My family is full of quarrels, I hate this kind of family atmosphere, what should I do?

Family life is inevitably stumbling, quarrelling, and quarrels that occur when habits and hobbies collide. We can't choose what kind of family to choose, and sometimes it's really disgusting. We have to try to change this family, if we can't change this family, then we have to change ourselves, adjust our mentality, tolerate it if we can, don't feel that this is a burden, then the pressure in our hearts will be great, and one day it will crush you.

You can keep a little distance, think more about the warm things in the family, the scene of a happy family together, may be some small things, but you will feel very happy, sweet, family is very important in your life after all, care about the young, respect parents, respect elders, tolerate each other, interact with family members more, often communicate with family members to encounter setbacks and problems and tell family members to help solve them, don't communicate with family members at all, that will only be farther and farther away, and the contradictions are getting bigger and bigger It is not conducive to family harmony!

In our millions of families, there will be no absolute peace. This is in a family, it is difficult to have absolute peace, there will always be some noisy and noisy. This is a very normal manifestation.

In our subjective mind, no matter how close people are, it is unlikely that they will live together for so long, without some noise. But let's deal with special cases specially. There will still be some old husbands and wives who have the taste of love, who have lived together for so many years, and they are still so loving.

It's rare, but there will be somewhat.

In a family, since having their own children and being promoted to parents, the feeling will be completely different. If there is anything, the child's affairs will be the priority, and the child will be the first consideration. This is the psychology of the vast majority of parents.

We are like that too, when we are parents ourselves. Our parents may have less quarrels in front of us, but it's normal that we can't resist their annoyance with each other in front of them. But maybe they're just arguing, it's just their dissatisfaction with each other's opinions.

After a while, they are still reconciled, so this kind of quarrel in the family feels that there is no need to pay attention to the quarrel between them. Maybe I think this is just a show of affection for them. So don't pay too much attention to this kind of noisy and noisy of them.

If you have this kind of parental quarrel in your own family, you don't think you need to pay too much attention to it. <>

However, if the quarrels in my family are really a small quarrel every day, a big quarrel every three days, then I feel that as children, we need to stand up and calm these quarrels. This is a manifestation of a bit of a rift in the relationship between parents. We don't think our parents are still so affectionate because of this.

Therefore, we need to persuade them as children to relieve the anger in their hearts. Perhaps this is what we should do as children. Rather than feeling disliked for this quarrelsome atmosphere at home.

We should learn how to liven up the atmosphere in these homes.

When my family was in junior high school, my father was always drinking, and my family was constantly arguing. At first, I would try to educate my dad, but then I found out that the more I talked, the more angry I became, and after that, I just didn't care, and every time he drank, I stayed in my room by myself.

Family harmony is what everyone wants, because they are full of love, so they all choose to solve all problems in a reasonable way, but there will also be quarrels, but they must also deal with them in time and make appropriate mediation.

Every family has a difficult scripture to read, learn to resolve conflicts, and when you see that you are about to quarrel, it is good to pull a person out for a walk and come back.

No one can really help you with this problem.

Because mood is a somewhat irregular thing. I don't know exactly what your mood is wrong or why.

I can only tell you that if the mood is too depressed, it is better to find something to vent and release.

It may not be clear to say, I say so, I don't know what the reason for your envy of other people's families is. After all, some people envy the atmosphere of other families, some people envy the material aspects, and some people envy the ability of other people's families, which are all different.

I'll talk about it in depth, if you envy their material, I can only say that this aspect can't be sought, instead of envying them, it is better to find a breakthrough point in yourself, and convert your envy and jealousy into the motivation to complete your goals.

If you envy their atmosphere, then you don't have to, because the atmosphere is created, if your family can't run this atmosphere at present, it is better to find a time to see what your family is usually doing, and find a topic to connect your family relationship through a topic.

Don't envy others.

First of all, family and birth are not something we can choose, what kind of person our parents are is not something we can choose, and what others have is what other people's parents or even grandparents sacrificed what you don't know in exchange.

Secondly, you only see the glamorous life of others, and the things shared by everyone's circle of friends are what others want to see, and few people will cry in the middle of the night, and the sad side is unbearable, so really don't envy others.

If you want to live well, then rely on yourself, your life's efforts may create a better life for your children and even grandchildren, so don't complain and don't envy, live your life well.

If you can't change what you are born with, you can work your own.

Work your own.

What should you do if you don't like your family?In fact, I think you can change yourself through the following methods, let's take a look at what methods are available.

The first is to know how to accept yourself.

In fact, we all know that when we reach a certain age, at a certain time, we should indeed know how to accept ourselves, you don't like the family and don't like yourself, it's your own fault, it may be because you can't accept your current self, you may be more cowardly, you may be more negative, you may be more pessimistic, then there will always be some reasons why you don't like it, in this case, you should know how to accept yourself, so that you can face it calmly.

The second is to know how to change yourself.

In fact, whether you don't like the family or don't like yourself, then these things are not good for yourself, then in this case, you should learn to change yourself, whether it is shortcomings or some of your own inner thoughts, only know how to change, it is possible for you to have a new understanding, it is possible for you to have a new self, so that it is possible to make yourself live better, it is possible to let yourself have a certain status in the family.

Third, know how to encourage yourself.

The reason why many people don't like themselves may be because they are not very good, so in this case, you should learn to encourage yourself, and you may be determined from the bottom of your heart to make you better and better from the inside out, after all, we all understand how people are such a person, only if they know how to change, then it is possible to usher in a new life, rather than passive acceptance, not passive waiting and not evading, these can not be solved.

