If a middle aged person can t even control his temper well, is it considered a failure?

If a middle-aged person can't even control his temper well, it can indeed be regarded as a failure, but don't deny yourself because of this, after all, emotional control is a very difficult thing, and many people can't control their emotions well throughout their lives.

In daily life, you may meet such a person, who is particularly short-tempered, often yells and yells because of a trivial matter, and behaves very similarly to a child, but looking at his age has reached middle age, these people are especially unscrupulous in the face of their own families, but after the mood stabilizes, they will regret their behavior very much, so as to feel guilty and distressed, and feel that they can't control their emotions, resulting in a deep sense of frustration, such as parents who tutor their children's homework. Many people wanted to beat their children to relieve their anger at that time, but after their emotions calmed down, they were annoyed by their behavior of hurting their children.

In fact, most of us are slaves of our own emotions in life, and we are unconsciously dominated by personal emotions in daily life, and we can only use a long time to learn to control our emotions. Some people have not mastered the skills of controlling their emotions, which is manifested in the fact that people still can't control their emotions in middle age, which is indeed a failure in the eyes of many people, but if you are middle-aged, you still can't control your emotions well, don't be discouraged, because this is not something that can be done overnight, you need to have enough patience and wisdom, and at the same time learn to introspect.

Temper is an extension of emotions, in Chinese Confucianism, joy and anger are not visible is the highest state, according to this standard many people are not reached, so don't be too yourself, just try to stay away from the bad temper that destroys life.

As a middle-aged person, if you can't control your temper, you are indeed a failure, because the adult world is very cruel, and no one will care about your emotions, but will be ridiculed by others. And when you lose your temper, it is also easy to make bad decisions, which is also not good for your future development, so you must change this problem.

There is an old saying that as long as you control your emotions, you won't lose, because people often make wrong decisions when their brains are hot, and the biggest impact of this is tantrums. Maybe it's because of the environment you grew up in, or maybe you think that tantrums can vent the stress in your heart, but in fact, you can control these in another way. You just need to recognize that tantrums are harmful to you, and you can make a difference by making up your mind to change.

If you have been under a lot of pressure, it means that you are not satisfied with your current life, which would have pushed you to be motivated, you just need to put this pressure in the right place again, for example, when you are about to lose control of your emotions, go to the playground to run a few laps more until you are exhausted, not only can you exercise your body, but also let the unhappiness in your heart be released.

Maybe as a middle-aged person, you have been busy for so many years and still have achieved nothing, but if you continue to do this, then you will not see hope for the future, but if you can restrain your temper and take what you have experienced as experience, then your future road will be extremely smooth. The most taboo thing here is to lose your temper with the few people around you who care about you, because at this stage, you have no reason to lose your temper with anyone, and it is the right way to spur yourself on without trying to spur yourself.

In addition to your own efforts, you also have to overcome some external factors, because there are always people who grasp your shortcomings and even shake out the ugly things you have done, all you have to do is to look at the problem with a larger picture, and take this as a reference, instead of being angry and angry with the other party.

Not a failure. From the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine, when a person reaches middle age, the function of various organs is weak, and if his temper is not well controlled, it is because the liver is vigorous, the wood is multiplied by the earth, and the spleen belongs to the soil. In middle age, it is natural to be short-tempered and irritable, and participating in more outdoor recreational activities will gradually adjust.

Calculate; Because with the continuous growth of age, middle-aged people already have relatively rich experience, in such a situation, if they can not effectively control their temper, then such people are doomed to failure.

Middle age is an indelible topic, but it is also a true portrayal of the first half of life. The energy and physical strength are not as good as before, or some illnesses have gradually found the door, so the front companion is not as calm as ......

But there may also be the opposite feeling, that is, people become more and more stupid when they reach middle age, because they have experienced a lot of things, everything is nothing new, and they are not strange, or they have cultivated to a certain level, and they are comfortable with anything, and they have a certain amount of accumulation and accumulation, and their lives are much more leisurely.

Whether your temper is getting better or worse depends on you and the circumstances of your life. For me, I know that there are some things that I can't change, so let it be, sometimes I think: what am I in the long river of history?

What am I in the midst of the stars? Who am I in the hearts of others?

In fact, it is not others who care about you the most, but yourself, so don't be too tired, don't be too disappointed, don't be too uncomfortable, recognize all this, and then be relieved, and then grasp every minute and every second of the moment, don't be ......bound by external objects

Life is such a process, whether it is good or bad, you have to accept it all, but it will pass, there is nothing remarkable! I hope everyone can have the joy of life! [Heart].