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There are many girls who are in love, they will find a boyfriend in a different place, because they are young and have not considered what problems will be brought by distant marriage, just a momentary impulse, love each other, coupled with the development of transportation and communication, regardless of the opposition of their parents, between true love and distant marriage, choose true love, and then choose to marry to a different place without hesitation, but after getting married, they found that there is a big problem in marrying far away, regretting that they chose to marry far away, and finally the two ended in divorce because of family problems. I didn't understand it when I was young, and I regretted it when I got married. In fact, there are many such cases around me, getting married and finding a long-distance husband, and then because of the distant marriage, not adapting to the local customs, and having no place to cry after the quarrel, I feel very lonely, and my parents are not around, and I can't feel a trace of warmth, etc., which leads to the final breakup and divorce.
What kind of impact will distant marriage have on us women?
Personally, I think that the first thing to bring about is isolation, parents all over the world feel sorry for their children, when the daughter-in-law and son have a conflict, the father-in-law and mother-in-law will be towards their son, but as a woman who marries far away, there is no one to help when parents and friends are not around, and the only husband who can rely on is not able to rely on it, and women will feel like losing their wings on one side and feeling isolated.
Secondly, if you have a child, the child can only be taken by the parents-in-law, and sometimes when the parents-in-law have other things to do, when they are busy, there is no one to help them. Especially when you encounter a person who is in the field and has no parents-in-law, you can only rely on yourself, once the husband is not good, the girl will often be on the verge of collapse.
There is also the fact that after girls marry in other places, they have a lot of living habits, and folk customs will be very different from where they grew up. It's okay if you can quickly adapt to accept this way, but if you can't accept it or the other party's family has requirements for her daughter-in-law, this woman will live a very difficult life, and over time she will have conflicts with her husband, and if there are many quarrels, the relationship between the two people will naturally fade, and finally she will choose to divorce.
Therefore, long-distance marriage needs to be carefully considered, and there is no certain economic basis.
and conditions, it is better not to choose to marry far away. Parents are here, not far away. It is best for parents to be close to their parents, so that they can take care of each other, which can not only help parents reduce their burden, but also help themselves to reduce their burden, and they will live a happier life and have a longer marriage.
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1. You can't visit your parents at any time.
Many women know that they should try not to marry far away when they get married, but love is not forgiving, for those girls who marry far away, the most painful thing is that when they miss their parents, they can only go through **greetings, only through **visit, and can not go back to their parents' homes at any time, and even sometimes only go back to their parents' homes once a year to visit the elderly, watching their parents get older and older, but they are not around, it is very uncomfortable!
2. I don't know where to go when I quarrel and get angry.
Now many young people get married, there will be quarrels, once the husband and wife quarrel, most of the women will go back to their parents' homes for a few days, but for those women who marry far away, they really don't know to go after the quarrel, it is impossible to go back to their parents' homes too far, go to a friend's house for fear of inconvenience, live in a hotel is too expensive, can only live in the mother-in-law's house, continue to suppress their emotions!
3. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled, and no one helped.
Nowadays, in many families, it is very common for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to quarrel, especially when your husband does not help you speak, you will feel that you are really an outsider, at this time, if your mother's house is close, you can let your mother come to help, if you marry far away, then there is no one to help you speak, it is very wronged!
4. If something happens, I'm not around.
Many times, the elderly need to be taken care of, even if you are not around, at least you can be on call. But for those women who marry far away, if there is an emergency in their parents, and they can't get to their side in time, that's the biggest pain!
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I don't really support long-distance marriage, why is it bad to marry long-distance marriage? Three reasons to tell you.
1. Can't go to your parents often.
Many parents hope that their daughters can find happiness, or their future can be better developed, so they support their development from afar, but when they really leave home, what their parents want is to hope that women can be more, come home to see, once a girl, because of a man and marry far away, can not often return to their parents, if the parents have any pain, can not come back to a **, always have to go through several twists and turns, so in the eyes of parents, It is very sad for the parents to see their daughter marrying far away, and they can't see their daughter often, and in addition, they can't be contacted often.
2. Abandon the familiar living environment.
To start a new life in another place, then the people who live in the original environment will gradually break off contact, and their life track is not much intersecting, a woman's life center will be completely dominated by the man's living environment and the people around him, and once she has a child, the woman will be more rooted there, at this time he has a deep friendship with the original person, and will gradually go farther and farther away because of the future development direction and life communication differences. will lose yourself, once a very good friend, and cut off a family member with whom you have a good relationship.
3. I don't know what the future holds, and I don't have anything to rely on.
As the saying goes, no matter what, a place with a maiden home is home, but it is not easy for a girl to return to her maiden home after marrying far away. At this time, he can only bear the grievances he suffers, after all, it is the road he has chosen, even if there is more unhappiness in his heart, no matter how sad he is by his in-laws, he can only swallow it in his stomach, at this time in this strange city, except for his husband, there is no reliance, so once a girl decides to follow you to your hometown to design the environment in which he originally lived, then it means that she has made a lot of determination, and has made great concessions, giving up a lot of things, no matter what? You must love her well and give her enough support, she has nothing but you.
