Do I have a phobia of selectivity? What to do?

At present, there are no signs of illness, but there is a bit of a psychological abnormal tendency, which may have a lot to do with your growth environment and personality, as far as your current situation is concerned, it is just a lack of decision, or not enough decision-making, and it is not a mental illness at present.

In other words, not only shopping, but also many things that require you to make up your mind, you are faced with the psychological dilemma of hesitation, and you can't stop. From now on, you need to find a very trusted relative or friend to support and encourage you or help you make decisions, especially those who have the courage and ideas, after a period of change and environmental impact, it will completely change.

In addition, you should make more friends, participate in more social activities, try to communicate with friends more, talk about your thoughts, step on the dignity under your feet, and not be afraid of saying the wrong thing. You may be a little withdrawn now, not good at socializing, if this continues, it will affect your psychology, and this state will deteriorate, which will eventually lead to mental illness, then you can't do it without looking at it.

Choice phobia brings great distress to our lives, when we stand in front of a dazzling array of goods and don't know how to choose, when we are afraid that our decisions are wrong and cannot satisfy ourselves, we are always in a state of doubt about ourselves. So what to do if you have a phobia of choice?

If you don't know how to choose in the process of choosing, you can use the list to determine the vague ideas in your mind and clarify them with a pen. For example, you can write down the benefits of this choice on one side of the paper, the disadvantages of this choice on the other side, and the weight of each factor, and finally calculate a total score, choosing the one with the higher score.

There is often no right or wrong choice, and the key is whether you stick to your own choice. When we hesitate, we might as well simply not consider too many gains and losses, we have made our choices, and we will not compare, no matter what others do, what we want to do is to go our own way. We believe that the choice that suits us is the best choice.

Choice phobias often choose difficulties because of insecurity, and by building intimate relationships, we can increase our sense of security, preferably by forming an unconditional acceptance that we support you no matter what choice you make. This kind of interpersonal relationship can be effective in alleviating choice phobia.

Self-acceptance is an essential process in our growth. People with choice phobia are often not confident enough, and they always doubt whether they have made the best choice. And in fact, every choice I make is my way of being.

Choice phobia brings great distress to our lives, regret when we stand in front of a dazzling array of goods and do not know how to choose, when we are afraid that our decisions are wrong and cannot satisfy ourselves, we are always in a state of doubt. So what to do if you have a phobia of choice?

To overcome the "pathological" idea of perfectionism, the so-called perfection is actually an unrealistic way of knowing, and we are living in the eyes of others. Live your true self and be brave enough to make your own decisions.

I don't know when I started having a strange phenomenon that I call "selective social phobia".

I think this "selective social phobia" is caused by my own lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. In the eyes of most people, I am a lively and cheerful "chatter", and many people think that I am an "autistic person", I do not have a dual personality, I know very well what I am doing, and I am not because I can't let go of people I don't know. Before, I was also puzzled, why can't I communicate with people normally?

I envy my friends and feel that they have an easy time talking to others, but for me, there are a lot of people who make me feel stressed, and I can probably sort out the reasons for that. Most of the people who make me feel stressed are people I feel admireable in a certain aspect, or people I admire, or people who are prettier than me? I can't figure it out either.

I tried to change, but I couldn't even say hello, unless they took the initiative to talk to me, maybe I'd be more relaxed, but it wasn't a common thing.

I wanted to find some reason for myself, or an excuse to cover up this unusual reaction, but everyone didn't seem to care, yes, no one would observe me, and few people knew me, so why should I embarrass myself and make myself anxious every day. But I think this is a kind of psychological trapping, I believe that I have a problem, and low self-esteem is a big psychological problem. I'm conflicted, I'm arrogant, but I'm extremely inferior, I'm confident, I'm not confident, my heart is twisted, I want to find an exit, and I'm afraid that the people around me will know.

It's better to write it out than to think about it, and treat it as if the cloud knows.

Definition. Choice phobia, also known as choice difficulty. Symptomatic patients will have great difficulty in making choices and will not be able to make satisfactory choices normally, resulting in a certain degree of phobia of choices.

Reasons for this paragraph.

1. Unable to determine the most important needs of one's heart, unable to obtain psychological balance. 2. Fear of the consequences of choices. 3. Be dissatisfied with yourself, "project" your dissatisfaction out and reflect it in disguise, and escape from yourself.

Methods in this paragraph.

Hypnosis**. Through psychoanalyst hypnosis, we dig into the depths of the mind or memory to find the root cause of the disease. This kind of ** takes a long time and costs a lot of money.

Drugs**. It is currently considered to be the most effective method. Traditional Chinese medicine believes that phobias are mostly caused by injuries caused by the seven emotions, which damage the liver, kidneys, heart and gallbladder. The phobia is mostly false, and it is judged that the opening is a symptom of insufficient essence and blood, and the non-yang qi is delayed.

Aromatic**. Aromatic plant scents are used in sleep, warm, comfortable, long-lasting, and have good patient compliance.

You can try it, the second pick, that is, when you order food, you see something, you have to be able to eat it, buy clothes, buy the first thing you see, go into the first barbershop you see, and the first hairstyle you see (there are a lot of pictures on the wall of the store), just do it, and after a while, try the second and third ...... above Yu NalingEventually, you should be in control.

Find a friend who lives informally, live together by your side, and slowly be sensitive to each other.

It's mainly a person.,There's no friends around.,Bad ideas or something.,Girls will send holes like this.。

You're not a phobia, it's obsessive-compulsive! Force your consciousness to want to do these things!

Me too, I q181820048, hope to communicate, overcome together.

Hello, choosing fear, it is obvious that there is a lack of self-confidence and a sense of evasion of responsibility, a lack of self-reliance, and a fear of failure. People suffering from this disease will have extremely difficult choices when facing choices, unable to make satisfactory choices normally, panic, panic, and even sweat when they have to make a decision among several choices, and finally cannot choose, resulting in a certain degree of fear of choice.

There are several reasons for the emergence of choice phobia:

1. Perfectionism, abnormal psychology, and blame.

Anyone with a phobia of choice is a person who is extremely perfectionist, and they are extremely demanding people - they demand that they must make a single choice, and the only choice must be the most idealized choice. It can be said that these patients also belong to the obsessive-compulsive disorder group. They tend to strive for perfection and give too much meaning to options.

2. The patient is not of sound mind.

The new generation of people who grew up in a honeypot has never made decisions for themselves, and when they encounter major life decisions, they naturally can't make their own choices, and they don't dare to tell others, so they wander in the virtual world of the Internet, eager to get secrets from them. In fact, this is also the inability to determine the most important needs of one's heart, and the inability to achieve psychological balance.

3. Fear of taking responsibility.

Some major choices may affect the trajectory of life or far-reaching social significance, which can lead to infinite anxiety for those who choose to take on the unintended social responsibilities and consequences of their choices.

4. There are too many things to choose from.

Since the invention of the modern standard production line, a large number of items have been produced, but the difference is getting smaller and smaller, which also objectively torments people's choices.

Psychiatry believes that choice phobia is actually a manifestation of self-dissatisfaction, in which patients "project" their dissatisfaction with themselves, torture themselves in disguise, and avoid facing the facts. Whether it's perfectionism or mental imperfection, it's actually a disguised reflection of self-dissatisfaction. Only by carefully analyzing the cause can the disease be eliminated in the right way.

That is, it is necessary to make a "choice" to **choose a phobia.

It's just that when choosing, I don't know which one to choose, I think about the advantages and disadvantages of this, and think about that, I hesitate, Cecilia Cheung's shopaholic is this disease.