What should I do if my colleague asks me to bring breakfast but doesn t give me the money?

Inviting someone to help bring breakfast is already a big favor. And don't give money. Such a thick-skinned colleague must not be used to it.

If this habit is formed, it will lead to two things.

1.You're a good bully! If you don't charge money for helping people bring breakfast, then you can also be bullied for other jobs;

2.It is a matter of course that you serve others. If you don't serve one day, you will become indebted.

This must not continue. Of course, it's not for you and your colleagues to tear your face. It's about skillfully rejecting colleagues.

01.Pretend to forget to buy.

There will definitely be times when you forget to buy it. So when you make him feel like he hasn't eaten breakfast on the first day, of course you'd better not eat breakfast in front of him. I said that I finished eating at home.

02.Breakfast at home.

I told my colleague that my family came recently and they were all eating breakfast at home. So recently asked a colleague to sort out the breakfast by himself. Remember, you have to have a good attitude. Don't get into trouble with him. Smile as much as you can.

03.Make it a habit not to help.

It goes on like this for up to a month, and he won't let you buy breakfast. It helped him develop the habit of buying his own breakfast. If he still brings it up, be sure to refuse. It can be said that you are inconvenient. Or coquettish and cute, you can say that you are too heavy, etc.

04.How to calculate the money.

I didn't calculate it clearly at the beginning, and I suffered a loss if I calculated it later. It depends! If in the follow-up relationship, the relationship is okay. Then knock him and invite you to eat a few times, and forget it. If the relationship is average, then you should recognize the character of a colleague. It's worth it.

In the workplace, don't go along with your colleagues. This will only make people think that you are a soft persimmon and easy to pinch. When necessary, learn to say no. It is also one of the ways to protect yourself.

In fact, the subject's problem is not difficult to solve, just ask a colleague for money. But the subject does not want to solve the problem so simply and rudely, the essence of the problem is actually to learn to refuse. If you don't bring breakfast for your colleagues, you won't have these things, and you don't have to worry about your colleagues not giving money.

But it takes courage to say no, and many people can't say no to others directly. <>

Why don't you dare to refuse?

The subject may think that the act of "refusing" will make others have a bad impression of themselves, and hope that they will have a good impression in the eyes of others.

Why learn to say no?

In the workplace, you don't say "no" when you should say no, and it will cause you a lot of trouble. At work, say "no" to work that is not within your purview. When negotiating, say "no" to terms that you can't accept.

In communication, say "no" to things that you can't promise. <

How to refuse unreasonable requests from others.

1.Try to say no.

Try to reject the other person once and see how the other person reacts? Directly told a colleague: "Because of my own reasons, I can't help him bring breakfast." "Look at how you get along.

2.Empathy.

Try to put yourself in your shoes, what would you think if you made an unreasonable request and the other person refused? Most people will think like this: "Oh, it's embarrassing to be rejected, but he may have difficulties, since he can't do it, forget it, I'll find someone else to try."

And after this person rejects you once, the next time you will be embarrassed to open up to him, because he has rejected you, and you will unconsciously think of the risk that you may have to hit another nail. "Forget it, let's find someone who can talk to me and ask for help. Then you can understand that it is not so difficult to refuse.

3.Pay attention to your attitude when you refuse.

When rejecting someone, you must have a good attitude, the tone must be soft, give the other person a beautiful step, tactfully tell him why he can't help, encourage him to cheer himself, or ask others for help.

Speaking of bringing breakfast, I think of a former colleague of mine, who likes to sleep lazily and goes to work every day, so since she doesn't have time to eat breakfast, she asks me to bring it to her every day. I took breakfast for a while, and the meal money was never given on time, and sometimes it was not given directly, and I couldn't say anything, after all, it was just a matter of a few dollars.

What makes me angry is that one morning, I got up late, and I was going to skip breakfast today, but I met her downstairs, and she told me that you bought something for me, and ran directly. I saw that the time should still be in a hurry, so I went to buy it for her, and finally I was late for work, and I was late for the morning meeting, and I was deducted a hundred, which is the company system.

After the morning meeting, she sat on a chair and had breakfast, knowing that I was late today, she didn't say anything, and she didn't give me the money for breakfast until now. Since that time, I haven't brought her anything to eat.

In the workplace, it is a daily thing for colleagues to help bring breakfast, so if you just don't give money once or twice, don't worry too much, so as not to make people feel stingy, maybe you really forget? If you are like me, you can do whatever you want, you can't rely on anyone, it's not easy for anyone to make money, you must not get used to it, otherwise you will be bullied at work. Here are a few tricks to teach you.

1.Go to the company later

Go out late every day, but make sure not to be late, step on the clock for work, so that you have a whole bunch of reasons why you haven't been able to buy him breakfast, so that a few times, the interested ones won't be looking for you, and then you are slowly resuming your routine. It's not easy for him to find fault with you, after all, you really have something, and you come to work late every day, and it's not good to buy breakfast.

2.Don't go to the company for breakfast

Generally, those who find someone to help bring food are by the way, and they are embarrassed to let people run for themselves, so quit the habit of eating breakfast in the company, so that they will not have to ask you to bring breakfast.

You can get up early every day to cook at home, or go out early for breakfast, and go to work slowly.

3.Ask him to help bring food

Pretend to be late to the company one day, tell him in advance that he may be late today, and ask him to help bring food today. If he brings it, he will eat it with peace of mind, and if he excuses it, he can run and squeeze him, and he has brought it to you so many times, and now it is not possible to let you bring it once. Later, you will have a reason to refuse him directly, and you will want to get back the previous meal money.

You can go back and forth several times, but don't make people suspicious, otherwise you will lose more than you offend.

