The man s assets are less than 100 million and he has no sense of security , how serious is it for

Let's first restore the beginning and end of this matter, recently at a blind date in Chengdu, a female guest who was an undergraduate broadcaster asked the man's assets to be more than 50 million, she said: "I am also a highly educated person, I am worth so much." Another woman said that the man's assets were less than 100 million and he was insecure.

It is estimated that as soon as this news comes out, they will face complaints and abuse from hundreds of millions of netizens on the Internet. Of course, for a blind date girl who puts forward such conditions, I look down on it from the bottom of my heart, although I am also an unmarried woman. In my opinion, whether it is love or marriage, you still have to pay attention to the right person.

In addition to the economic conditions, more important is the ideological match.

In fact, I just want to ask, how many assets do the two blind date women who made unreasonable demands have? Is it a lot of money, or is it from a famous family? Where did you get the courage to ask the man to have assets of more than 50 million and more than 100 million?

But when you think about it, in life, such women don't seem to be uncommon. There used to be a colleague, everyone called her Yun'er, and this Yun'er belonged to a particularly confident person, and every day she felt that she was a big beauty, so she was bent on finding a rich and handsome boyfriend.

And among my friends, there happens to be such a person who meets her requirements, and I call him Li Gongzi. As for this Li Gongzi, he is a young and promising type, although he was born in a rich and noble family, he is also extremely motivated. At the age of twenty-seven or eighteen, he has a net worth of more than 100 million, and his net height of 184 is perfect.

After Yun'er met Li Gongzi once, she found an opportunity to ask me to go shopping. The purpose is very simple, that is, I hope I can help him and Li Gongzi to connect and let me be this matchmaker.

Then I simply refused. Relatively speaking, every girl wants to be able to marry a rich man. "Whether it's love or marriage, it's still the right thing to do.

Although I have a good relationship with Li Gongzi, I have never thought about turning him into my boyfriend. Why? Because in terms of family conditions, the gap is too great.

Although I also run a small company, it is only a small prosperity. What about you? What else is there besides being young?

Everyone wants to take shortcuts, but very few people end up succeeding with shortcuts.

Be realistic, girls!

In the real society, talking about money hurts feelings, but not talking about money has no feelings at all.

Is money really important in marriage? Frankly, it's important, and it's quite important. The amount of money is not only related to the quality of life, but also to whether you can get high-quality educational resources, whether you can enjoy high-level medical treatment, whether you can live a less heartbroken and depressed life, and so on.

The man's assets are less than 100 million and he has no sense of security", if this sentence is a mate selection condition for a girl in a first-tier city with excellent conditions in all aspects and an annual income of millions or even nearly 10 million, I personally think it is not money worship. After all, people's personal conditions are already there, and the housing prices in first-tier cities are high, and if two sets of high-quality commercial houses are deducted from the 100 million assets, the remaining assets are already very limited.

In the bones of most Chinese, the more you deposit, the more security you will have, because no one in the economy and society will give you unconditional credit. For example, the child needs 200,000 yuan in education funds, the parents need 300,000 yuan in surgery fees, and the bank asks you for a mortgage every month.

Therefore, adding the seemingly secular condition of "money" to the criteria for choosing a mate can to some extent make the economic foundation after marriage more stable. But the premise is that the woman also has to look in the mirror to see what she has.

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Author: Wang Shiwen Writer The first person in China's emotional financial management, author of the best-selling books "Money Meets You - The Most Touching Emotional Financial Management Story", "I Understand Your Financial Anxiety" and so on.

<>The man's assets are less than 100 million and he is insecure", this lady's idea seems to be more utilitarian, I don't know what she is based on such a valuation? Men and women need a certain material foundation to marry, and it is understandable to pursue good economic conditions, but marriage is not a commodity transaction after all, not a sale. Marriage is to let feelings have a good home, and a good marriage is based on feelings.

