Professor Tsinghua bluntly said that if he wants his child to be promising, from the age of 8, at wh

Dale Carnegie once described the characteristics of man: "Man can endure tragedy, and he can defeat tragedy, because people have amazing potential, and if they develop their ambition to the fullest, they will be able to get out of it." "For everyone, the most difficult thing is not to break through the status quo and give full play to the initiative in the dilemma period, but to maintain the spirit of striving for progress in the period of relative lightness, so that they are in a state of saturation and learning.

Professor Ma, a well-known professor, used to be straightforward that the good habits of adolescents and children will have a serious impact on people's lives, and many habits are not only the number of test scores in the student days, but also one of the reasons for every closed-loop control causality in the development of the near future. Professor Ma thinks that he wants to let his children have a good life, so from the age of 8, that is, at the beginning of the announcement of touching the cultural education of the school system and the emergence of self-identity, parents are forcing the child at 3 o'clock.

1. "A little more" self-demand standards

Professor Ma believes that children's inner consciousness and its driving force is that they can enhance their initiative to study seriously without the help of environmental pressure or objective conditions, but this initiative comes from the "a little more" in the standard bricks of their own standards.

Let children have a general archetypal overall plan for the future, have a yearning for their future careers or roles, and correctly guide children's future career planning in daily life, and then plan their daily behavior as a whole, which may be to score 90 points in the test, or to complete an exam paper in time, under the premise of such a small self, to further create personal concepts and insights.

2. Efficient use of time.

Many children in their early childhood, in fact, there are a lot of undiscovered or unexplored development potential, which needs to be accompanied by the continuous growth of learning and training knowledge reserves and the improvement of their learning and training ability, in order to further enhance this imperfect ability, but in the same way, the child's early years, in fact, is also a lot of time concept consumption or a relatively high degree of neglect of talent.

Professor Ma persevered, let children learn the concept of time to carry out management planning, not to let children be covered with training every day, but to shape children to plan their daily life little by little, so that every minute has something to gain.

3. Be able to take responsibility for mistakes.

For every child, learning to learn from mistakes or inaccuracies is the only way to go. Whether it is learning and training or life, you will face big and small mistakes or problems, but the important thing is not to deny this, to put the responsibility on others, but to calmly deal with mistakes, bear your own part of the obligations, and then learn new knowledge from mistakes, improve your ability, that is also the only way to success.

Professor Ma, a professor at Tsinghua University, once bluntly said that if you want your child to be promising, the habits of adolescence may affect and accompany a person's life, and these habits bring not only the grades of the student age. Proper guidance and education are essential. Want to have children.

1. Professor Ma believes that children's internal initiative and driving force are to stimulate the upward enthusiasm of positive learning without relying on external pressure or the drive of the objective environment, and such enthusiasm comes from the "more" on the standard brick of self-requirements. 2. For the efficient use of time, 3. Have a sense of responsibility to be able to bear mistakes.

First of all, in terms of self-care ability, we must force the child to develop his independent character. Secondly, we must let him accept the good and the bad, and have the ability to resist setbacks.

1. Children with self-learning ability.

Professor Ren believes that at the age of 5-8, it is not uncommon for children to have curiosity, but it is extremely rare for children to have the ability to learn on their own. Self-learning is an attitude of learning from the heart, coupled with the ability to pursue progressive learning, only by taking both into account can a child become very successful through the whole process of self-learning.

For example, if a child is curious about temperature, in addition to learning about the teacher's parents, they may learn more about the main points of knowledge based on books or collecting information, and the result of obtaining other information is to encourage them to deal with more problems, and then learn from experience and enrich the knowledge base system. Only in such a self-consistent learning closed loop, this kind of children's self-learning ability can make everyone in the dominant position among people of the same age.

2. Have higher self-requirements.

In fact, the ability to learn comes to a considerable extent from a strong dissatisfaction with the status quo. Learning is boring, but for children who have a certain purpose and gain, learning is a way to get positive emotional feedback, and for students who have higher standards for themselves or in the future, they can have a lot of interest in additional learning, and this is one of the main reasons why they are different from others.

