Why do I always worry that I can t do well enough?

The reason is that you are too kind. So it's easy to care about other people's feelings, and thus it's easy to worry about others. Such a person is undoubtedly a good person and can show kindness to everyone, but such people are often very tired because they have an inexhaustible heart.

Many times we worry about something inexplicable, or worry about someone who doesn't know how to do it. This is all understandable, and each of us is beyond our control in the face of worry. It's just that some people care more about things, and worry more about them.

Some people care less about things, so they rarely worry about being fought.

No matter what kind of person it is, we can't say who's right and who's wrong. A person who will worry about others is a person who knows how to care about others, and he will also gain a lot of friends. But it's going to be tiring.

And a person who does not worry about people, albeit a little indifferent. But such people tend to live easily.

At this time, because you care about her so much, you will think a lot. You wonder if something happened to him. Is it a mobile phone**, or is it something else.

But in fact, he just had a dead phone.

Worry is to scare yourself with virtual risks. No amount of worry is superfluous. Because when what you're worried about doesn't happen, your worries are unnecessary.

When what you're worried about has happened, you find that what you're worried about is useless. So, don't scare yourself with those virtual risks.

Everything has to be on the bright side, but what we feared didn't happen and we were lucky. When what we feared has happened, we will find that we don't have to worry about it anymore. So it's not a good thing.

Worry that you are not good enough, there is a good side, so it is positive, the pursuit of perfection psychology, can promote yourself to do everything better, but there is also a bad side, sometimes the idea is good, but the strength is not enough, the resources are not enough, not only by their own efforts can do things perfectly, but also need more factors other than personal efforts, so after their own efforts, but also to maintain a normal heart, so that can motivate themselves to do better and better.

I always feel that I am not good enough, first of all, because you have too high requirements for yourself, you can be said to be a perfectionist, you want to be perfect in everything you do, to be the bestBut the reality is very cruel, when you do something, there will always be some other uncontrollable influences, causing you to not be as perfect as expected. That's when you feel like you're not going to do anything well, and in the long run, it can seriously hurt your self-esteem and confidence.

Secondly, the family also has a great influence on you, such a person may have lived in a strict family atmosphere since childhoodParents also have high requirements for them, so when they still do some things, in addition to carrying their parents' expectations, they also have to add additional psychological pressure and burden to themselves, which is also very detrimental to his life development. A person like this, although he looks strong on the outside, is very fragile on the inside, and once she is criticized by her parents, they will easily break down.

Always thinking that you are not good enough, in fact, it is also a sign of lack of self-confidenceThe lack of self-confidence may be due to some self-reasons or some external influences, but first of all, we should maintain a stable mentality, look at ourselves correctly, and not blindly deny ourselves. If we don't have the right mentality, no amount of effort can change the status quo.

I think people like this can relax properly and relax themselves with their own requirements and standardsDon't let yourself be in a tense state all the time, if you continue for a long time, it will definitely cause some damage to your body. No one is perfect, we can only do things as much as possible to the extreme, but after we try our best, there are still certain regrets, we can only learn to sum up experience, learn lessons, and strive to do better next time, rather than blindly reflect on and deny yourself.

This is a manifestation of lack of confidence in oneself, always thinking that what you are doing is not good, if you do that at that time, the result will not be the same, this is inferiority. In fact, everyone has advantages, don't easily deny yourself.

Ask what is the situation when you always re-wash your hands.

Dear, or you care too much about this matter, you can think about something else or do something else next time, which can distract you, remember not to think too much, believe in yourself, and give yourself enough confidence!

Ask about the cause of the epidemic, be overly afraid, always take a shower, wash your hands and disinfect it.

Do you live in a high-risk or low-risk or medium-risk area?

Or you may be afraid that you will get the virus, which is why you are causing the disease.

In fact, you are just worried about filtering the pro.

When did you get into this situation?