If a person regards wealth as the biggest criterion for measuring value orientation, marriage for money has also become his inevitable pursuit, which is called "utilitarian" marriage.

Utilitarian marriage is for the purpose of utilitarianism, and feelings take a back seat, only using marriage as a springboard and a way to change one's destiny, and other things can be ignored first. The problem is that after marriage, if the two parties have differences in values, interests and hobbies, as well as different from what they imagine, when they are not adaptable, the contradiction will appear, and when the two parties cannot solve it, they can only choose to divorce, and each other will only get harm. There are many examples of this in real life.

The man's assets are less than 100 million and he is insecure", let's not simply judge this lady on the moral level of either/or. There is a prerequisite for this, whether the man with a wealth of 100 million recognizes that you value himself, this is the first thing to consider, if the man approves, then there is nothing to say, the two are happy, change their fate through marriage, and others do not need to blame them for no reason; If the woman is not accurate about her positioning, and talks about marriage and wishful thinking to ask for "the man's assets of 100 million", and only "the man's assets are less than 100 million and there is no sense of security" as the standard, this idea is more absurd and not easy to achieve, and furthermore, the man with assets of 100 million will not necessarily bring you a sense of security, and your marital security cannot be built on this basis.

At a high-level blind date, a female guest once again broke out the golden sentence "The man's assets are less than 100 million and he has no sense of security", I believe that everyone is quite dumbfounded when they hear such remarks. In response to this problem, we might as well take the following steps from the following aspects:

1. What is a sense of security?

Both parties in love, and even husband and wife, will often mention the word security, so in love, what kind of feeling in marriage management is called security? Zhu's father believes that the so-called sense of security is a sense of trust and trust, and both men and women have always given themselves a sense of trust, dependence and trust from falling in love to entering marriage, and the other party has never lived up to this trust. In layman's terms, it means that you are very relieved to be with each other, and your heart is calm, no matter whether the economic conditions are good or bad, this kind of stay is reassuring.

2. What is the sense of security?

In terms of relationships and family management, a sense of security is slowly cultivated and built up from little by little behavior, day and night. For example, the husband and wife work together for the common family goal, struggle together, support each other, and the two parties gradually form a tacit understanding, I know what you think in your heart, you know my character. No matter how the other party changes, the other party always believes that he can give him the life he wants.

3. What is the sense of insecurity reflected in assets of less than 100 million?

With assets of less than 100 million, the insecurity reflects a very realistic view of love in today's society - no one can rely on feelings, only mastering money is the most realistic, even if you treat me badly, as long as I have money in my hands.

The point of view of the heroine of the incident, in fact, does not necessarily say how serious her worship of money is, more precisely, her view of love and feelings has been a little misplaced, thinking that a sense of security can only be built on money and finances. In fact, money is not everything, and no money is indeed everything. But money is not the only glue for relationship and marriage management, open your heart, and work with your lover to manage and pour the flower of affection for a long time.

Let's ask, if a girl only cares about her money, then from the man's point of view, will such a marriage last?

When it comes to the pursuit of material things, the vast majority of girls will have it to a greater or lesser extent. But to say that "the man's assets are less than 100 million and he is insecure", this is a bit excessive.

You must know that there are not many boys with assets of more than 100 million, which makes me want to ask the girl who said this, "How good are your own conditions, so you dare to ask so high for the material conditions of boys?" ”

I once asked a female friend who had just broken up what her boyfriend wanted, and one of the things that frightened me was that she earned more than one million a year.

Later, after careful questioning, I found out that her ex-boyfriend was a rich second generation, and although her boyfriend's salary was not high, their family's annual income exceeded 10 million. Presumably, my friend was also influenced by my ex-boyfriend, and now I am not ordinarily high for boys.

The conditions of her best friend's boyfriend are not bad, and she is good for her, but her best friend can't make up her mind for a long time, and she always feels that she can find a man who is better than her boyfriend and richer than him.

