When you can t get along with yourself, what is the best way to regulate yourself?

In a personal way, the brain is like a container, putting good things in, and bad things will naturally overflow, and there is no time to think about it. By doing what you find beneficial, you can do something that you find beneficial, such as reading a good book, learning a new language, talking to someone you think is great, exercising, and so on.

Don't try to distract and argue with it right away, accept the thoughts and feelings and remind yourself of the White Bear phenomenon and the ** theory. Take a step back and don't think about the thoughts and feelings you have that are out of your control, but you can choose whether or not to put those ideas into practice. Do something meaningful, like exercising.

Don't be too yourself, go out more, relax, release the pressure, and listen to the **, you won't be so nervous when you relax.

How to say, in the first two months I encountered a very gloomy day, one afternoon, I adjusted myself and walked out, the method is very simple, instead of controlling yourself not to think about bad things, it is better to seriously think about this bad thing, why this thing is like this, I have been avoiding like this, there is a sentence, the real loser is not to fail, but because of the fear of failure not to try, bravely face these bad things, and wait for yourself to overcome psychological problems, naturally, I don't think it's a thing, and I naturally don't think about it.

I feel too idle, let my life be full and rich, enroll in a class to learn something, do sports, travel, make friends, fall in love, learn a language or art every day, watch movies, read more books, don't stay up late to affect endocrine, get to know others, experience a different life, and go to the emergency room of the hospital for a week.

I've always felt that running is a very effective way to relieve stress, and now I run about 5 laps a day, which is not much, but when I run, my brain is empty, and I feel good. I haven't tried other fitness methods, and the effect is estimated to be similar.

I try to keep my mind calm and take things lightly, so that I can fundamentally solve the negative energy, and I can't wait for the negative energy to burst to adjust. Only by having a peaceful mind can the people with you feel happy.

That's what I understand. What can be solved now is like a small thing, and you don't have to think about it. If you can't solve it, you don't have to think about it.

Because it can't be solved at all. If you think of people in a bad way. I guess at the time, it was too boring.

Find something for yourself to do. Whatever it is. Try to add some of your hobbies.

Whenever my inner little devil runs out and causes me to think about something bad, another little angel inside me will jump out and tell me good things, I can listen to **, play games, exercise, fitness.

I don't have to worry about this kind of negative energy or anxiety to solve things, so when I encounter a problem, I first hint to myself, it doesn't matter, there is a problem to solve the problem, it's just a daily triviality, and then just sleep.

When this happens, I usually take time off to rest at home and adjust my mentality.

Therefore, many people will feel that when they see someone who is against themselves, everyone will think that this person is a fool and can't think about it, so you must not be the fool who others think can't get along with yourself, that is, you can't get along with your own family, that is, you can't get along with your own future.

If this is the kind of mentality, you have to learn to let go of yourself. Don't have too much pressure in life, after all, the most important thing is to live comfortably.

Then you need to focus on the present or the future, and learn to let go.

Change your inner view, and when your inner view changes, you won't have such emotions.

Very, very sensible, rational perfectionist.

Being others is because of your perfectionist complex, and being yourself is also because of your perfectionist complex. However, being strict with others is because you are demanding, and being strict with yourself is not only your high requirements, but also a little inferiority? Do you feel like you're not good enough?

And this is not good enough to compare with your perfectionist theory, but with those you think you do well, people you envy or even envy. Are you inferior to them? What can I do to be like them, no, to be better and more glamorous than them and attract everyone's attention?

If you have a self-assertion and a desperate desire to shape your ideal self, you certainly don't want to be obedient in everything. There are some things and opinions that you disagree with, but the appearance of a good girl and your character, mainly your personality, it affects your appearance and your choices, and the appearance of a good girl and your personality force you to accept things and opinions that you do not agree with sometimes?

If your situation is similar to what I said, then the solution: first, look at yourself correctly. Since you calmly look at yourself and others from the perspective of a bystander, then look at yourself more calmly and objectively.

Analyze your strengths, your weaknesses, your strengths, and your weaknesses. After that, instead of making a plan that is as detailed as possible to fit your ability, gradually change what you think is bad and need to be changed. Remember, take it step by step and never rush for quick success.

You have a desperate mindset to succeed, but, too much, it's not good. Second, for the "inconsistencies between the inside and the outside", if you can't express your true views in your heart unimpeded, which actually makes you feel depressed or even aggrieved, then why not change? Let your watch gradually become the same as your inside.

Even if they can't be completely united, at least they can stop being so extreme. Try to express your opinion, try to say what you really think. If you don't want to abandon your image as a good girl, then, try to be as tactful as possible about the ideas you want to express.

Remember, a good girl doesn't mean that there is no self-assertion, it doesn't mean that you obey everything, that's not a good girl, that's just something that can leave a good impression when you meet for the first time, if you've always been just a child who only knows how to be obedient, then after a long time, everyone's impression of you will be, ah, this child is very well-behaved, that's all. No one would have a deeper impression and evaluation of a child who is just, ah, very well-behaved. Far less likable than a smart, well-behaved child.

