When I arrived at the company, I was nervous and cramped, and I didn t know how to deal with myself,

Is this tension oppressive? Are you so nervous, timid, or even scared in other unfamiliar or stressful places? Consider seeing a doctor if you have one.

If not, that's a normal manifestation. You are only 23 years old, and your adaptability to the complexities of society and environmental pressures is limited, this kind of psychology is very normal, when you work for a long time, you will adapt. Moreover, the field is an external state, which requires people to be extroverted; Accounting is introverted, and this contrast between being in a state of excitement in the morning and being calm in the afternoon will make you have a big mental gap, so if you don't feel comfortable, you can change jobs first.

If you don't change it, you can do some quiet relaxation cues at noon to adjust your mood. In fact, this is most obvious among actors, the enthusiasm in front of the stage and the quietness behind the stage will produce a strong sense of loneliness, so there is a lot of depression in the stars. Good luck with this job soon!

Have fun!

I feel like you're in the right state and need to go for counseling.

This is a problem of psychological adjustment, which may have something to do with your personality, and what you need to do is to work hard to increase your self-confidence, which can give you a few suggestions:

2. Deep breathing method: When you feel very nervous, you will feel shortness of breath and chest tightness, at this time, take a few deep breaths, increase the amount of oxygen, and you will feel much more relaxed!

4. Build up your ability to do some exercise, which can also make you more sunny and confident!

5. Chat with friends or colleagues with strong affinity from time to time, relax, and enhance each other's feelings, so that you feel that you are not alone, with the trust and encouragement of friends, you will feel much stronger!

I hope these can help you a little, the key is to rely on yourself, learn to adjust, and the same method is suitable for you!

No, don't be afraid, you will be more and more afraid, you should take the initiative to make friends, good friends will greatly increase your confidence.

Your nervousness and insecurity may be due to the stress of life and work, which is normal. If this tension and anxiety have seriously affected your life and interpersonal relationships, you can consider a formal psychological counseling institution with rich experience and high social recognition. If you are in the Northeast, you can consider some well-known institutions in Shenyang, Jilin, and Heilongjiang, such as Qu Weijie Psychology School in Heilongjiang, which has a long history, and the expert guest of the "Psychological Interview" program is Qu Weijie.

No, the things you will do when you go to work are arranged in a notebook, arranged in advance, and all aspects are considered. It would be good to spend more days with colleagues and understand the company's situation. It's always hard to get started.

There is no need to put pressure on superiors, and there is no need to worry about not working, and do things seriously. There is a saying called being a man beforehand.

If you have just started work, you are nervous because you are not familiar with the business or are not familiar with your colleagues, and after a while, it is good to be proficient in business and work well with your colleagues. If you have been working for a few years, there is still such a situation, you have to adjust your working methods, do the most important thing every day, and decompose the work tasks in turn, in fact, everyone in the current society is very busy, as long as you do your part, others will not pay too much attention to you, you just need to relax, slowly it will be fine.

Maybe you are not fully prepared, you are well prepared, down-to-earth, and conscientious, you will not be so nervous, it will be good for a long time, it will not be so scary, don't scare yourself!

The younger brother is a salesman. When I was young, my family was not well-off. Have an inferiority complex. I feel very unconfident. When I first did it, I saw strangers shaking their hands.

But when I worked as a salesman for a while. Then he will not be afraid of strangers. And you'll mingle with them.

In the future, they will bring their friends to buy it, and they will mingle again. It's a pleasure and I love this relationship.

In fact, the reason for fear is very simple. It's that you care too much about what the other person thinks of you.

On the other hand, you think of them as your own friends. What do you say, is it necessary for them to make fun of you?

Maybe you can also deliberately say the wrong thing and see how they react, and I'm sure they'll laugh.

A lot of humorists deliberately say the wrong thing.

To be calm and more confident is very simple, practice more.

Rest assured, you will find that everyone is an ordinary person, and the other party's expectations of you are not as high as you imagined.

Ordinary people try it first, and then slowly improve.

That's it. Don't stress too much.

