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<> pity the hearts of parents all over the world, as parents, they all hope that their children have a good marriage and a happy family, but as adults, children have their own favorite objects, they should be happy and approve of them, rather than interfering and preventing, parents should guide and support benignly, if they agree, you can give them reference and some analysis suggestions.
Do the shoes fit? Only your own feet know, so is marriage, as long as two people are together, they will be happy. In real life, some of the marriages that are favored by their parents, the children do not like it, they have loved people in their hearts, but the parents are resolutely opposed and do not allow them to be together, some tough children get rid of their parents' arrangements, the weaker are powerless to resist, and are forced to submit, after marriage, they are very painful, three days of quarrels, and what is more terrible is that the lotus root is broken, and the person you like secretly go on a date, which sprinkles a handful of salt on the originally unhappy marriage, which is really worse, when parents see such a marriage, I felt very uncomfortable and regretted my decision.
There are exceptions to everything, although the marriage of the two lovers is not favored by the parents, in the end it is also very good, after all, marriage is a matter of two people, as long as two people are eye-to-eye, no one can break up. No matter how poor life is, it is still happy. Just around me happened the man's parents are not optimistic about the marriage, all kinds of obstructions, the two young people still got married, on the day of the wedding, the man did not have a family and friends to greet the family, only the boy's classmates came to greet the family, listen to the neighbor hit ** said:
The neighbors were gossiping and talking. It is said that a marriage without the blessing of their parents is unhappy, and young people are not sensible, and they will regret it against their parents' wishes. It was pitiful to see them in the scene at that time.
And over time, their marriage, although not blessed by their parents, was very happy.
Is it true that a marriage that is opposed by parents will not be happy after marriage? In fact, it also depends on the operation of both husband and wife.
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After marriage, you will really be unhappy, because after getting married, a lot of shortcomings will be exposed between two people, and impatience will also be exposed, just like the parents said that the marriage is not strong.
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It's really not going to be happy, because the parents have a lot of experience, and the parents know that the two people are not suitable, so they will not agree.
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I think most of them will be unhappy, because our parents will not harm us, and they have a good eye for people.
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If the parents do not agree to the marriage, whether it is happy or not depends on the situation.
A large proportion of marriages in which parents do not agree will not be happy, generally for the following reasons:
1. The parents do not agree to this marriage because the other party has points that make the parents dissatisfied, such as not enterprising, lazy, other bad habits, poor economy, etc., if the parents are smart parents who can look at people, and the parents have a lot of life experience, these traits do exist in this person, then these traits are really likely to be a time bomb in your future marriage. The opposition of the parents, the disliked party is likely to have hatred in his heart, and it is difficult to treat his parents sincerely after marriage, which will definitely affect the relationship between the husband and wife.
2. Love is a matter of two people, marriage is a matter of two families, if one of the parents does not agree to this marriage, it is easy for the two families to get along in the future. The parents of one party who dislike it usually show dislike and dissatisfaction in the interaction between the two families, and the disliked party will definitely feel uncomfortable because of the parents and themselves are disliked, which will inevitably affect the relationship between the two families, and it is difficult for both husband and wife not to be affected by their parents, after all, they and their parents are blood relations and are natural wholes.
3. Because your parents do not agree with this marriage, when you need your parents' help after marriage, your parents may feel that if you don't listen to your own words, it is very likely that they will not help you or will not help you wholeheartedly, and you will not get the support of your parents in your heart, which will also affect your happiness.
4. Because the other party is disliked by his parents, the other party's self-esteem is very strong, and he may make a note from now on. If he is not developed, it is okay, you can still live a stable life, if he is developed, he may choose someone else again, because when he sees your parents, he will think of the self who was once disliked, why not just start over?
Of course, marriages that parents don't agree with are not all unhappy. The parents do not agree to the marriage, and the subsequent happiness situation generally has the following characteristics:
1. The point that your parents disagree with is only temporary, you can get better through hard work, and your other half is also working hard to get better. For example, your parents dislike your other half for not having a good economy, but your other half is very hard-working, has strong learning ability, and has opportunities, and the economy will improve in the near future.
2. Your parents are not very good at seeing people and are short-sighted. Your parents look at people very superficially, for example, to see if the other party is very tall, handsome, and sweet in mouth, but your object is a standard straight man or straight woman, ordinary in appearance, but very good on the inside, and other aspects are also very compatible with you. This kind of you can't listen to your parents, stick to your own choices, live your own life, and be happy in the future, your parents will see it.
When your parents see that you are happy, they will most likely shut up.
3. The other party has a good character and a tolerant personality. Although your parents are against it, he is understanding and tolerant, and he tries to be himself, so that you can show your parents that you are happy after marriage, then he can bring you happiness.
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A marriage that is not favored by parents will not be happy.
The management of a marriage not only requires both parties to pay together, but also needs the help of the other two families, if not favored by the parents, then this marriage may also produce some contradictions, even at the beginning, the husband and wife can stand up for righteousness and insist on being together, but as the days go by, there will gradually be all kinds of contradictions, and if the relationship with the family is not good, it will not make this relationship long-lasting. Therefore, most marriages that are not favored by parents do not have a very good ending.
Second, the parents have more experience.
Most parents live more than 20 years or even 30 years longer than themselves, their experience is very rich, and for their children they may face a relationship for the first time, the recognition of people is not very standard and professional, and there is a possibility of seeing away with less experience, but for parents, they may eat more salt than everyone eats, so they are more accurate in looking at people, and most of the marriages that are not favored by their parents will not be very happy.