Maybe it's because you're too demanding on yourself, so you always feel that you're not doing well enough, but in fact, it's very likely that you've done a very good job in the eyes of others.

Maybe it's because I'm too inferior, or I have obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I always feel that I can't do anything to achieve the best.

It's because I don't have self-confidence, I don't believe in myself enough, and I don't know my efforts.

It should be that you have low self-esteem, and you should work hard to become confident and tell yourself that you are very good.

Because you may be pursuing a particularly perfect process for yourself, everyone has their own psychology, just look at the big and small in this heart, you just care about this special thing.

What's wrong with always thinking that you're not good enough?

Maybe you belong to the perfect type like me, to be confident, since you are already together, it means that you like each other, I don't know how long you have been together, if you have just been together, then you need time to slowly understand each other, if you have been together for a long time, then you have to work hard, the feelings invested in him, he can feel it, find the problem, and treat this relationship well. You have to have confidence in yourself and go out on dates often, and you have to be very active, oh Actually, he loves you and only wants you to be happy, don't put such a big burden on yourself and wish you happiness, come on.

There is no right or wrong in love itself, and feelings are often uncontrollable, and they arise unconsciously when you can't help it. If you like him, she doesn't know him, she has a family, then you are absolutely not wrong; If you didn't know that you liked him or her before, and then you know that you still keep going, then you have to think about whether you are right or wrong in doing so. If you like him and her despite knowing it, then that's not right. Put yourself in someone else's shoes, if your lover is liked by another person, what will be the result?

Actually, I think you know right or wrong in your heart, but feelings are often not easy to fade away, I believe that if you are a reasonable person, you will slowly let go of this feeling, and bless him and her. Like someone, you don't have to have it, I believe you can find happiness that truly belongs to you!

Then try to be on the good side.

When I understand that everything will not have a certain result, there will be a lot of changes, I will no longer be entangled and persistent, and I will not attach so much importance to the final result, as long as I work hard enough in the process, I will not be surprised by the result.

Everything is always in the process of continuous development and change, and the only thing we can be sure of is that nothing is 100% certain, which is the "law of impermanence".

The current job is not bad, but it seems that the improvement of personal space is a little insufficient, do you want to change jobs, but now the employment pressure is very high, alas".

I am about to face the final exam, if the exam paper is difficult, I will probably not get a high score, and the scholarship may also be lost, what should I do? ”

We often need to face some uncertain choices in life, and uncertain things are what we hate, and it can bring us anxiety. If we choose to quit our job and end up finding a job that is not as good as our current one, or if we simply can't find a job, that's what we hate.

Loss aversion also plays a role in this, and the joy of getting 100 dollars is far less than the pain of losing 100 dollars. But if you don't quit your job, you feel like you'll be in the days of "boiling frogs in warm water" forever. Under the "attack" of uncertainty, we especially like to use something certainistic, such as fortune telling, to predict the future.

Even if sometimes fortune tellers are not necessarily accurate, we feel calm at the moment when we get the results, because it gives us certainty, a certain future.

There are two reasons why we are prone to anxiety.

1.Hopefully you can control everything.

Those who are prone to anxiety often have one thing in common, and that is that they want to be completely in control of things. From an evolutionary point of view, the night is full of uncertainty, and we may encounter wild animals, freeze to death, and find ...... where we cannot find shelterThis anxiety stems from the instinct to survive and pushes us to hope for a definitive outcome. However, in front of the natural interface, human beings are very small.

When natural disasters such as shelters, tsunamis, and mudslides come, we are almost helpless, and it is impossible to control whether these things happen.

2.Can't stand uncertainty.

The reason why you feel anxious so often may be because your tolerance for uncertainty is too low. In this case, you tend to overestimate an uncertain thing - for example, the impact of Wu Zhengguo's work on you is "the sky is falling", you will underestimate your resilience after the uncertainty happens, thinking that you will most likely be knocked down because of it.