To be honest, today's girls do have a much higher material requirements than before, but they are actually normal. In this day and age, it is difficult for people to feel a sense of security when something as illusory as love is, but it is not as real as money.

Many girls were just looking forward to pure love at first, but after experiencing too many unreliable emotional setbacks, they slowly began to worship money. Of course, there are still the kind of girls who don't worship money, are self-reliant, and are willing to accompany their boyfriends to start from scratch.

The man's assets are less than 100 million and there is no sense of security" This sentence originated from the mouth of a female guest at the high-end blind date held in Chengdu recently, she believes that she should find a man with assets of not less than 100 million, if the other party's assets are too small, there is no sense of security at all. She also believes that women can only make an impression when they are beautiful, and if they want to find someone who likes them instead of what they like. Originally, everyone has their own values and freedom of choice, which is understandable, but the wrong values of female guests are too distorted and deformed.

Regardless of whether the female guest herself has such a high value, if she doesn't discuss the right match, just because she bases her sense of security on the amount of money, people dare not agree. How many of the real marriages are happy because they have a lot of money? It is not denied that money is the basis of material life, and a good life is inseparable from money, but it is not because of money that you have a good married life, but many beautiful marriages are broken because of the increase of money assets.

But those who have a truly happy and beautiful married life, they often do not care about the assets and money that the other party has, but more importantly, they each have a strong enough sense of self-identity, the same heart and soul with each other, the same value orientation and the characteristics that make the other party appreciate. That is, first of all, you must live like a "person", an independent person, who will not be attached to anyone, and who can give yourself enough security. Because in the end, the sense of security is only within us, and no one else can give it.

Therefore, the female guest who said that "the man's assets are less than 100 million and he has no sense of security", she builds her sense of security on the other party's money, even if she gives her tens of billions, it will be difficult to obtain a real sense of security and happiness after all. It's good to have money, but if you don't have a strong heart, how can you hold on to so much wealth.

At a high-end blind date in Chengdu, both men and women dressed up to attend. The man's assets exceed 5 million before he is eligible to enter the market. The woman has to be screened for her appearance and academic qualifications, and even a lie detector test. <>

The reporter interviewed some women and men respectively about their views on mate selection.

One of the female guests who is an undergraduate broadcaster has a requirement for the man: assets of more than 5,000. The reason: I am also a highly educated person, and I am worth so much.

Another female guest interviewed was even more frightening: I hope the man's assets are 100 million. If I don't have 100 million assets, I don't have a sense of security. Her reasoning is that many girls have invested in order to attend such high-end blind dates, and she herself has had her nose trimmed.

Look at the man's requirements: Men do not have such high requirements for women's appearance, and hope that women can get out of the hall and into the kitchen.

However, men are not averse to the demands of girls, and one man believes that assets are a symbol of men's overall quality. The implication is that only high quality can earn money. Having money means that the quality is high. <>

Nowadays girls, is money worship really serious?

Asking men to be rich and handsome, and naked loans on campus, all reflect that women are more realistic nowadays and realize the power of money.

There's nothing wrong with that, how does the key money come from?

Do you earn it yourself, or do you rely on someone else. Asking the other party to have money, campus naked loans, are all trying to get money through a simple and crude way.

What I want to ask is, can the other party always have money? Who can guarantee that life has no ups and downs. Think about Che Xiao marrying a charcoal tycoon and getting divorced within a year. And it didn't take long for Li Zhaohui to lose all his assets.

Even if the other party has always been rich, can you remain attractive to him, and his will always belong to you?

These are all unknowns. Look at Lin Dan, the article, Chen Sicheng, and you will have the answer. <>

In my opinion, these girls don't get a sense of security from themselves, they get a sense of security from external objects.

There was a girl who said: I don't have to like him, but he must like me. Does the other party have so many assets, is the IQ negative? Is he going to marry a woman who doesn't like her?

Marriage is not just an exchange of things. Although these girls are well educated, they also think too much of themselves and are bent on selling themselves. The difference is that it's just a little higher.