The basic requirement of the Higher Self is the inner strength to learn, train, and advance in a steady stream throughout life, and such a precious trait can even exert its unexpected effect when manifested in childhood.

3. Students who understand how to think and realize themselves.

Professor Ren admits that in fact, in today's cultural and educational environment, what students lack is not learning materials, but lack good behavior habits. Thinking and self-realization does not depend on external work pressure, but on the sincere personal behavior of scattered reeds, and students with this trait usually go further than others of the same age.

Strong self-care ability and strong sense of autonomy. If a child is able to take care of himself and is willing to do his own thing, it is already a victory. Children's sense of independent learning is very strong, and they will also develop good learning habits after being stuffy.

They are self-discipline, emotional ability, initiative, social skills, self-esteem and prosocial behavior, which are the foundation of a child's success.

Strong self-learning ability. Very self-disciplined, able to go to bed early and get up early. The mind is very active. I always reflect on myself. Willpower is very strong. Very organized.

When a child is 8-12 years old, the outcome is important, but the process is even more important. Don't be swayed by other opinions. Every experience, whether successful or not, can learn a lot.

First, what did you learn in school today? Second, how many friends did you make at school today? Thirdly, what was the experience like at school today?

Fourth, what are some of the things at school today that make you stop and think? Say these words to your child, and your child will learn very well in the future and have a very good personality.

You're the best kid, you're the best kid, and hopefully you're going to get better and better. Hopefully, you'll be able to find a job that suits you when you grow up.

For students, the exam should be familiar, but for the vast majority of students, the exam is both hope and fear; I not only want to take the exam to test the learning effect of this period of time, but also worry that due to the coming of the exam, my learning level will really be revealed.

Many students are afraid of exams, and even have the problem of anxiety and stomach ache before exams, or can't sleep at night because of anxiety, such a situation is actually not uncommon for teachers to beat their hands, but this "exam syndrome" is often an obstacle to students' learning.

Tian Lihua was a college student in the 80s of the last century, at that time, she was studying while plucking pig vegetables, gritted her teeth and closed high school, but during the study time of high school, he spent more time to make up his English, and finally with the first place in the town, he was successfully admitted to Tsinghua University and became a famous college student in the village at that time.

After having a child later, Tian Lihua realized that the current educational environment is completely different from her own at that time, how to make children realize the necessity of learning, it is impossible to rely only on the compulsion of objective conditions, and what she can do is only to help children develop a good learning consciousness and arouse children's enthusiasm for learning, and it is in this way that her daughter was successfully hired by Peking University in the year of the college entrance examination.

For children, there is no announcement of the study of campus life, in other words, the kind of learning in primary and secondary schools is actually easy and pleasant, because at this time, the outside world's regulations on his test scores are not as harsh and practical as later, so they have more consciousness in learning, and Tian Lihua knows that this kind of consciousness should be one of the most important factors in maintaining the performance of ordinary high school academic examinations.

Before the child's 8 years old, Tian Lihua never said to the child, "Why are there so many problems?" Many parents are very impatient in the process of teaching their children, because of the difference in the amount of professional knowledge of each other, so the child's problems are usually childish and unhappy in the eyes of parents, but for children, it is a good opportunity to ask questions in itself, so it is important to help children maintain this hobby.

There is not much why" is the second sentence that Tian Lihua never said to her children. When parents find that they can't explain their children's problems, they generally choose to dodge, and after they come up with the setting, they are afraid that their children will ask themselves a word or two. Every parent is not the only one, at this time, there is no need for parents to express everything, what must be to guide the child to seek answers by himself, either in books or on the Internet.

Only do it yourself! "For children, when facing difficulties or pain, there will always be a bit of a fear mentality, and sometimes parents pay too much attention to their children's subjectivity, and will let their children do it alone; However, at this time, the child itself has no good solution, and what is more needed is the specific guidance of parents on the side, rather than figuring it out alone.

