I don t know how I can relate to myself when I listen to other people, I don t know why

Everyone has these psychology, but the intensity of the reflection is different.

Participate in group activities, such as football, parties, picnics, etc. These can increase your trust in the people around you.

Look at his tone.

Actually, I don't think it's necessary to care about other people's opinions.

For to live is to be spoken of by others.

It's tiring to live for the sake of other people's opinions.

Go your own way and let others say go.

Relax, find out the truth before you plan your actions!

Case 1: You and your boyfriend work in the same company, and he invites a female colleague from his department to lunch at a fine dining restaurant.

Suspicious reaction: He has changed his mind!

Get the facts: maybe they need to discuss an emergency plan. Or maybe your boyfriend admires that young lady more, but that doesn't mean you're going to be better.

Case 2: Your friends meet up to go to a bar, but you don't invite them.

Suspicious reaction: They don't like you.

Get the facts: They think you're too busy. Next time offer to participate.

Case 3: A classmate brought her daughter to a party, but she didn't introduce her to you.

Suspicious reaction: She thinks you are too eccentric and doesn't want her daughter to come into contact with you.

Get the facts: her daughter is too shy.

Case 4: During a meeting, your boss praises another colleague but does not praise you.

Suspicious reaction: He indirectly lets others know that you are not doing a good job.

Get the facts: Just because someone else is competent doesn't mean you're doing badly. Pay attention to your boss's compliments to find out what he appreciates while focusing on doing your job.

If they are talking about you, stick to your own path and let them say it, as long as they are worthy of it.

If they're not talking about you, there's no need to pay attention to it, and being a happy and fulfilled self is more important than anything else.

Summary. Hello dear, this is a very normal phenomenon of forgetting, in general, especially in the case of others confiding, then it is difficult for us to complete, after listening to the other party's narrative, even if you listen to it, there will be some places to forget, or when you are thinking, you will suddenly subconsciously forget what the other party said at the time, this is a very normal phenomenon, but if we have a little hint, remember what the other party said, then, in the future, it will not forget.

When someone talks to you, you keep listening, and you don't know what you're talking about, and you can't remember what he said afterwards.

Hello dear, this is a very normal phenomenon of forgetting, in general, especially in the case of other people's confiding, then it is difficult for us to complete, listen to the other party's narrative, even if you listen to it, Song Yuanshi will have some places to forget, or when thinking, you will suddenly subconsciously forget what the other party said at the time, this is a very normal phenomenon, but if we have a little hint, remember what the other party said, then, in the future, it will not be forgotten.

That is to say, the repetition of memory can be achieved through continuous retelling of hidden groups, and when an object is mentioned twice, then we will not easily forget it.

I wonder if it's caused by anxiety, panic, restlessness, and all kinds of emotions lately.

All kinds of extreme bad emotions are mixed together, whether they are already depressed or mentally ill.

Dear, under normal circumstances, the extreme bad emotions you mentioned will lead to the judgment of the judgment and cause the memory to be forgotten, but as you continue to recover the bad mood, then the memory can still be restored.

Sometimes people talk to me and I don't hear it at all, it's been many times, maybe it's the reason.

Hello, I'm glad to be able to answer your questions! First of all, you need to rule out whether you have any hearing damage. If not, it means that your attention is distracted, and your attention is attracted by other things, and it is a very absorbed state, so you don't care about what others say, which is also a very normal phenomenon.

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When you hear someone else speak, you don't, and what you think in your heart is known to others but others don't know.

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Hello, it seems that you seem to be a little confused, can you tell me about it?

What others know in their hearts doesn't know what's going on.

I don't hear someone else talking.

It sounds like the so-called knowing, just the literal meaning, which is the knowledge of the truth when we speak, in addition to the words, the elimination also depends on the tone behind the language? in order to better interpret <>

For example, I can say in a happy tone, I'm here. You can also say in an impatient tone, I'm here. But the meaning conveyed is completely different.

Another is that there may be two people who are not on the same frequency, and he can't understand what you say.

In addition, if you follow what you said, will it be because both of you understand, but neither of you wants to debunk it?

Many people actually have low self-esteem and don't want to speak, but the degree is different, creating the so-called different personalities, introversion is not equal to inferiority, so first let go of the burden.

For very introverted people, it's not that they don't like to speak, but they don't know how to speak, they are afraid that they won't get a response from others, and they are even more afraid that their words and deeds will not be integrated with others and cause trouble.

If you want to change, you have to let go of your arms, don't ask you to change too much, as long as you are not afraid, it is best to look at each other when talking to others, you can make appropriate jokes when talking, ease the atmosphere, and also make others feel that you are funny and humorous.

Don't go out of your way to find a topic, because if you are really not good at talking, it is easy to be cold when others are not interested in the topic, it is recommended to cater to other people's topics at the beginning, and discuss more about other people's problems, so that others will respond to you appropriately because the topic is their own, and even feel very happy, because the topic is brought up because of interest.

Cheerful and enthusiastic in life, which others can't help, rely on yourself, don't give up because of a moment of frustration, persevere to the end, ask others more in work and study, others will enjoy a sense of accomplishment and vanity at the same time, they will also gain something and change.

And the most important thing is that you must try, otherwise how can you change, if you keep doing this, then you are really inferior.

Hope, conscience. Cheeky begging, hit by your own hands.

Spend more time with people you like and feel good about. Talk to them about any ideas you have. This may help to open your heart. At the same time, tell yourself to accept others. Try to communicate with them as well. It's going to be fine. Come on.

A little inferior, and a little autistic.

You don't need to care about your personality.

I'll ask you a few questions to know you're wrong.

People have to be cheeky to say it.