What does it mean when parents say that their children are superfluous?

Seeing what you wrote, I sympathize.

You are a sensible child, and you are innocent of everything.

But you were born into such a family.

You have to communicate well with your parents.

Tell them what is in your heart.

You can see that you are not small.

You must learn to be self-reliant.

I understand your hardships, maybe you can't feel family affection, but what I want to say is that life is your own, the road is your own choice, I am three to eighteen years old, asthma, sick for fifteen years, you have been through a few times in the Lord of Yama, your family is poor, relatives and friends look down on you, no one comes to pay New Year's greetings during the New Year, there are no friends, that feeling, can you feel it? I am 21 years old this year, and now I am in business, earning tens of thousands of dollars a month, having a car and a house, I just want to tell you that the sky will descend on the people, and they must first suffer their minds, strain their muscles and bones, starve their bodies and skin, and empty their bodies and ,..

I hope you will be reluctant

It would be a mistake to think so. Because any relationship can only continue to grow if it is constantly cultivated. Just like flowers and plants, as long as they are constantly watered and fertilized, they can thrive, blossom and bear fruit.

If the seedlings are unearthed, they think that everything will be fine in the future, and they will naturally grow up and bear fruit in the future. Isn't this a fool's dream?

Whether our children are good or bad to us is another matter, but we have the responsibility and obligation to raise and educate our children. It is not superfluous to accompany the child to grind the god, because the child has the company and waiting of their parents, they have a greater sense of security and belonging.

The child says that he is redundant, is it that you parents usually do not pay enough attention to the child?

Children are inseparable from the company of their parents in the process of growing up, and if they are busy with their own affairs and neglect their children, the consequences will be very serious.

Since your child can still tell how he really feels, it means that he wants you to take him seriously and give him a sense of security!

Usually you give him too little, too little help to him, not enough care and care, so you feel that you are redundant, in the current society, when you go home, play less with your mobile phone and care more about your family.

Maybe you don't care enough about him, maybe the child will prefer to have more contact with you if you pay more love.

The child feels lonely, unvalued, yes, insecure. Seek the love of your parents.

It's just that the child can't do anything.

I have completely lost hope in my child.

This is because the child does not meet the parents' requirements, and the parents want to motivate the children or force the children to meet the requirements. There are 2 personalities in the child's future. 1: Self-motivated. 2: Low self-esteem.

Whenever a family welcomes their own children, they hope that their children can grow up healthy at first, but as the children get older and older, parents hope that their children can study well, and after the children go to college, they hope that they can participate in a good job, and when they participate in a good job, parents hope that their children can have a happy marriage.

Therefore, for the life of parents, they always have an inexhaustible heart for their children, but some children are more competitive, so all kinds of worries about parents are found to be superfluous in the end. In fact, there is a saying in our China that children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and parents should let them give it a go rather than taking too much care of it.

For example, some parents hope that their children can take the college entrance examination, get a good score, and go to a better university. But for some children, even if they have not experienced college or went to a second- or third-rate university, they can still make their own achievements. In fact, as long as the child does not take a detour, parents can respect their own ideas, and only what the child really wants to do, they will work hard to accomplish it.

Of course, for some childrenBecause they are not self-conscious by nature and lack self-control, it is not superfluous for parents to worry about them at this time。Some children lack initiative from an early age, so they are always half-hearted in whatever they do, and even if their parents force them to do it, they still can't do it well in the end.

When parents let it go, they may become more aggressive, some may even become addicted to games, and some even become troubled teenagers. Therefore, at this time, the worry about parents will naturally not be superfluous. This seems to verify another sentence, that is, filial piety comes out of the stick, and indeed some children are not successful if they don't fight.

So why it seems that worrying about your child's future in the first place is superfluous, sometimes it is correct, and sometimes it is not.

Whenever a family has a child to take care of the nanny, it is still very tiring to go to work every day.

The child's life path is determined by himself, and it is useless for us to worry about it or not.

Children have their own way of living, an era has the characteristics of an era, and it is superfluous to worry about the future now.

Because children have their own blessings, don't be cattle and horses for your children. If you design a good future for your child, it will not be the same. The key is in yourself.

Because the child's path is decided by the child himself, it is useless for us to worry.

When children grow up, they will choose their own path in life, and we can't decide.

Because children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, children will always have their own skills.

Now whatever we think is in vain, and the path of our children needs to be walked by themselves.

When I was a child, my dad said that I didn't even know how to sweep the streets, and now it's 8,000 a month.

Because the child's path is ultimately up to him to find it on his own. He will eventually find the path that suits him best.

Because most of them are children and grandchildren, and they have their own children and grandchildren. The older generation basically doesn't need much force.

Because children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, they will also go on their own.

Because the child is still relatively good, everything he worried about at the beginning was superfluous.

I don't think it's necessary, children will naturally have their own path in life.

That's what it is, no one can say for sure what the child's future will be.

Because times are changing, children will always embark on their own path in life.

Because when children become adults, they will choose their own path in life.

What does my dad mean when he says that parents know their children very well but he doesn't know me very well? Because you're acting in an incomprehensible way.

That may be the case, parents will understand themselves, and children just don't understand you.

He may think that other parents know their children, or that other children will communicate with their parents, but you may not communicate with him much, so he doesn't know you very well, you should talk more together and understand each other's thoughts.

Maybe you act and speak differently than people. You don't communicate much with your parents either, so they don't know you well.

Since Dad doesn't understand you, then take more time, communicate more with the two, and accept each other with your heart.

Maybe there is a generation gap between you and your parents now, so what my father said means that your current thoughts are not quite the same as his thoughts.

That means that there is still too little communication between you, which causes your dad to not know you very well, and you still need to strengthen communication.

What Dad means is that he doesn't know about you. Not sure what you're thinking.

This is the parents. Expectations have been made for you. You should take the initiative to ask your dad about the situation. Report on your study and life. He thinks you're disobedient. Accept Daddy's guidance!

Even if it's a biological child, sometimes it really doesn't have to know too much, because everyone's personality is different.

Maybe you have some huge situation and you don't communicate with him in time, so he can't get to know you well.

They feel that this can arouse the child's desire to fight.

But in fact, many children are scolded for their inferiority, timidity, and lack the courage to fight for themselves.

Recite it when you should read it, and praise it when you should praise it, it will actually be better.

Polite, modest, humble, hating iron does not become steel, and there are counter-words, saying that their children are not good, but in their hearts they feel that their children are very good.

Because of China's education system and popular thinking, after all, China is still a developing country.

Sometimes it's good to keep a low profile, especially in front of others.

Because they don't know what it means to be useless and what it means to be useful.

Some suggestions for children:

1。No matter what, stay strong.

2。Have you tried your best to accept the changes in your life instead of thinking about what she should do?

Finally, you calmly think about whether you are really objective when you spend so many words describing your situation.

Your mother will regret it, at present, for you, the most important thing is to study, you have your own life, remember to ask your mother for living expenses, usually chat with friends, you understand the big truth, adjust your mentality is the most important.