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Benefits:1Marry someone you love and love yourself.
2.I don't often go back and feel very close.
3.Feel a completely different cultural environment and meet new people.
4.Learn to deal with all kinds of contradictions and learn to be independent.
5.Midsummer children are generally smarter or good-looking, and if there are conflicts between husband and wife, parents will not know, so that parents will be less sad.
Disadvantage: 1Difficult to understand dialects and cultures.
2.Quarrel with her husband, run away from home but have nowhere to go.
Why should girls not marry far away?
1.It is more difficult to adapt to a new environment, after all, the habits are different.
2.It is very troublesome to visit relatives, and it is more difficult to visit relatives, which will cause a sense of loneliness.
3.I miss my parents.
4.Face to face friends, alone in a foreign land, acquaintances are not around.
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Marrying far away is a very challenging project. Many people rely on their youth and vigor, and they decide to marry far away when their heads are swollen and their brains are hot, and they swear that now that the transportation is developed, it is only a few hours of flight to go home, and it is only a dozen hours to go home without high-speed rail. However, this kind of thinking is too young after all.
If you're homesick, can you go back, worse, is it really just a few hours away? Actually, no, first of all, you have to consider your vacation, now most statutory holidays are three to five days, two days back and forth, air tickets are usually expensive on holidays, tickets are also difficult to buy, at that time, you will be brave enough to spend thousands of dollars to go home for a day or two. Well, even if you think you can.
So, will your in-laws be willing? I know I can't generalize, but girls, really not everyone has such good luck to meet a good in-law and a good husband, to put it mildly, if there is any dispute between the husband and wife at that time, you don't even have the opportunity to go back to your parents' house to be coquettish. Also, the parents are old, they have worked hard to raise the girls, naturally I hope that everyone can be happy and safe, then, girls, if you marry far away, your parents have a headache and brain fever, you let them go to the hospital by themselves, and they are hospitalized by themselves to do everything, what is the difference between them living and not having children.
And in order not to worry us, they will always report good news and not bad news, never know which will come first between the accident and tomorrow, and it is possible that even the last time their parents met was half a year ago. I don't know if you can accept it, anyway, I can't, my parents must be by my side, I will be more at ease within my control, I think, my parents think the same way, I think everyone's parents think the same way. Parents are here, not far away.
I think it's very reasonable, maybe some people won't take this as a reference standard, or maybe some people marry away to escape from their original family, in fact, sisters, you leave a familiar environment and go to a completely unfamiliar place to live, the fear at the beginning must be there, and then the next life is even more terrible, you don't understand anything, you can only rely on your husband and your in-laws, a little unsatisfactory, you will be like duckweed in the water, ethereal, your friends, Your family is thousands of miles away, at that time, how sad you should be, how distressed the people who love you should be.
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The benefits are scarce, and the disadvantages are many. Hope you have this answer.
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The advantages of marrying far away: the person who marries is the person who loves and loves himself, and he doesn't often go back to feel very close, and he can feel a completely different humanistic environment from the past and meet new friends. Disadvantages of marrying far away:
Difficult dialects, difficult cultures. When she had an awkward relationship with her husband, she pushed the door but found that she had nowhere to go.
The relationship between the two parties must be good, and it is best for the man to care more about the woman, which is the necessary condition for you to be worthy of marrying far away.
The woman must have financial ability, and must not follow the man with her bare hands, and it is best for the woman to engage in a more stable job, including the work of local civil servants and career establishments, excluding first-tier cities.
The girl is very independent, and the girl's own personality is extroverted. With such a character, when you marry in a strange city, you will have a self-familiar quality, and you can get along with the people around you, and you will not be so lonely.
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If the daughter marries far away, it is indeed not good news for the elderly, there is no one to take care of him when he is old, and he can't help when his daughter has something.
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The first is that it is not easy to meet when it is relatively far away.
If the daughter's in-law is bullied by Qinghan, no one will help.
I think that marrying far away means that it will be far away from home, and then my parents will miss me very much, and then it will be inconvenient to go home.
I think I can talk to my husband, if my husband understands you, I believe he will come forward to solve this problem, if you don't say it, he will never know these things, and he thinks you are doing well.
The word "distant marriage" is still far away from me, but when I see people around me getting married, I find that there are not many people who marry far away, but when you watch the news, you will find that many foreign girls will marry far away from China, no matter what life is like in the future, it is not easy to make a decision to marry far away. >>>More
Girls who marry far away must learn to be independent, be angry for themselves, and must not endure themselves, which will make the other party gain an inch, and also develop their own careers, so that they have a way out.
I really regret it, especially when I leave home again, I have to cry for a while every time, now that I work, my annual vacation is only a few days, and the time to go back to my parents' house is even rarer.