How to deal with an emotionally unstable boss and employee

If the boss is emotionally unstable, then the employee should be more professional and independent.

Moreover, it is necessary to have a good psychological quality.

I met a boss before and had a very short temper. Speak and curse at every turn.

I took the wrong approach to him.

I avoided him, and I couldn't see him if I could.

Actually, now that I think about it, I was wrong. Because the more you do this, the more important communication becomes.

Only when you communicate well with your boss can you know what he wants, and then after you understand the reality of the situation, you can know what you can give him. What are the obstacles between what he wants and what you can give him, and how to overcome them. If there is a place where he can help you, you must bring it up to him.

I think that in the private sector, it's not so much the emotional instability of the boss as the self-esteem of what he wants to do.

Therefore, when dealing with such bosses, you must be professional, and don't be obsessed with them. This only annoys them even more.

Communication is also important. Let him know the progress of what you are doing, and the results, as soon as possible.

Independence is also very important, don't ask them for trivial things, they will be annoyed, and then scold you.

If they ask you something, don't say they don't know, it's not my business. If you really don't understand this, you can say to them, I'll find out, and I'll get back to you in half an hour. One is professional, and the other is that you pay more attention to what he explains.

When communicating with them, bring a notebook and write down the tasks they have assigned. Then one by one, it is done.

Finally, caring for each other is very important. The boss is also a human being, and if he is a human being, he naturally wants to be respected, understood, and cared for by others.

When he signs, take a pen for him;

When he reached out for the cup and drank the water, he handed it to him;

When it's his birthday, after reporting work, you can say happy birthday by the way.

When you see him in the morning, say hello to him.

These are small things, but they show that people care about each other.

I like this sentence very much, you have to use the heart of being a servant to be an employee of a boss.

In any case, everything you do, you want this boss to know, no matter what you do to me, what you explain, I will do my duty, responsibility, dedication, and do my best to complete. And, faithful to you.

But don't look too contrived. What point to the end. Just know each other in your hearts.

You don't have to do something, you have to preach it everywhere, they are all smart people, and everything you do, they will take it to heart. When there is an opportunity for a promotion and a raise, they will also consider you.

It's very simple, create yourself the opportunity to start your own business, and don't let him do it.

My boss caused emotional instability due to work stress. What kind of impact the boss's emotional instability will cause and what kind of experience it will bring to employees, these issues need to be comprehensively analyzed in combination with the relevant situation. Specifically, the boss's emotional instability will make employees feel stressed, employees will lose trust and identification with the company because of the boss's emotional instability, and the emotionally stable boss can bring stronger cohesion and unite employees to achieve common development.

First, the boss's emotional instability can directly make the employee feel stressed. One of the most immediate effects of an emotionally unstable boss is that it can leave employees feeling stressed. When faced with an emotionally unstable boss, employees will be stressed because they are afraid of being criticized or even punished by their boss, which will have a direct impact on their work performance, making them unable to perform at their best, and their work performance will decline as a result.

Second, employees will lose trust and recognition of the company because of their boss's emotional instability. An emotionally unstable boss can keep employees nervous for several moments, and they will feel unhappy at work and get bored. This situation will eventually lead to a loss of trust and recognition in the company, and many will choose to quit their jobs and work for companies with better environments.

For the original company, this can cause very large losses.

Third, an emotionally stable boss can generate stronger cohesion and unite employees to achieve mutual envy and development. The boss is the core of the company, and the state of the boss has a great impact on the company and every employee of the company. An emotionally stable boss will make employees feel at ease and at ease, which in turn will create a stronger cohesion that will enable all employees of the company to work together to achieve mutual development and ultimate success.

Everyone on the team will benefit from this.

Not all bosses will manage their emotions, as a boss, the work pressure is definitely not small, and it is normal to be unhappy and blackface. As an employee, don't expect your boss to smile at you like Maitreya Buddha every day.

In many large and small companies, there are too many bosses who lose their temper and give their employees a face, as long as he does not deduct his salary, wear small shoes, and insult his personality. The perfect bosses are all in the TV series, in **. In real life, there are so many bosses who love to lose their temper, either endure it or leave immediately, there is nothing to worry about.

There are many factors that can lead to changes in a person's mood, such as family chores, work pressure, body chemistry (endocrine disorders), and even a casual word from the people around them.

The most direct influencing factor of the change in the mood of the company leader may be his superior. He is under pressure from above, and then passes it on to you. This is a normal kind of transmission, but everyone has their own way of transmitting and influencing others.

In addition, the work pressure itself is relatively large, and it is normal for everyone to have emotions.

However, none of the above analysis is important, because you can't control it, how the leader should be or what he is. So how to deal with it?

Doing what you are responsible for is the only constant way to deal with all the changes in the workplace. In the long run, it doesn't make much sense to guess the mood of the leader or his intentions. Remember, if you do a good job and you make a difference, the biggest vested interest is your leader, and he knows this.

Over time, he will slowly recognize your value.

Therefore, the boss's emotions are not very important, after all, you can't intervene, all you can do is to observe the words and looks, carefully figure out the boss's thoughts, try not to cause trouble to him, and don't let yourself hit the muzzle. Unless it's your leader who deliberately targets you, it's only for you, not for others. Otherwise, stop guessing and do your job.

Use actions to tell your leader: I still have some value, please treat me well.

