seek help from the doctor in time.

There are always some pains in life that are difficult to let go, and it is not easy to get rid of long-term pain, so changing your attitude towards pain can you better grasp yourself and reduce harm. Next, we have sorted out the relevant content on how to relieve the pain in my heart, and I hope you like the article! Understand what painful things make you get.

To be immersed in pain and want to come out, you need to understand what you have gained while you have lost, and only then can you take control of yourself and face life positively in the future. Write about painful experiences through words. You may feel more painful when you write, but later you will realize that the painful experience is actually a thing of the past, and it can help relieve the pain.

Find a close friend and confide in him the pain in your heart. By confiding, you can release the suppressed emotions in your heart and get friends. Comfort and encouragement, and the mood will be much better.

Participate in group activities. By participating in parties, activities, meeting new friends, and establishing new relationships, you can slowly change your original life status and start life again. Preserve and cherish good memories.

You can treasure photos, items, etc., put them in a box, and take them out from time to time to look through, in fact, life is still very good. Calm down and read a book. Through reading, we can understand the outside world and the experiences of others, improve our psychological quality, enhance our psychological endurance, change our mentality, and face pain correctly.

Find a psychologist If you can't alleviate your inner pain through various means, it is recommended to find a psychologist and adopt scientific and effective methods to regulate your emotions and mentality and get out of the pain.