How do you judge whether the other person is suitable for you?

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Judging from three aspects. 1. External conditions. Appearance, height, overall dress, I believe this is the first thing we see when we choose a person, everyone has their own favorite type, some people have eyes or very comfortable at a glance, the first impression is good, there is naturally the possibility of continuing to understand.

There is also another situation, which is to fall in love over time, and some people, although they are not good enough in appearance, are humorous, have a good personality or have strong work ability, and they are just as shining in life.

2. Family, economy. Family relationship and economic ability of each other, for friends who plan to get married, this question has to be mentioned, after all, love and married life are different, whether the happiness index is high, this problem accounts for at least half of the problem, of course, more importantly, if two people are firm enough, the relationship is stable, and they are willing to give everything for each other, since both people are willing to bear and work together, then these are not problems in the face of true love.

3. Whether the three views of two people are compatible.

After all, sometimes a lot of beauty is imagined by yourself, a person's appearance is suitable for you, it does not mean that your three views are also compatible, the three views (world view, outlook on life, values) are not exactly the same, but of course, they must be compatible, two people can continue, otherwise there will be various contradictions in the future.

If you want to know if the other party Lu Mingren is really suitable for you, you can't just look at the length of time two people have been together to judge, when you are together, you have these 3 feelings, which means that you love Huai and endure people!

Gives you a sense of security.

If your significant other doesn't give you enough security, you'll be prone to gains and losses, and if he's good, you may also worry about whether he'll be attracted to someone else, or whether he'll be snatched away by someone else, etc. In addition, the sense of security is mutual, and in the relationship, not only girls need security, but also boys.

The other half who makes you feel secure, no matter what he does, you will be very at ease, you don't have to worry that he will be ambiguous with other members of the opposite sex during his relationship with you, and you don't have to worry that he will abandon you, all because he gives you a sense of security, this sense of security is your trust in each other over time, so you must cherish it when you meet such a person.

Be able to be your true self.

A good other half can be allowed to be your true self, no need to pretend in front of him, the person who really loves you will tolerate you and understand you, for example, you are a very reasonable and gentle person in the eyes of outsiders, but you can be willful in front of him, even if he is occasionally unreasonable, he will tolerate you, such a person is worthy of your love, because he can tolerate you, it means that you are very important in his heart, and it also shows that he is a patient and good-tempered person, It's a very happy thing to live with such people.

Love life. If you fall in love with this person, you feel that life has become better, you start to love life and treat every little thing in life positively, it also shows that you love the right person because you have become a better version of yourself because of him. And if you are depressed every day after being with someone, sighing, complaining about this and that, and being full of negative energy, it proves that you love the wrong person.

A good lover will make you feel that the days are getting better and better, he will take you to have a healthier body and mind, if you are with each other, you feel that there is no difference between life and a person's life, or even better than the state of being single, then you must stop the loss in time, because this person is not worthy of your love.

If you are still struggling with whether you love someone or not, you can see if you have the above 3 feelings, if so, then congratulations! You really love the right person!

You have to be clear about what your goals and requirements are, so that you can know whether it is suitable or not, what you need, and go in this direction to know.

Whether the two of you have the same three views, the most important thing is whether the values are similar. This is the key factor that will determine whether or not the two of you can go on or not. With the same values, it is easier for you to understand and be considerate of each other.

In the future, I will be able to work hard in one place. Because the same values are like the same direction and goal on the way forward, so that you can go all the way, if the values are different, it will become a divergence, drifting away.

Whether your interests are similar or not, there should not be too much difference in all aspects. To put it simply, if a straight man in science and engineering and a sentimental young woman in literature and art are unlikely to go on for a long time. Because a good relationship is always based on mutual understanding and mutual understanding.

Whether you can accept each other's personality differences rather than exclude them. Because whether two people can get along for a long time depends on whether you can accept the lowest point of the other party. For example, whether a quiet and introverted person can appreciate the lively and active, rather than feeling that the other party is too crazy and unreliable.

And whether the cheerful and active person likes to be gentle and demure, and will not dislike the other party's dull and boring, etc.

Whether a person is suitable for you or not, just look at his attitude towards others, and he has already established his impression in your heart. A person who is hated by others is not stupid or introverted, but his attitude and views on things are unpleasant, and he will only treat them with negative emotions. Calling at others, disrespecting others or recognizing the fruits of others' labor is enough to see his attitude towards you in the future, and sooner or later he will reveal his true nature, it is just a matter of time.

Marrying someone to marry a virtuous person, marrying a good person, a person's character determines the height and vision of a person. No woman would like a man who has no ideals, no responsibilities, and does nothing all day long. No man would like a woman who has no self-confidence, is virtuous and virtuous, and is unkempt all day long.

This is human nature, we all want the best, and a person's character also determines the superstructure in the future. The two of them are together to make progress and improve together, and to make the best plans for a better future. Therefore, two people with similar conduct, ideals and behaviors are more likely to attract and affirm each other.