If your boss is angry with you, don't see yourself as the target of his anger, in fact you are just an object for him to vent his anger, the boss may have encountered some pressure outside, or there may be some problems in the process of dealing with family relationships, in short, don't think that you are triggering the boss's emotions. Because you may not be so important to the boss, the boss can't be angry at the customer, nor can he go out on the street to get angry, the safe zone under his control is the company, so he finds the emotion, and the most likely is to choose this safe zone. It is very important to learn to observe words, when you have found signs that your boss is going to be angry, as long as you don't have to look for him, it is better to avoid the limelight, maybe tomorrow he will return to normal, if it is unfortunate that the zombie vents his anger at you, when he is angry, do not contradict and argue.

His anger will become bigger because of your explanation, and don't think that your boss will fire you if he gets angry, if everyone resigns after being scolded by their boss, there may be few people in the company for a long time.

When the boss is anxious, he is often weak and lacks self-confidence, and anxiety is a stress response when he is facing great pressure. When the boss is anxious, it means that he is facing a lot of pressure, at this time, as a subordinate, you have to support him, and don't be influenced by him, and also fall into anxiety, and never give up easily and rashly until the end.

In psychology, anger is often a manifestation of inner strength. Bosses are generally strength-based people so that they can take charge on their own, so they are generally stronger, stronger, and unquestionable. When they encounter setbacks, they manifest themselves in a more extreme way.

Anger is actually a power to change a situation that we can't accept. Learn to read what you say, and when you find that your boss is already showing signs of anger, as long as you don't have to look for him, avoid the limelight, and maybe tomorrow he will return to normal. If you happen to become the target of your boss's venting, don't contradict and argue when he is angry, the more you explain, the easier it is to trigger his anger.

When the boss has black negative emotions, as an employee, you must not touch his brows, and you should adopt a soft attitude to deal with the leader and not make him angry.

At this time, you should stay away from the boss, and if you are in contact with the boss, you should follow the boss's words, so that you can deal with the boss's black emotions and not anger the boss.

At this time, you should stay away from the boss, and you should not communicate with the other party, and secondly, you should keep a certain distance from the other party, otherwise you may make the other party very angry, and then scold yourself.

In such a situation, I think that as an employee, you must do your job well, don't make the boss angry, be low-key, and don't be too public in front of the boss.

At this time, do not offend the other party, and you must do what you should do, and at the same time you must keep a safe distance, and then do not make particularly serious mistakes in principle.

How about personality incompatibility? What about the black emotions towards the boss? If you can see that the boss has black emotions, I think Boss Li is getting better and better, because such people will vent to you at any time.

The best way to do this is to stay away. Do your job well and don't make your boss angry.

When the boss is in a bad mood, don't hold on to your scalp to talk to the boss, you should let yourself work more and talk less, so that you can relieve the boss's mood and not let the boss notice that you are targeting yourself.

Try not to have a head-on conflict with the other person, and avoid some of the other person, so that the other person can not pay attention to you.

Be sure to stay away. And at this time, don't go to the boss, be sure to give the boss space to be alone.

Definitely deal with emotions first.

Because when something goes wrong, if you are in a bad mood, you can't consider the problem, and the problem may not be handled correctly, and it may become more and more troublesome.

If the mood is not easy to deal with, the brain will deal with it, but the brain will deal with the problem in this way, which is very detrimental to yourself.

If you are in a bad mood, the problem may become bigger and bigger the more you deal with it, and it may reach a point beyond your control.

If the mood is bad. Dealing with problems may make the people around you lose confidence in you, because you deal with them in a bad mood, and the problems are generally handled unscientifically. So whether you are an individual, a leader, or an employee, this is unconvincing and will affect your future WeChat.

So deal with the emotions first and then deal with the problems.

Don't be in a hurry, you have to be gentle and get along with him slowly.

I work for a colleague who is not only emotionally stable, but also sensitive to the emotions of the colleagues around him. What was my experience? I think the only way to experience this kind of thing is to rely on storytelling.

The first time I met this colleague was six years ago, when I just joined the team, I didn't understand a lot of things, and the first meeting was directly confused by a car of shorthand (you try DECC NEC ICCMW DHC, etc., are all abbreviations of local medical and social service organizations). This colleague (clinical psychologist) probably saw my confused (criminal) (sleepy) face, smiled and said that everyone is too natural to use the abbreviation for the sake of efficiency, and the new colleagues (not pointed, there were also two or three relatively new colleagues at that time) can ask them after the meeting if they have questions. Although this example does not indicate that he is emotionally stable, I want to show that he is sensitive and caring.

A recent example is a press conference by the project team. Although it is not the first time to do it, it is the first time that I need to speak on stage, and it is still Cantonese. My own spoken fluent luck is Mandarin, English, Cantonese, and Wuxi, so no matter how calm I am, I am still a little panicked.

When the ** arrived one after another, I saw that there were all coming, and my panic became more substantial. This colleague has seen a lot of scenes, so he just smiled as usual, and began to divert my attention from the specific things I saw and heard in the room, such as the yellow wooden table and the sound of the master of ceremonies trying to mic. My Experience:

It is very reassuring to have such a calm colleague and feels very reliable.

Of course, there is a colleague like this around me, who will shout and occasionally frustrate, because he will not show great joy and sorrow, so when everyone gathers and goes out to play, I can't always find out the most real feelings of him. What is more commensurate with TA's personality is the amount of alcohol and the amount of wine, 100 to 300ml can basically be put down, and you can fall asleep directly, and you will not go crazy with alcohol, which is particularly worry-free.

I asked you if you were particularly angry? He said that sometimes he would go out for a walk, or do a body scan, and then the gust of air quickly dissipated. The only person who can't control the true qi of the whole body and is easy to break is probably to his family.

After all, no matter how powerful a clinical psychologist is, there are family members who know all the emotional buttons of TA.