The first sentence: praising other people's children in front of the child will make the child inferior; The second sentence: deny your own children, children do well, want to get praise from parents, dismantle parents are stingy with praise, always deny children, it will affect the child's life.

There is no trace of how much to take the source, why" is the second sentence that Tian Lihua never said to children. When parents find that they can't explain their children's problems, they often choose to escape from the state and quietly avoid them, and after giving the established answers, they are afraid that their children will ask themselves a few more words.

Mother Chazen graduated from Tsinghua University, and her son is studying at Peking University, and said bluntly: Before the child was 8 years old, he never said how many problems were defeated, how many problems were not imitated, how many problems were there, these few words.

The first point should let the child understand how to learn and how to face the learning correctly, the second point should not let the child have too much pressure to let the child relax, and the third point should not be able to grasp the Dishi Qingfang should be carefully reviewed.

Put your money where your mouth is. This is very important for the formation of children's character, and a large part of the reason why many children like to lie is because their parents do not set an example in this area. The mistakes that many parents often make when educating their children are:

When I told my children at home that I had to wait for the street lights to turn on when I was on the road, I forgot everything I had taught my children when I went out, and I often ran red lights in a hurry.

It may be to understand the importance of giving commitments to each other, it may be to know how to respect the wishes of the other party, or it may be to know how to seek better development together.

In life, I believe that there must be such parents around you: their children are disobedient, not to cover the hole and beat the teacher, hoping that the teacher will help educate them, or the teacher is not teaching well, "This child is sent to school, how can the teacher teach like this, what kind of teacher is this?!" ”

Seeing this, I don't know who people around you will think of? But no matter what kind of people they are, they don't think clearly about one thing: the child's first teacher is the parents themselves, not anyone including the teacher.

Because from the birth of a child, the first thing they see when they open their eyes is their own father and mother, these two people who will have a lifelong impact on the child. Parents' words and deeds are the template for children, parents have good habits, children have good habits, parents have bad habits, parents don't make trouble and rely on teachers for not teaching your children well.

A professor of psychology at Tsinghua University once said: After investigation, we found that most of the children who have excellent prospects have an excellent mother, and these mothers have these characteristics.

In fact, you can find that many great mothers have something in common when you compare the mothers of those successful people.

1. Three views are positive

The three views include "outlook on life, values and world view", because everyone has a different vision of the world, so everyone's three views are also different, there are few people in life who have three views that are very consistent, and there are fewer people with positive three views.

Those mothers with positive three views, from the moment the child is born, the child's personality, thoughts, and even the three views will be the same as the mother, even if the influence is small when he was a child, the mother's three views will also imperceptibly affect the child, so that the child's three views are not correct.

On the contrary, if the mother always speaks ill of people behind her back, always cries about poverty, or always looks like she is rich, the children she educates will be exactly the same, and it is really difficult to become excellent.

2. Very motivated

Children are the portraits of their parents, and what parents do, children will also have the same behavior and habits. If the mother is a positive and self-motivated person, they have a positive impact on the child, the mother reads, the child likes to read, the mother practices spoken English, the child will also learn to speak, these excellent habits are influencing the child, I believe that one day in the future, excellent talents have more returns.

3. Don't spoil

From ancient times to the present, everyone knows that it is wrong to spoil children, but there are really too few parents who can really treat them equally and not spoil them. Especially novice parents, they want to give their children the best life, so most of the education of children is to try to be satisfied and not to be disadvantaged. But blindly satisfying children's requirements will only make them insatiable, until one day they lose their minds for the things they like and do things that hurt others.

And really smart and decent mothers must not be spoiling children, they know the consequences of doting on their children, in order to make their children better, they will control their words and deeds, which is very important for children.

In short, the positive influence of a good mother on a child is a lifetime, if you are not such a mother now, it is best to reflect on it in time and correct it in time, otherwise your child is likely to pay for your behavior.