To put it mildly, the idea that you were supposed to protect what you think is a good girl is a mistake that doesn't fit in with your demanding theory of the perfect idea.

Be yourself, be smart and be yourself.

In the end, actually, there is nothing wrong with reason. What's more, you're not completely rational. Hehe.

I was like this when I was in high school, it may be caused by the pressure of studying, there is a saying, people to observe there is no fugitive, water to clear then there is no fish, the same truth, and then went to college, all the ideas have changed, I think everything is very beautiful, so I summarize a word is "mentality", this key depends on what kind of mood you use to look at things, different moods and mentality will have different results, you might as well hint at yourself every day, everything is good. Over time, the mentality will change for the better.

This is the feeling of a person who has come before...

Release the inhibitionsMany people always can't get along with themselves, and in the face of such a mentality, we should release some of the depression in our hearts. I think one of the main reasons why most people can't get along with themselves is that they don't want to forgive themselves, or to forgive some things they have done, so they will go against themselves, I think this is actually embarrassing their lives, and no one else has caused their lives to become so embarrassing, so you must not offend your own people, because this will only make your life more painful, you must learn to forgive yourself, you must learn to let the depressed part of your heart be released, Being able to see the sun.

Embrace itBe positive, be able to share, and receive the happiness of others. In this way, you won't always be honest with yourself, because you have your own friends who can share some words in your heart, and you don't have to hide them in your heart and rot in your stomach, which is also a good way for yourself to release stress. For friends, it can also help you share some of the pressure, so being able to communicate with others appropriately is indeed to make your life more interesting, not so boring, and not to let yourself break the land rent and compare yourself with yourself.

You can hint to yourself in your heart, there is no need to go against yourself, you have to let yourself go. Because if you are against yourself, you will only suffer the bitter fruit in the end, so if you do this, you will only worry about yourself and the people around you, and you will not get any benefits from doing so, and you should properly forgive yourself for being able to do something else, and make yourself better, instead of focusing all your energy or time on this place, which is not a good thing for yourself.

Therefore, many people will feel that when they see someone who is against themselves, everyone will think that this person is a fool and can't think about it, so you must not be the fool who others think can't get along with yourself, that is, you can't get along with your own family, that is, you can't get along with your own future.

Every day we live, don't get along with ourselves.

In this world, there are many things that we can hardly predict. We can't control our circumstances, but we can control ourselves. We can't predict the future, but we can grasp the present; We don't know how long our lives are, but we can arrange our lives in the moment. As long as you live, there is hope.

There are always troubles in life, and sometimes the troubles in life are not about how much you get or how much you have, but about thinking that you want to get more. People sometimes want to get too much and can't achieve it, so they feel disappointed and dissatisfied. Then, he tortured himself, saying that he was "too stupid", "not angry", etc., and so on, so he often couldn't get along with himself and competed with himself.

In fact, calm down and think about it carefully, many things in life are not because you are not capable, but precisely because your wishes are unrealistic. We have to believe that we are gifted with the ability to do all kinds of things, and of course, believing in our ability does not mean forcing ourselves to do things that we can't do. In fact, there is a limit to everything in the world, beyond which many things can be extremely ridiculous.

We should always affirm ourselves, try our best to develop what we can develop, and leave the rest to God. As long as we do our best, as long as we actively move towards a higher goal, we will keep a leisurely and comfortable in our hearts. As a result, we will not be unable to get along with ourselves, blame and resent ourselves, because we have done our best.

Even at the end of life, if we can say "I have done my best" with a clear conscience, then you will truly have no regrets!

Don't set yourself a hurdle You can still meet a lot of people in your life Just from the aspect of your boyfriend always murdering you, he doesn't like you so much The guy who likes you is reluctant to murder you And he is so good to another girl You can see that he doesn't love you If he is with you when he is with you, he is a scumbag This kind of boy should not be good to you What you can't get is always the best You just try to get better and make him regret it Turn him into your motivation when you're good enough, you won't care about what happened to him before, and there will be better waiting for you.

Reflect on it, see what you have done wrong, and correct it in time.

You have to figure it out yourself, you can't get along with yourself, is he still irritable with you now?

Why are you still together, the reason why you can't get along with yourself, find someone who takes care of you, and you will be very happy.

There's no need to think about people who don't care about you, and you can't get along with yourself.

Sleep, go out partying, have fun, nothing else matters. The most important thing is to be happy. Maybe a lot of things have passed, and you just want to open it.

Reflect on it, rethink and forget the past.

This man doesn't take you to heart, you are dispensable to him!

Why make yourself sad with other people's affairs! As long as you have fun!

Look away! I don't have anything to get along with, don't think so much, don't care so much ( ò

The mind is relaxed, and you can't always be too negative.

Go out for a walk and go out for a crazy meal.

If you want to open a little, such a man should have nothing to remember.

If you want to open a little, you want to live a little more chic.

Everything wants to open! All questions are not a problem! It's okay to encounter bad times**.

It's not as good as a dog haha, scare the past.

Then why are you still with him, the two of them get along with each other and respect each other, and there is no minimum respect, so don't keep it for the New Year.