Looking at the process of getting along with two people, if you are very happy and very comfortable in the process of getting along, then it means that the other party is very suitable for you.

Judge according to the other person's lifestyle, life personality, and usual situation, and understand the other person's sense of responsibility.

If the other party is consistent with his three views, and he is more stable in his behavior, it means that the other party is suitable for him.

There are some couples like this, two people have feelings for each other, and one of them confesses and is rashly together. But because I only like the feeling, I don't take the time to understand some things about each other, which leads to constant conflicts.

Here, 10 questions have been sorted out. Before committing to a relationship, you can use these questions to learn about his past, his personality, his understanding of you, and his attitude towards relationships......

After he finished guessing some questions in this hall, you probably knew in your heart whether you should fall in love with each other or not.

1. What should a good life look like for you?

The question here is his understanding of life, and maybe you can see what your life will be like in the future. At the same time, you can see if he will: a good life, there must be you.

2. For example, what do you and I have in common?

Through this question, you can tell if he doesn't know anything about you, and see if he has superficial commonalities (hobbies) or deeper commonalities (three views).

3. What are your shortcomings, and will you correct them?

Everyone will have shortcomings, and people who can value and correct their own shortcomings will also pay attention to the differences in the relationship and deal with these differences.

4. In five minutes, tell me about your life before that?

Limiting the time and letting the other person talk about their past can help you get to know each other better, rather than just staying in the impressions you occasionally chatted with in the past.

This question can let you know what kind of existence you are in the other person's mind. That's important for you, right?

6. Tell us about the most embarrassing moment of your life?

The person who can share his most embarrassing moments with you must treat you as his own.

8. What kind of relationship do you think a romantic relationship is?

What exactly is love? It's a question that needs to be pondered, both for the other person and for yourself.

7. What do you think are the rights and obligations of both parties in love?

Learn more about the other party's views on love, and you can use this to delineate the rights and obligations of both parties, and in the future relationship process, you can follow the rules that both parties recognize.

8. If there is a quarrel in love, how should I communicate and solve it?

Even parents and children can quarrel, how can there be a relationship that doesn't have quarrels? The important thing is not to avoid an argument, but to communicate and resolve the argument after it. A good attitude will make love go further.

9. What do you think will be the reason for the breakdown of the relationship?

Anticipate what will cause your relationship to break down, and try to avoid touching those causes. If you treat it well, maybe the feelings won't disappear.

10. How would you deal with a broken relationship?

Breaking up should also be a little particular, and it is not a good thing for both parties to be entangled for too long. Take a preventive shot in advance, not to look down on the relationship, but to be responsible for the relationship between the two parties. It is a virtue not to waste each other's time.

The best way to get to know someone is to travel with them.

Traveling with your partner and engaging in some outdoor sports during the love phase have the role of acting as a "touchstone of love".

When exercising outdoors at high intensity, a person's inner instinctive "self" will be fully released, showing behaviors that are not easy to appear in daily life.

It is suggested that the test of the partner can be viewed from three aspects: before, during and after the trip.

Mountaineering, for example, is an easy option.

First of all, before you go. After making a suggestion, if the other party repeatedly "picks" and always emphasizes that it is boring and not fun, it means that this person may be too rigid and lacks interest in life;

If he always shirks it repeatedly on the grounds of "too busy at work", it means that he may care more about his own interests than love;

If the other person blindly leaves the preparation to you, such a person may be dependent, or "machismo".

On the contrary, if a person carefully examines the weather, terrain, and prepares various items before departure, and takes into account some special circumstances, such as asking you to wear a hat to protect from the sun, it means that he is a careful and thoughtful person.

Secondly, on the go. Outdoor activities are rarely smooth sailing, with bumpy roads, unbeautiful scenery, unpalatable food, and ...... accidental injuriesThese unexpected situations are a good time to test one's emotional state and resilience.

If he can face the jujube with an optimistic attitude, try to find a way to solve it, and infect the other party with positive emotions, then he must also have a sunny and cheerful character in life.

On the contrary, if he chatters endlessly, regrets and complains when encountering difficulties, then he may be short-tempered and have poor resistance to leakage and pressure.

In addition, a considerate and responsible person will be willing to take the initiative to protect each other during the event, carry things for you, hand you towels, block the way when you encounter difficult roads, chat and sing to increase fun, etc., so that you feel full of security.

Finally, after the trip. When everyone is tired, if he remembers to greet you, take the initiative to send you home, help you dismantle and tidy things, etc., it usually means that he is very attentive and cares about your feelings.

If you habitually sort out your activity expenses, experience, etc., such people are often conscientious and responsible in life, and are good at careful planning.

In addition, a few days after the fact, the other party sorted out the **, or printed it out to send you a "surprise", which shows that he is enthusiastic and generous, interesting, and likes to create "little romance".