The reason you do this is because you expect yourself to be perfect. Too much expectation of what others will say about you.

First of all, you're not mentally handicapped. You may be a little unconfident, or you may be too afraid of your own failure. I used to be like that, though.

I didn't lose face, I didn't do something beyond the limit, it was imperfect youth, an incomplete life. I'm also a freshman in high school, and I'm going to dance on New Year's Day, but I've never danced, and although I'm nervous, I'm still willing to try. You too, in front of others, hold your head high, confidently and arrogantly express your opinions, what if you are wrong?

Give yourself psychological hints and try more!

I am a professional counselor, what you describe is a high self-esteem and very unconfident self, because you are too concerned about your own image in front of others, this is not a psychological barrier, but you need to grasp the process of your own experience, and after the process, the result will appear naturally, no need to pay attention, care is chaotic.

Well, I understand you very well. Because I used to have this experience, when I was in high school, when I was speaking to my classmates (in a formal setting), at first I was just beating a drum in my heart, maybe within five minutes, my legs began to tremble, and my voice began to tremble, and I couldn't control it. But then I met a very good Chinese teacher, and he started encouraging me to speak, you know how challenging it was, but I really did it, and after my unremitting efforts, I actually won the first prize in the speech contest of the whole school!

I think I gained a lot of confidence in the process of speaking. So first of all, this situation of yours is a sign of unconfidence, and in later life, you must seize various opportunities to express yourself, especially in public, of course, this requires you to exercise regularly.

Self-confidence is your greatest helper, believe that you are unique!

Many people in your heart are like this, not just you! The real reason is a lack of confidence. It's okay to learn to express yourself when there are a lot of people. Let's get used to it slowly!

You should look for more opportunities, talk to strangers more, take it easy when you talk, treat them as your friends and you'll be fine, when you go on stage, don't look into the eyes of the people under the stage, take it easy, and go on stage a few more times and you'll be fine.

Actually, I'm similar to you, (maybe more serious than you) but then with the encouragement of the teacher, I tried dozens of times and I was fine, which depends on my own exercise, mainly because of the introverted personality. It is also possible that you have a bit of self-esteem and are afraid of making mistakes in your speech. I'm really about the same as you, only working on my own!

It's very simple, this is actually a psychological phenomenon for most people, this is a kind of realization of lack of self-confidence, if you want to overcome this psychological difficulty, you must first make yourself confident, you can let yourself read more, the so-called belly has poetry and books. As long as you have a certain inner foundation, you are not afraid to talk to people. Even give a speech on stage.

Don't care about all obstacles, you try to cherish everything in life, to enjoy everything you want to cherish, to understand and be grateful at home, to cherish and love everything you cherish. Let go of the worries in your heart, I want to cherish but I can't do it, I want to cherish it, and so do you.

I think this is a question that everyone should have, and if you weren't nervous, I'd have to cry for myself. When I was a child, I was even more powerful, and I couldn't go out when guests came to my house. Become calm and calm, I think for a long time, for a long time, the more I have seen, I will naturally have that mentality, if you want to change immediately, I only remember which one said to go and look at China's highest mountain, deepest water, longest river, most vast land, I hope it will help you.

Try to treat strangers as friends around you, and try to find two topics for each stranger you meet. Chatting like this, you may find the feeling of knowing each other late.

It's just that the number of times you go on stage is small, there's nothing wrong with that, you're normal. If you want to solve it, you can try to speak in public more often and get used to it. Problems on stage in class, performing a small show or something. The more you take the stage, the more you get used to it.

You are similar to me! I think you should get some courage from your friends and think about what kind of person you want to be in the future.

Maybe you're not used to it, so you should try to speak in more formal settings to improve your mental fitness.

Maybe it would be better to consult a psychiatrist! Don't be afraid to spend money, so you will feel that it is worth it. Don't be embarrassed, everyone has the potential to suffer from mental illness. Keep your mind at ease.