In the workplace, some people can't get used to it, otherwise everyone will think that your soft persimmon is easy to pinch, and you must learn to refuse when you should refuse.

In fact, this problem is not a big problem, you can just ask him for money. But this method is too rough, and if the scale is not well grasped, it is likely to lead to the breakdown of the relationship between the two of you, so I believe that the subject definitely does not want to solve the problem in this way. Let's continue to analyze, in fact, the essence of this problem is that the subject is a person who is unwilling to refuse others, if you don't help your colleagues bring food, in fact, there is no such thing as not giving you money later.

But in today's society, there are many people who, like the subject, are difficult to reject others directly.

Why don't we dare to say no to others].

Because rejecting others will make others have a bad impression of you, thinking that you are a person who is not willing to help others, and people are all the same, they all want everyone to see a perfect self, so they hope that they can leave a good impression, so it is not good to meet rejection of others.

So why do we learn to say "no"].

In the workplace, we must say "no" loudly when we should refuse, which can give us a lot less unnecessary trouble. When you're working, say "no" to work that isn't in your area of responsibility so you can have more time to refine your existing solutions. When communicating, say "no" to conditions that you can't commit, so that you will not miss the appointment, and it will also make the other person feel that you are a reliable person and are more willing to cooperate with you.

So how can we tactfully refuse unreasonable requests]?

Because of my own reasons, I can't help him bring breakfast today, see what kind of reaction the other party will give you, so as to understand the other party's personality, and by the way, see what kind of way you get along. If he suddenly thinks that you are doing it on purpose, then I think you can directly make it clear to him and ask him for money directly, because he is a person who does not know how to be grateful, this kind of person, we don't need to get used to it.

If it's only once in a while your colleague doesn't give you money, there's no need to ask for it, and if it's often the case, you can find an excuse not to bring your colleague food.

Colleagues often ask you to bring him breakfast, but don't give you money, you can do this :

The first way: take the meal to the office after cooking at home. You can simply cook some meals at home and pack them to the office to eat.

If a colleague asks you to help him bring food, you can tell him miserably: "I'm sorry, I've been too poor lately, and I don't have money to eat out, so I'll cook and eat by myself in the future, don't go out to eat, see I'm so poor, settle the previous meal money", so he has no reason for you to help him bring food.

The second way: say it directly in the group or directly in the office. If you want to order takeout, you can ask a few more colleagues to order food together, and then say in the group:

Comrades, let's settle today's meal money", and then a colleague gave it to you, you said, so-and-so colleague is really fast, thank you for your cooperation, and then colleagues will give you the meal money, if that colleague still doesn't give it to you, you can directly say in the group: "So-and-so colleague, are you busy and forget, just you haven't given it to me, I'll wait for you", through some playful words, to ask him to want, he is in the way of face, he will definitely give it to you, of course, you can also say it directly in the office, you must be in the voice.

The third way: direct rejection. You help a colleague bring food, he doesn't pay for the meal, you just have to refuse very simply once, it's okay, they are embarrassed to do this, are you still embarrassed to refuse?

If he doesn't give it once or twice, it will be regarded as inviting him to dinner, and if he doesn't give the money more than three times, he will directly refuse, and said with a smile: "Settle the previous meal money, and I will help you bring it, how about it?" Isn't it a good deal?

> Fourth Way: Continue to endure. If you don't dare to say it for the sake of face, then continue to help bring food at the same time, because he is determined to let you bring food, and will not give you money for food, if you don't resist, then you can only continue to suffer silently.

It's okay to talk to your colleague directly, after all, it's very unethical for your colleague to do this, and it's also very selfish, maybe your colleague is just settled, and you're embarrassed to do it, you can just tell him directly, and there's no need to continue to bring him breakfast.

If you don't give him money, don't bring him breakfast next time, and you should take the initiative to ask him for money, because it's not voluntary, and it's what he should give.

You should refuse this colleague, don't bring him breakfast, and you can also say that you moved, you don't stop by the way, don't bring him any more breakfast.

In such a situation, I think you should also ask the other party to bring you breakfast, so that you can make up for your previous losses, and then don't give the other party money.

It's still worse when this kind of thing happens. I think it's better for us to tell him openly when this kind of thing happens, because no matter how much we try to talk about it, it doesn't seem to be good. I told him directly, "Well, you don't seem to have given me money for breakfast."

I think it's a bit easier to say it straightforwardly, and it's embarrassing for anyone to beat around the bush.

So to put it bluntly, maybe it will make things easier, and others will think that you are a person who doesn't care so much about talking, and they won't bother with you. And many times I didn't give money for breakfast, I think there is a bit of a deliberate component. For this kind of deliberate person, if you want to break the embarrassment, you have to tell him straightforwardly.

This is how the problem can be solved.

We also meet this kind of person in our ordinary life, he will always ask us to buy something for him, and then he will forget to give us money, and then many times this kind of thing will happen, and we will have no choice. Many people are faced with such a situation and have no way to know what to do. A lot of people are embarrassed to ask for money.

Indeed, this situation is very embarrassing. But we also need to know that our money is not blown by the wind, and we definitely want it back. At this time, we should still be straightforward, because he doesn't pay us back many times and doesn't treat us as friends.

So we don't have to worry about their faces. It would be better to tell him directly. And if you don't pay back the money once, you can understand it many times, but if you don't pay it back, it's really intentional.

So we should still be more direct about this kind of deliberate person, and the words will make them more clear. And then it also makes things simpler, and a lot of things can be said straightforwardly, and then it will be well solved. After going through the ordeal and we got along with him normally afterwards, there would be no problem without Bi.