Try to control your temper and don't quarrel when you encounter something, because arguing is useless and won't solve the problem, but arguing and getting angry will hurt your body, and at the same time affect the feelings of the family is not worth it.

Every family has such and such contradictions, these need to be how we ourselves to resolve peacefully, don't be impatient when encountering contradictions, it's useless for you to be impatient, quarrels will have a bad impact on you and the family and children, and the living environment will also decline, both people take a step back and open the sky, quarrels are not good for the growth of children, so that children can not feel the warmth from the family, the relationship between your husband and wife will slowly break down, and your own irritable character should try to change, Try hard to control your emotions, make an agreement for yourself and make an agreement with your family, if you encounter a conflict, we don't want to quarrel, I control my temper, sit down and solve it calmly, if you really can't control it, immediately separate the two people, and then talk about it when you calm down.

We have our own concept of everything we encounter, have our own character, so different people have different views on a thing and then the contradiction arises, especially in the family, sometimes it will be very annoying, but you think about it is useless to solve the problem, then first of all, you must start from your own good to try to change, of course, you also have to tell your family that if we have a contradiction, we will take a step back, and think more from the perspective of the other party, then the contradiction will be reduced. Your worries are slowly gone.

The beauty of the family needs to be cared for by every family member, and if each other controls their emotions, they will not be so irritable.

People have a bad temper, the family lives in a common environment, of course, when one person is in a bad mood, a little low air pressure, the other person is infected and then lowers the air pressure, the final result is that the family is very emotionally unstable. My family is also a family of four, and sometimes there will be situations like you, so I don't want to go home, so I want to go to school to hide in school immediately. Later, I also learned that distance produces beauty.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, a family of four is four different ideas, trivial things will inevitably be a lot, and we have a common problem is to leave the worst temper to the closest people, which will inevitably make the family full of gunpowder smoke all day long. It's the same in my family, my younger brother is not very old, and he is scolded by his mother all day because of his homework, and then my father will think that my mother is too much to quarrel with my mother, I go to coax my brother, and he is not sensible and loses his temper with me, and then you can imagine the atmosphere in the home. I didn't have the choice before, I always stayed at home on vacation.

Now I'm going to college outside, and there are three people at home, even if it's a quarrel, it's good for a while, and I can't hear it, except for the winter and summer vacations and some longer vacations, I will choose to go home, and I choose to stay in school the rest of the time. You don't have to see each other all day, so you won't quarrel over trivial things, and because you haven't seen each other for a long time, your parents and younger brother have a good attitude when you get home, and if you encounter something that can cause war, you can just let it go.

This is also the reason why many young people choose to move out and live by themselves, that is, they are not happy when there are always quarrels in the family, and they are still happy when they come out to live by themselves and go home once in a while.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and every family will have all kinds of contradictions, if you feel that you can't calm down because of the daily quarrels, you can go home less, and come to a blind and out of mind. But this method can't ** family problems, you can try to communicate with the family, don't quarrel at every turn. You even get angry once when necessary to let them know that you don't like their arguments.

When our big family was not separated, there were five children in total, two girls in our family, one boy, two boys in my uncle's family, and then my grandparents were patriarchal, especially my grandmother, who only loved boys, and beat and scolded my sister and me.

Ever since I was a child, the words I heard the most were "Why don't you soak in urine if you're so stupid!" "I won't ask you to do anything" and so on, and this situation continued until my sophomore year of high school. Maybe my grandmother's shadow was so great that I didn't dare to tell my grandmother anything, so I didn't dare to say that I needed surgery because of physical problems in my sophomore year of high school, and even later I committed suicide the more I thought about it.

After the suicide was discovered, my parents finally came back, and then when I got better, I chose a good day to divide the home. So the people who always live together will have more or less contradictions, if you don't want to continue like this, you can only leave, but you can't say that they are completely isolated, after all, they are relatives who are related to you by blood.

It's normal for your family to quarrel over a little thing every time, and who's to say that people who live together will never have any friction at all. If you don't like it, you really can't stand it, just tell your family, there's nothing you can't say in a showdown. And only when they say it will they realize the importance of the problem.

First of all, you have to adjust your mentality and temper. You have to understand that this is the family you are in, which requires you to understand the meaning of family, what is family, and how to have a harmonious family relationship.

We all know that family is a safe haven and a place for us to change our mood. It has a kind of magic, which can make wandering wanderers miss their family all the time, can allow parents to show love and care for children, and can be full of children's laughter and vitality.

What you need to do now is to accept it as it is, instead of blaming and disgusting. Because only if you accept it, can you make some positive changes to make this family more positive!

Secondly, because the family is a whole for the individual, it requires the dedication and contribution of each of you, and we cannot always hope for what the family brings us, but change the concept of what we can do for the family! Remember that it is always better to give than to take.

Once you've done your part, that's when you need to communicate with other family members. It is precisely because we have parents and siblings that we can call it a family as a collective. The four of you can change what you thought was bad through some positive communication activities.

For example, you can create a "family change plan" to relieve the four of you from being grumpy through weekly family meetings or family activities once or twice a week.

There must be a reason for the lack of communication, you can sit down, calm down, and try to communicate with other family members slowly. The content of the conversation is, of course, your own choice of interesting common topics. Slowly, you will find that everyone in the family wants it to go in a good direction.

Finally, I hope that you and your family can contribute to your shared family, and I hope that you will become more and more harmonious and beautiful, come on! With your joint efforts, the original "slightly bad" family will definitely become a happy family that everyone envies!