Learn to develop your strengths and avoid weaknesses, learn to use the Tai Chi method to look at the world, and use the Tai Chi method to deal with things, so that you will naturally learn to be calm, learn self-control, learn how to treat others well, learn how to overcome rigidity with softness, and return an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth. Sometimes killing people invisibly is what you say? This is the realm.

Can't you just admit it? Whoever provokes you, you just say you can't play, you haven't played, it can still be with you? It's a big deal, there are many people, and NB has nothing to do with you.

People are nervous, the key is whether you are nervous on different occasions or always nervous regardless of the occasion, and how nervous you are. For activities such as giving a public speech, it is normal to be nervous, and taking a deep breath can relieve some of the tension. If it is a constant tension and the degree is very high, you can find a psychological counselor to consult, there are deep psychological reasons behind each behavior, and the counselor** These will help you grow better!

It's easy to be nervous in front of people. Squatting in the center of the most popular and lively market every day, observing the pedestrians coming and going, and also observing others. Guaranteed for a month to cultivate a cheeky skin.

Never be afraid again in crowded situations. Not nervous. It's like being at home.

Let's desensitize it like this. There will be no more fear of crowds and fear of society. Because you know no one can hurt you.

Or be a little teacher for your family and tell them something new and interesting. If you are accustomed to public speaking, you will treat everyone as nothing.

When I'm nervous, I take a deep breath and think about something I'm proud of haha, it will be much better, I hope it will help you!

There is a problem with your cognition, ** has passed, but you generalize your life.

Stress disorder caused by emergencies, this is for your symptoms at the beginning, but now you should just be anxious or neurotic, no big problem, consider going to a psychological clinic to see, if you need medication adjustment or psychological counseling, try to try it, there will be a good effect, come on

It is recommended that you go to the mental health department to help you with counseling, which is very effective. Otherwise, you will be depressed or suffer from other diseases after a long time.

You stomp your feet hard! Is it numb? Hemp, I'll stomp and I'll be numb!

Mental illness doctors don't look at it, the expensive ones look down on it, and the cheap ones don't treat the disease!

What about you to look at the communicative **, or articles, listen to it**, watch funny movies, people will tremble when they are nervous, when they are interviewing, when they do the wrong thing and say the wrong thing, when they walk in the group of beautiful women, when they see people who are better than themselves, in addition to nervousness, they are sweating, which is a normal reaction, but isn't it embarrassing that we are so old? So to change, try to do something that shows your face, take the initiative, life will not give a weak person like you again and again, there are many people with low self-esteem, but why are you so vulnerable?

If you can see the problem and say it, it proves that your psychological quality is still okay and there is no problem. The key is to quit internet addiction (online games) as quickly as possible, and if you are no longer in school, find a job and support yourself as much as possible. Usually communicate with your parents more, because the most intimate people with you in this world are your parents, we often say:

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world, father's love is like a mountain, and mother's love is like water. The nursery rhyme of my childhood also said: "Dad is a boat, Mom is a sail, carrying my little me to the golden ......."”

Confide your pain in your heart to your parents, and they will help you. If it is pressed in your own heart, it will crush you, and your parents will help you share it, won't it be much easier for you. However, you may feel that you can't open your mouth to your parents.

Actually, it's not a big deal, the biggest problem is to overcome yourself. You don't want to communicate with people because you have too many ideas, and if you get rid of distractions, the problem will be solved. As the old saying goes:

The sea is tolerant of all rivers, and tolerance is great; The wall stands with a thousand blades, and if there is no desire, it is rigid". Of course, it is impossible to do without desire, and there is probably no such person in this world. But to minimize desires, everyone can do it, it's up to you whether you want to or not.

If you have communication with your parents, you can go out from time to time in the future and be part of society. You can find your classmates and friends. Forget the unpleasantness of the past and get out of the shadows as soon as possible.

Stop indulging in online games. There are many things that can be done online, and there are many useful things that can be learned. The web is not a premium gaming machine.

The friend upstairs said well, "I was born to be useful." To see your own strengths, to believe in yourself, but also to overcome yourself. I think you'll be able to come out of the shadows and won't let your parents down.