3. Although children should listen to their parents, they should also think independently.
If some children listen to their parents too much, then they are undoubtedly "mom boys" or "mom girls". If children do not have the ability to think independently, then there will not be too good results in a relationship, so although everyone should listen to their parents in a certain aspect, they are only for reference, do not listen all the time, but also have the ability to think independently.
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Because the marriage that your parents oppose means that your parents are not satisfied with the person you choose, do not meet your parents' expectations or have shortcomings that your parents cannot accept, at least in the eyes of your parents are not perfect, so the probability of being unhappy after marriage is higher than that supported by your parents.
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Marriage is for two people, so when it comes to marriage, there are many issues to consider, and there are many things that involve two families. If you don't want to fall in love, as long as two people love each other, it is enough, and in the process of marriage, if your parents oppose it, then there will definitely be a lot of conflicts between two people. So can a marriage that is strongly opposed by parents be happy?
1. A marriage that parents do not agree with will not be happy, and most of the marriages that parents oppose are because two people are not in the right household, in order to let their children marry into a good family.
Parents are generally very cautious. When the parents strongly oppose the marriage, it is likely that the two people are not suitable, and if the two parties do not get the blessing of the parents at this time, then even if the two people are forced to be together, they will receive a lot of blessings. Therefore, if the parents are opposed, they generally need to face more difficulties and feel unhappy.
However, there are also some couples who, after getting married, prove themselves through their own efforts and are also very filial to their parents, so it is also very correct to let their parents accept such a choice in the end.
2. Generally, if the parents do not agree to the marriage of two people, it is likely that they use their experience to analyze the young people, which may cause the two young people to make mistakes, and sometimes break up a good fate. Therefore, the marriage that is generally obstructed by parents will make two people believe in themselves more, resulting in an estrangement between them and their parents, so this matter needs to be dealt with well.
3. If their parents do not agree, some young people will also listen to their parents and choose to break up with each other. At this time, there will be some more extreme phenomena. If you ruthlessly give up your beloved, then at least you will not feel happy.
At this time, although the relationship with your parents is more harmonious, it will also hurt the people who love you. If you have the idea of divorce during the marriage process, it is very dangerous, and you must know how to repair the relationship between two people in time. How to repair the relationship between two people requires certain ways and means.
4. Everyone understands that marriage does not belong to the unilateral problem of two people, it involves two families, if you do not get the support of your parents, then it will not only add a lot of troubles, but also lose confidence. Venus said that marriages that are opposed by parents are generally unhappy, and if they do not get the consent of their parents, then two people are likely to not last long, so generally couples will go to a better life after marriage, and then use their own actions to prove that their choice is right. When parents see their children happy, they will also feel comforted, so they will not dwell on this issue.
It's just that when we choose marriage, we must calm down and think about our parents, what is the reason for disagreement, we must communicate well with each other, and do not cause conflicts between the two families. Parents are always interested in the good of their children, so even if they have opposing opinions, do not go against them, but use their own actions to convince the other party.
Can the marriage described above be happy when the parents strongly disapprove of it?
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Hello, you will be happy, because the key to happiness is not whether your parents oppose it, but: 1, see what the emotional foundation of both parties is, 2, see if there is a reasonable plan for the future. (not only financially, but also how to get parents to agree), 3) the reasons for your parents' objections, have you carefully considered whether there is a certain reason, 4, and what is your definition of happiness.
Next, you have to understand whether the person your parents oppose can really make your future life happy as you define, of course, you will only know after the days have passed. Regardless of whether parents oppose it or not, there will be all kinds of unexpected things in the future married life, but one thing is very clear, love is a thing that requires two people to put in a lot of effort together to achieve happiness.
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A marriage that parents oppose is not necessarily happy!
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Being intervened by parents when they are in love is really a common phenomenon for wives. There are many people who are sad after obeying their parents' arrangements for many years, and there are many people who regret not listening to the old man after getting married for many years. Of course, there are very few male guests like "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" are so tough.
When asked by the female guest how to deal with the relationship between the spouse and the parents, how to deal with the opinions and participation of the parents when choosing a mate.
The male guest made something unexpected, he bluntly said that he would not consider his parents' opinions, and even Grandpa Meng expressed his amazement. After in-depth understanding, I found that the male guest's hardness was not without reason, but because the original family itself was very tolerant, supporting him "I am the master of my life", and giving the male guest enough space to choose. But the truth is that not everyone's family of origin will be so tolerant.
It has been said that "a marriage that does not have the approval of parents is a marriage of courage." "It takes a lot of courage because you have to face more difficulties and obstacles, so it is best to have the support and approval of your parents for love and marriage. And when faced with parental interference, what we need to do must not be to worsen the existing situation, but to do the following:
Respect When there is a difference of opinion, you must first respect, not only respect your parents, their opinions are for your own good, but the important thing is your own mind, you have to know what kind of person you are suitable for and need, after you are sure, you need to respect your own ideas, so that you can grow into a truly independent person. Communication is followed by communication with parents, and no matter what the outcome is to be achieved, effective communication is always essential! Communication is crucial in how to convince parents to handle a good relationship.
Attention needs to be paid to the tone of communication, attitude and logic, and it is necessary to communicate rather than arguing. You can first ask them about the reasons for their objections, and then make targeted breakthroughs, combining theory and examples, and finally introduce your partner to your parents and achieve communication between them.
As long as it is you approve, you agree, and you like, you must insist on your own opinions, because love is a matter of the two of you, not the filial piety of your parents, you have to live with your lover for a lifetime, so the right is in your own hands, don't be swayed by others.
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